if a x told you that they misscarriged while they were with you and didnt tell, how would you fee? ( Archived) (10)

i have had this problem risently. after my x broke up with me months later she told me that she had misscarriged and i am not sure how to feel about it. suggestions?

well i know what that is like..


kinda



right after i had my second child by c-section .. i'd say at least 5 5 months later.. i joined the army.. the guy i had been dating left me... after i got to basic i had a test come back as a positive pregnancy, however i had started that time of the month right before i shipped out and it lasted 2 weeks.. they told me i had a misscarriage.. i was gone for 5 weeks and when i got home i couldnt find my ex to tell him so it was about another 3 months before i found him and told him what happened.. i was upset. he was upset.. we both had wanted a baby together.. but it was 2 soon after my c-section and physical training for the army didnt help..the test they gave me when i joined came back negative, the one they gave me the day i shipped came back negative.. wasnt untill i already lost the baby that i even knew i had been pregnant

Months later and broke up, why is the conversation necessary?

she wanted to still be friends and she wanted to tell me what happened during the time she broke up with me.

Still don't see the necessity unless the relationship was rekindled and desired attempts at pregnancy made it medically necessary knowledge.

Sorry, to my skeptical self, sounds like it was for pain infliction, undue stress, or an alterior motive of some sort.

What's done is done and when something as devastating as a miscarriage occurs, it's not a newsflash months down the road.

Maybe I'm the dunce, but if I cared in the slightest I would want to protect them from feeling that sort of pain if they weren't on a need to know basis.

Depends on whether or not you believe its true and if she matters in your life anymore. Sometimes, if not most times, some things will never be explained to your satisfaction and you just have to move on with your life. Call it an unexplained mystery if you will.
Sherry

Maybe she was afraid to say in fear of a negative response.

If she didn't tell you???