Staying Online Instead of the Real World?? (11)
petalbabe: Something that I think, from my own perspective, and also from reading other people's posts, that it is sometimes easier to stay on a site like this and "hide" to a degree, rather than head out into the un-cyber world.
Alot of members contact/get contacted by another member, and there seems to be a connection, but then the "What Ifs..Will He/She..?", come in. Its almost like we are worried about taking that actual step into relality dating, and are just looking for an excuse not to pursue it. Think about something too long, and get too much advice, and there is always a reason for backing out. I myself have done it in the past - no more now tho, life is too short. Id rather have a disaster than nothing at all. Makes life interesting!!
Wondered what other people's opinions and experiences were?
Alot of members contact/get contacted by another member, and there seems to be a connection, but then the "What Ifs..Will He/She..?", come in. Its almost like we are worried about taking that actual step into relality dating, and are just looking for an excuse not to pursue it. Think about something too long, and get too much advice, and there is always a reason for backing out. I myself have done it in the past - no more now tho, life is too short. Id rather have a disaster than nothing at all. Makes life interesting!!
Wondered what other people's opinions and experiences were?
PS - I also think sites can be used as "Comfort Zones". It is possible to stay on one too long, I think, just because its easier..
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petalbabe: PS - I also think sites can be used as "Comfort Zones". It is possible to stay on one too long, I think, just because its easier..
I think there is a lot of truth in that... and a lot of wisdom!!
Well, my time has come...!!
Luvs ya.... you know who you are!!
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u are so right when u think about every thing we do in life is a risk one way or another.
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Date locally, meet within a month tops. I prefer to meet IRL within a week.
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I need to hide more...
Been rough in the real dating world.
I think you are right...better to have love and lost....
Been rough in the real dating world.
I think you are right...better to have love and lost....
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mbcasey: I need to hide more...
Been rough in the real dating world.
I think you are right...better to have love and lost....
I have to agree with that.Been rough in the real dating world.
I think you are right...better to have love and lost....
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petalbabe: PS - I also think sites can be used as "Comfort Zones". It is possible to stay on one too long, I think, just because its easier..
I believe sometimes that can be true for some but not for me.
I used to spend an awful lot of time in the cyber world so to speak but now that I have my own home based business I don't spend quite as much time on websites as I used to.
As far as for dating etc I'm not ready yet to do that.I chat with someone from this site and reply to some threads but as far a romance not as yet.
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I'm spending less time on here. I've found someone that I really care about.
I still enjoy the banter though.
I still enjoy the banter though.
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petalbabe: Something that I think, from my own perspective, and also from reading other people's posts, that it is sometimes easier to stay on a site like this and "hide" to a degree, rather than head out into the un-cyber world.
Alot of members contact/get contacted by another member, and there seems to be a connection, but then the "What Ifs..Will He/She..?", come in. Its almost like we are worried about taking that actual step into relality dating, and are just looking for an excuse not to pursue it. Think about something too long, and get too much advice, and there is always a reason for backing out. I myself have done it in the past - no more now tho, life is too short. Id rather have a disaster than nothing at all. Makes life interesting!!
Wondered what other people's opinions and experiences were?
Alot of members contact/get contacted by another member, and there seems to be a connection, but then the "What Ifs..Will He/She..?", come in. Its almost like we are worried about taking that actual step into relality dating, and are just looking for an excuse not to pursue it. Think about something too long, and get too much advice, and there is always a reason for backing out. I myself have done it in the past - no more now tho, life is too short. Id rather have a disaster than nothing at all. Makes life interesting!!
Wondered what other people's opinions and experiences were?
I've had several dates over the years from online dating...one guy I dated for a few months before it broke up, before my last marriage. My recent ones have only lasted a date or two. I'm just having trouble finding one that I can connect with that way...though there is one I met on another site about a year ago that I'm still friends with now. All of those have been local. Haven't met anyone in person yet from forums...few are close enough, and most that are, are female, so that would be friends getting together, but not a date.
Anyway, I'd move it to real as soon as possible because everything can seem wonderful online, and even on the phone, but not be as good when you meet. I'd like to know about that as soon as possible.
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petalbabe: Something that I think, from my own perspective, and also from reading other people's posts, that it is sometimes easier to stay on a site like this and "hide" to a degree, rather than head out into the un-cyber world.
Alot of members contact/get contacted by another member, and there seems to be a connection, but then the "What Ifs..Will He/She..?", come in. Its almost like we are worried about taking that actual step into relality dating, and are just looking for an excuse not to pursue it. Think about something too long, and get too much advice, and there is always a reason for backing out. I myself have done it in the past - no more now tho, life is too short. Id rather have a disaster than nothing at all. Makes life interesting!!
Wondered what other people's opinions and experiences were?
It's why I go to several sites, And have met about a dozen men from the other place. None were right, But we did click in mail. Oh well.Alot of members contact/get contacted by another member, and there seems to be a connection, but then the "What Ifs..Will He/She..?", come in. Its almost like we are worried about taking that actual step into relality dating, and are just looking for an excuse not to pursue it. Think about something too long, and get too much advice, and there is always a reason for backing out. I myself have done it in the past - no more now tho, life is too short. Id rather have a disaster than nothing at all. Makes life interesting!!
Wondered what other people's opinions and experiences were?
And two I found here, one I moved in with for 5 months and it fell apart. And another that changed his mind about moving.
So I do take my virtual world into the reality. I have had many great and bad dates because of it. It's given me a life. In the real world unless you go to a bar, not many men approach women anymore, like at the store or laundry mat.
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Alot of members contact/get contacted by another member, and there seems to be a connection, but then the "What Ifs..Will He/She..?", come in. Its almost like we are worried about taking that actual step into relality dating, and are just looking for an excuse not to pursue it. Think about something too long, and get too much advice, and there is always a reason for backing out. I myself have done it in the past - no more now tho, life is too short. Id rather have a disaster than nothing at all. Makes life interesting!!
Wondered what other people's opinions and experiences were?