So Disappointed (49)
sassy49senior: Just found out this guy from another site is interested in
me and wants to start chatting on a regular basis. He is
53 and seems like such a sweet man. Only one problem, and
I really don't like to say problem, but lack of a better
word. He has a 9 year old daughter that he has sole custody
of. I love children, so don't get me wrong there. But I
just know after raising mine I can't do that again. It
says it in my profile but maybe he thought I did not want
babies. I need to go back in about an hour and let him
know. Just hurts to wait like I have and then have to say
no. But I feel I need to be honest right from the start.
What would you do?
me and wants to start chatting on a regular basis. He is
53 and seems like such a sweet man. Only one problem, and
I really don't like to say problem, but lack of a better
word. He has a 9 year old daughter that he has sole custody
of. I love children, so don't get me wrong there. But I
just know after raising mine I can't do that again. It
says it in my profile but maybe he thought I did not want
babies. I need to go back in about an hour and let him
know. Just hurts to wait like I have and then have to say
no. But I feel I need to be honest right from the start.
What would you do?
WWJD.........
Sassy.........Honesty is always the best policy so I would voice your concerns but I would also not see that as necessarily being a block to you and him 'gettin it on'........
Maybe he wants no assistance in raisin her.......
Maybe you will grow to love her as your own......
Go for it Gal and see what demands this will place on you..
It might not be as bad as you think......
Everyone you will meet will hav baggage........its just his may turn out to be a blessing.......
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vinny1967: WWJD.........
Sassy.........Honesty is always the best policy so I would voice your concerns but I would also not see that as necessarily being a block to you and him 'gettin it on'........
Maybe he wants no assistance in raisin her.......
Maybe you will grow to love her as your own......
Go for it Gal and see what demands this will place on you..
It might not be as bad as you think......
Everyone you will meet will hav baggage........its just his may turn out to be a blessing.......
Sassy.........Honesty is always the best policy so I would voice your concerns but I would also not see that as necessarily being a block to you and him 'gettin it on'........
Maybe he wants no assistance in raisin her.......
Maybe you will grow to love her as your own......
Go for it Gal and see what demands this will place on you..
It might not be as bad as you think......
Everyone you will meet will hav baggage........its just his may turn out to be a blessing.......
Vinny thank you. The thing is I have 3 teen age grandkids and
they have so much going on that just blows my mind. Also, I
will not lie, in the back of my mind I have this little fear
of getting with him and maybe not working out. At this stage
in my life I am really hoping to find a lifelong committment.
Just seems he has all the qualities I am looking for.
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sassy49senior: Vinny thank you. The thing is I have 3 teen age grandkids and
they have so much going on that just blows my mind. Also, I
will not lie, in the back of my mind I have this little fear
of getting with him and maybe not working out. At this stage
in my life I am really hoping to find a lifelong committment.
Just seems he has all the qualities I am looking for.
Then give him a chance , what's the harm in a few dates at least, knowing in the beginning what you know.they have so much going on that just blows my mind. Also, I
will not lie, in the back of my mind I have this little fear
of getting with him and maybe not working out. At this stage
in my life I am really hoping to find a lifelong committment.
Just seems he has all the qualities I am looking for.
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mylifewithu: Then give him a chance , what's the harm in a few dates at least, knowing in the beginning what you know.
I mean how you feel. Fear has it's ways of helping us to find excuses to avoid people so watch out for fear holding you back.
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sassy49senior: Vinny thank you. The thing is I have 3 teen age grandkids and
they have so much going on that just blows my mind. Also, I
will not lie, in the back of my mind I have this little fear
of getting with him and maybe not working out. At this stage
in my life I am really hoping to find a lifelong committment.
Just seems he has all the qualities I am looking for.
they have so much going on that just blows my mind. Also, I
will not lie, in the back of my mind I have this little fear
of getting with him and maybe not working out. At this stage
in my life I am really hoping to find a lifelong committment.
Just seems he has all the qualities I am looking for.
Putting barriers up at this early stage is not healthy IMO Sassy
I completely understand your concerns but time has a habit of creeping up on us and in no time she could be gone.....
If I were you hon, I would voice my concerns, tell him how you feel about him, see his response and take it from there. He may say forget it and he may say sure its nothin we cant work out.
I don't see it as being something you cant work out.....
JMO and you know I'm speakin from the heart.....
Whatever you do I wish you well
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mylifewithu: I mean how you feel. Fear has it's ways of helping us to find excuses to avoid people so watch out for fear holding you back.
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There are more sites? Go for it sassy,,while she still thinks adults are intelligent 
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vinny1967: WWJD.........
Sassy.........Honesty is always the best policy so I would voice your concerns but I would also not see that as necessarily being a block to you and him 'gettin it on'........
Maybe he wants no assistance in raisin her.......
Maybe you will grow to love her as your own......
Go for it Gal and see what demands this will place on you..
It might not be as bad as you think......
Everyone you will meet will hav baggage........its just his may turn out to be a blessing.......
Sassy.........Honesty is always the best policy so I would voice your concerns but I would also not see that as necessarily being a block to you and him 'gettin it on'........
Maybe he wants no assistance in raisin her.......
Maybe you will grow to love her as your own......
Go for it Gal and see what demands this will place on you..
It might not be as bad as you think......
Everyone you will meet will hav baggage........its just his may turn out to be a blessing.......
agree...and he is not asking you to be the momma of the child is he???? YOU never know if it will workout for the better or worse if you not willing to try... Some of the greatest accomplishments in life are done by and from people out of their comfort zone
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In response to: Just found out this guy from another site is interested in
me and wants to start chatting on a regular basis. He is
53 and seems like such a sweet man. Only one problem, and
I really don't like to say problem, but lack of a better
word. He has a 9 year old daughter that he has sole custody
of. I love children, so don't get me wrong there. But I
just know after raising mine I can't do that again. It
says it in my profile but maybe he thought I did not want
babies. I need to go back in about an hour and let him
know. Just hurts to wait like I have and then have to say
no. But I feel I need to be honest right from the start.
What would you do?
me and wants to start chatting on a regular basis. He is
53 and seems like such a sweet man. Only one problem, and
I really don't like to say problem, but lack of a better
word. He has a 9 year old daughter that he has sole custody
of. I love children, so don't get me wrong there. But I
just know after raising mine I can't do that again. It
says it in my profile but maybe he thought I did not want
babies. I need to go back in about an hour and let him
know. Just hurts to wait like I have and then have to say
no. But I feel I need to be honest right from the start.
What would you do?
Hi Sassy if it were me I would be honest and let him no and work from there..But if you really feel you and him might connect then just do as your heart feels if he should be mister right im sure you and the daughter would get along fine as you are great with kids..JMO------ This thread is Archived ------
Tater: agree...
and he is not asking you to be the momma of the child is he???? YOU never know if it will workout for the better or worse if you not willing to try... Some of the greatest accomplishments in life are done by and from people out of their comfort zone
and he is not asking you to be the momma of the child is he???? YOU never know if it will workout for the better or worse if you not willing to try... Some of the greatest accomplishments in life are done by and from people out of their comfort zone
Tater, I did that over 2 years ago, very much out of my comfort
zone when I gave up all my things and moved in with Nick.
Now I am back to starting to feel good about my life, but
you know being a single Dad, kids need a lot of attention.
I guess I will just be up front and honest and let him know
I am a little apprehensive. Then see where it goes.
I appreciate all of you helping me here as you know when
it comes to friends we have to be there for each other.
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sassy49senior: Tater, I did that over 2 years ago, very much out of my comfort
zone when I gave up all my things and moved in with Nick.
Now I am back to starting to feel good about my life, but
you know being a single Dad, kids need a lot of attention.
I guess I will just be up front and honest and let him know
I am a little apprehensive. Then see where it goes.
I appreciate all of you helping me here as you know when
it comes to friends we have to be there for each other.
zone when I gave up all my things and moved in with Nick.
Now I am back to starting to feel good about my life, but
you know being a single Dad, kids need a lot of attention.
I guess I will just be up front and honest and let him know
I am a little apprehensive. Then see where it goes.
I appreciate all of you helping me here as you know when
it comes to friends we have to be there for each other.
Do what you feel most comfortable with, and GOOD LUCK..
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A_Smile_4u: Hi Sassy if it were me I would be honest and let him no and work from there..But if you really feel you and him might connect then just do as your heart feels if he should be mister right im sure you and the daughter would get along fine as you are great with kids..JMO
Hi Sis, Thank you, he is so darn nice, wish you were here
right now so we could have one of our sister to sister
crying chats.
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sassy49senior: Tater, I did that over 2 years ago, very much out of my comfort
zone when I gave up all my things and moved in with Nick.
Now I am back to starting to feel good about my life, but
you know being a single Dad, kids need a lot of attention.
I guess I will just be up front and honest and let him know
I am a little apprehensive. Then see where it goes.
I appreciate all of you helping me here as you know when
it comes to friends we have to be there for each other.
Sweetie you can date him for 6 months or a year or whatever it is. Just don't go moving again Until you are sure.zone when I gave up all my things and moved in with Nick.
Now I am back to starting to feel good about my life, but
you know being a single Dad, kids need a lot of attention.
I guess I will just be up front and honest and let him know
I am a little apprehensive. Then see where it goes.
I appreciate all of you helping me here as you know when
it comes to friends we have to be there for each other.
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sassy49senior: Just found out this guy from another site is interested in
me and wants to start chatting on a regular basis. He is
53 and seems like such a sweet man. Only one problem, and
I really don't like to say problem, but lack of a better
word. He has a 9 year old daughter that he has sole custody
of. I love children, so don't get me wrong there. But I
just know after raising mine I can't do that again. It
says it in my profile but maybe he thought I did not want
babies. I need to go back in about an hour and let him
know. Just hurts to wait like I have and then have to say
no. But I feel I need to be honest right from the start.
What would you do?
me and wants to start chatting on a regular basis. He is
53 and seems like such a sweet man. Only one problem, and
I really don't like to say problem, but lack of a better
word. He has a 9 year old daughter that he has sole custody
of. I love children, so don't get me wrong there. But I
just know after raising mine I can't do that again. It
says it in my profile but maybe he thought I did not want
babies. I need to go back in about an hour and let him
know. Just hurts to wait like I have and then have to say
no. But I feel I need to be honest right from the start.
What would you do?
No question about it...
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mylifewithu: Sweetie you can date him for 6 months or a year or whatever it is. Just don't go moving again Until you are sure.
There is a great idea... Use him and throw him away..
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HJFinAZ: There is a great idea... Use him and throw him away..
no one said to do that. He sure would n't want her moving either until she was sure.
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mylifewithu: no one said to do that. He sure would n't want her moving either until she was sure.
It was only a suggestion..
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HJFinAZ: It was only a suggestion..
It wasn't a good one.
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HJFinAZ: It was only a suggestion..
T/Y HJ, Moved in with Nick after 2 weeks so I know what
Lela means. Will just have to go much slower this time
and I am sure this one does not want to move real fast.
I must now go over there and chat with him for a short
time. Thanks so much everyone. I will be coming back
and see if I have more advice.
Will also let you know how things are going.
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Just found out this guy from another site is interested in
me and wants to start chatting on a regular basis. He is
53 and seems like such a sweet man. Only one problem, and
I really don't like to say problem, but lack of a better
word. He has a 9 year old daughter that he has sole custody
of. I love children, so don't get me wrong there. But I
just know after raising mine I can't do that again. It
says it in my profile but maybe he thought I did not want
babies. I need to go back in about an hour and let him
know. Just hurts to wait like I have and then have to say
no. But I feel I need to be honest right from the start.
What would you do?