what would you do if...? (26)

your right Puggle

Family will understand you will follow your heart

but if theres children involved



i would not leave my Children

same to you leelou,,,and wish ur friend good luck from us

Will do.

One of them sooner or later will have to take a decision to relocate... if they really want to be together. Relationship between the couple who live so far away cannot move on if they cannot see each other. With time it can break up, even marriages split up when a person works in another country! How can you get to know the person you love if you can't spend time together! Via internet you will not find out if the partner is right for you. And who said you must look for a dream job???!!! Everybody would like to do a job like that but for many of us it only remains a dream!!!! Anyway, usually financial factor wins in the end as far as work is concerned.

As to these couple, they should ask themselves what is really important for them in life and they should not be afraid of taking chances. The Americans say: "God help those who help themselves". They should take the bull by the horn and start any action and then see what happens. And mistakes are natural in life. If they don't try to live together in one country and one city they will never find out if their love is true!

The person who should move to another country should be the one that has better job perspectives; it would be pointless to leave your country in the name of love and then go somewhere else and earn much less. Or they might choose the country to live where they both could have good job prospects! Compromise is important here...

Great post

Thanx!!!!

I think there is something wrong there, if shes not talking to him now

As you know Sue and I live the other side of the world to each other, I can not leave NZ and she does not want to leave Ireland, we make it work. Relationships are work and thats what we do, we travel a lot to each other and to half way between places, we make sacrifices and dont mind.

they dont have to move country, let the relationship continue as they are, webcam, email, phone, and when you meet fireworks :Grin:

But if shes not speaking to him for any reason I would worry.

Hi Ecowarrior,
I know, it sounds strange to me to!!! But I guess for some people a long distant relationship would be hard for them. I got the feeling that she probably thinks that she is not worth enough for him to quit his job to be with her. It's maybe just low self esteem and she thinks better to stop it all instead of being hurt later.

cheers

My thoughts exactly! First things first before everyone starts dropping jobs and relocating .... .have they actually met yet? Sorry for being so blunt but have to be realistic here too! Internet love isn't alway real! (btw speaking from experience of being badly played on here!!!)

After the initial getting to know you people should really stop jumping to the end scene without ever meeting. Only thing that saved me on the playing stakes was I never made that assumption and that even though I did have feelings its wasn't a definite thing without meeting someone because I have the intelligence to know the mind can create that perfect fantasy that can make online seem far sweeter!

After meeting then yes again the internet is a great way to stay in touch until the next meeting and then the next, etc ..... THEN and only then should the likes of relocating be considered ... JMO!