advice needed (27)

Thank you all

Im sorry that you're having such a hard time with your neighbour.the council should do somthing about it.have you gone to a local td about this .

sympathise, i've had it myself and did end up moving. cops (in london) were no help at all. even after he was arrested and fined for exposing himself it carried on. worst thing was an arson attack.

i agree though, get together with others and make HIM feel isolated. not as easy as it sounds but i hope you manage where i failed. keep us posted.

Thanks for all your advice,i think on monday i will go to the housing dept and ask for a move as i dont think i can cope with all this crap anymore 3 years is a long time and i would love to feel safe

There is one old truth: Person who cant do anything serious always shouting as much as can bc only that can do. Person who can do something serious never talk about it but just do it. You cant to afraid of this idiot. Try to dont talk with him, dont contact at all and when he say something just ignore him, only once u can tell him that after he did something u will do him the same or worst and that police is inform of everything what he is telling u. Inform police that he trying to scare u.
I had a situation that i shared house with guy and his pathology family, they were drunk every weekend and were agresive to me, once trying to get to my room, i was scared bc lot of times i heard that they will beat me or something. One day i did big big big argue, i was shouting like never before. I told him that he can be sure that if something wrong happend to me first person who will have problem with police will be him, that my friends and family knows what he is doing and they find him if it be needed. I called for garda and i was acting that reality is worst then it was:D I knew that i cant show this guy that iam afraid and i say to myself "ok im afraid but ill fight if i have to". I havnt told him that i was talking with landlord (i told landlord that i can move out but if this guy will stay in hous after 1year whole house will have to be renovated, a lot of things i just lie:D that is worst then really) and after 2 weeks this guy get information that he have to move out.
Sorry for my polish engish, i hope that u understand what i want to say

Hey happyoutin,

Sorry for your troubles. I would suggest installing CCTV cameras around your house with one pointing where your car is parked. Unless there is evidence the guards can't do much. I have had enough dealings with them to know that. I know it may be an expense but would certainly be worth it for your security.

Hope the neighbour is all talk and no action.

hi trapr

great idea if i could afford something like that i would be long gone,i know my car ant worth much but its all i have and gets me to work and the kids to school but i thank u for your advice,my sister just came and took my car over to her house so im off to bed to see if i can sleep off this rotten headace.

night all and thank you so much

night look after yourself

Hi
am appalled at this story! I think it is all very well to say stand up to him but I would advise extreme caution. He sounds like a very aggressive angry man and personally I wouldn't dream of agrguing back with him. I would probably try reasoning and apologise for car on pavement and tell him calmly there is no where else to park it, but sorry for inconvenience etc. I must say if you have the chance to move you should take it.... after all it is you and kids against some violent lunatic. In the meanwhile you are right to park at your sisters and not aggravate him further.
I think the advice given here to keep calling the police is wise and if you call them enough times in fear they should do something (shouldn't they????) is that not what they are paid for

but best of luck to you and be safe and try and get away from this bully - leave the bravado stuff to someone else ......

This is assault of sorts I would log the complaint with the Gardai and also contact the Council and lodge a complaint with them. It is antisocial behaviour and most Councils take it seriously they usually have a section dealing with it.

I dont see why you should have to leave your home you're not the problem.