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dreamAngel70out side Kilkenny city, Kilkenny Ireland87 Threads 6 Polls 2,187 Postsi know this lady, she single with no kids, she's in her late 30's, but love kids, she thinking about foster a young child, what do u think? have u done it? any good advice, i will email her soon! 
dreamAngel70: i know this lady, she single with no kids, she's in her late 30's, but love kids, she thinking about foster a young child, what do u think? have u done it? any good advice, i will email her soon!
I would love to do that myself but working all day dont know how that would work and then having to hand them back to their parents after building up a bond with them would be a killer.
ladylumps: I would love to do that myself but working all day dont know how that would work and then having to hand them back to their parents after building up a bond with them would be a killer.
you have have long terms, more than 3 yrs or short short, or day care! u also get pay for looking after them, more than 300 euros a week, for helping themdreamAngel70: i know this lady, she single with no kids, she's in her late 30's, but love kids, she thinking about foster a young child, what do u think? have u done it? any good advice, i will email her soon!
A friend of my mam's done this for years with many different kids she has seen it all from the badly abused to cocaine addicted 3 week old babies... She needs to have a thick skin going in to it because it won't be easy..
Just on another note it is said to be the a very rewarding thing to do and be it only for a few months she'll have them she is protecting them and keeping them safe from whatever horrors they have seen in their short lives..
I say go for it.........
I would love to foster. Have wanted to do it for as long as I can remember.
It is not easy to get approved. My elder sister fostered a little boy from Kazakhstan who was here for treatment for Spina Bifida..They ended up adopting him.
My younger sis is going through the assessment process right now.
I enquired about it 2 years ago but was told I would be unlikely to be approved while I am working full-time. Even if I went part-time or even gave up work being single would also go against me.
It is not easy to get approved. My elder sister fostered a little boy from Kazakhstan who was here for treatment for Spina Bifida..They ended up adopting him.
My younger sis is going through the assessment process right now.
I enquired about it 2 years ago but was told I would be unlikely to be approved while I am working full-time. Even if I went part-time or even gave up work being single would also go against me.
wexlady41: I would love to foster. Have wanted to do it for as long as I can remember.
It is not easy to get approved. My elder sister fostered a little boy from Kazakhstan who was here for treatment for Spina Bifida..They ended up adopting him.
My younger sis is going through the assessment process right now.
I enquired about it 2 years ago but was told I would be unlikely to be approved while I am working full-time. Even if I went part-time or even gave up work being single would also go against me.
that bad, if u were single? and u want to help out! and care for someone?It is not easy to get approved. My elder sister fostered a little boy from Kazakhstan who was here for treatment for Spina Bifida..They ended up adopting him.
My younger sis is going through the assessment process right now.
I enquired about it 2 years ago but was told I would be unlikely to be approved while I am working full-time. Even if I went part-time or even gave up work being single would also go against me.
dreamAngel70: that bad, if u were single? and u want to help out! and care for someone?
Doesn't mean single person won't ever get approved..but if there is a choice they will choose a couple.
dreamAngel70: i know this lady, she single with no kids, she's in her late 30's, but love kids, she thinking about foster a young child, what do u think? have u done it? any good advice, i will email her soon!
1. She has to have a stable life
2. She must be stable within herself and be able to care for herself first before caring for such a vulnerable child.
3. She needs be open minded about that children she will come across
4. She needs to be non-judgmental about that childs family
5. She needs to take the Rose Tinted Glasses view of the job off, it is very hard work, sometimes rewarding, sometimes not
6. Face the reality of what these children experience and be able to deal with it.
7. Can she deal with a child who makes a disclosure or behaves in such a way that she/society are uncomfortable with
She needs to think long and hard about this, for once that child is inside those doors, she will impact on them good or bad, depending on how capable she is. One can damage, the other can possibly help that child.
Its not something she should get into lightly and more importantly...forget the money, no matter how good it is, Fostering impacts on the child for the rest of their life. She will have to make decision that affect that child..can she live with them if they are the wrong decisions
TurkishDelight: 1. She has to have a stable life
2. She must be stable within herself and be able to care for herself first before caring for such a vulnerable child.
3. She needs be open minded about that children she will come across
4. She needs to be non-judgmental about that childs family
5. She needs to take the Rose Tinted Glasses view of the job off, it is very hard work, sometimes rewarding, sometimes not
6. Face the reality of what these children experience and be able to deal with it.
7. Can she deal with a child who makes a disclosure or behaves in such a way that she/society are uncomfortable with
She needs to think long and hard about this, for once that child is inside those doors, she will impact on them good or bad, depending on how capable she is. One can damage, the other can possibly help that child.
Its not something she should get into lightly and more importantly...forget the money, no matter how good it is, Fostering impacts on the child for the rest of their life. She will have to make decision that affect that child..can she live with them if they are the wrong decisions
2. She must be stable within herself and be able to care for herself first before caring for such a vulnerable child.
3. She needs be open minded about that children she will come across
4. She needs to be non-judgmental about that childs family
5. She needs to take the Rose Tinted Glasses view of the job off, it is very hard work, sometimes rewarding, sometimes not
6. Face the reality of what these children experience and be able to deal with it.
7. Can she deal with a child who makes a disclosure or behaves in such a way that she/society are uncomfortable with
She needs to think long and hard about this, for once that child is inside those doors, she will impact on them good or bad, depending on how capable she is. One can damage, the other can possibly help that child.
Its not something she should get into lightly and more importantly...forget the money, no matter how good it is, Fostering impacts on the child for the rest of their life. She will have to make decision that affect that child..can she live with them if they are the wrong decisions
Absolutely spot on TD.
She has to be in it for the child or children...not for the money. And she has to be a very strong person. Children in foster care are suffering and dealing with trauma to some level. If they weren't they would not be in foster care.
TurkishDelight: 1. She has to have a stable life
2. She must be stable within herself and be able to care for herself first before caring for such a vulnerable child.
3. She needs be open minded about that children she will come across
4. She needs to be non-judgmental about that childs family
5. She needs to take the Rose Tinted Glasses view of the job off, it is very hard work, sometimes rewarding, sometimes not
6. Face the reality of what these children experience and be able to deal with it.
7. Can she deal with a child who makes a disclosure or behaves in such a way that she/society are uncomfortable with
She needs to think long and hard about this, for once that child is inside those doors, she will impact on them good or bad, depending on how capable she is. One can damage, the other can possibly help that child.
Its not something she should get into lightly and more importantly...forget the money, no matter how good it is, Fostering impacts on the child for the rest of their life. She will have to make decision that affect that child..can she live with them if they are the wrong decisions
2. She must be stable within herself and be able to care for herself first before caring for such a vulnerable child.
3. She needs be open minded about that children she will come across
4. She needs to be non-judgmental about that childs family
5. She needs to take the Rose Tinted Glasses view of the job off, it is very hard work, sometimes rewarding, sometimes not
6. Face the reality of what these children experience and be able to deal with it.
7. Can she deal with a child who makes a disclosure or behaves in such a way that she/society are uncomfortable with
She needs to think long and hard about this, for once that child is inside those doors, she will impact on them good or bad, depending on how capable she is. One can damage, the other can possibly help that child.
Its not something she should get into lightly and more importantly...forget the money, no matter how good it is, Fostering impacts on the child for the rest of their life. She will have to make decision that affect that child..can she live with them if they are the wrong decisions
Very well said. On the decision making, even those made for yur biological kids you have to live with it whether right or wrong and then be told 20 years later if you hadnt decided this or had you made this decision or its all your fault. Thats life and i have respect for anyone going into this.
gussi: Very well said. On the decision making, even those made for yur biological kids you have to live with it whether right or wrong and then be told 20 years later if you hadnt decided this or had you made this decision or its all your fault. Thats life and i have respect for anyone going into this.
Hi Gus Welcome to Ireland It can be scary...the decisons we make for our children..the right schools etc can make all the difference 20 years later
When it comes to Fostering it becomes a whole new ball game alltogether. The lady above would have to reflect on their life honestly and see if they are capable of making decisions that impact on another, particulary when it is not their child.
She needs to consider her past, the decisions she has made...what direction her life took her to the point she is at now. This will ALL impact on the child she brings into her home.
For the OP..read some of Nacy Thomas..then she will get an idea of what lies ahead of her. Forget that Tory Hayden crap..it romantizes the job ahead of her
I am currently awaiting approval to foster a friend of my daughters, she is 13,she was abused by a neighbour and her folks have taken his side.... the poor child is screaming for help and has pleaded with me to let her live with me but I legally cant at the moment.
TurkishDelight: Hi Gus Welcome to Ireland
It can be scary...the decisons we make for our children..the right schools etc can make all the difference 20 years later
When it comes to Fostering it becomes a whole new ball game alltogether. The lady above would have to reflect on their life honestly and see if they are capable of making decisions that impact on another, particulary when it is not their child.
She needs to consider her past, the decisions she has made...what direction her life took her to the point she is at now. This will ALL impact on the child she brings into her home.
For the OP..read some of Nacy Thomas..then she will get an idea of what lies ahead of her. Forget that Tory Hayden crap..it romantizes the job ahead of her
It can be scary...the decisons we make for our children..the right schools etc can make all the difference 20 years later
When it comes to Fostering it becomes a whole new ball game alltogether. The lady above would have to reflect on their life honestly and see if they are capable of making decisions that impact on another, particulary when it is not their child.
She needs to consider her past, the decisions she has made...what direction her life took her to the point she is at now. This will ALL impact on the child she brings into her home.
For the OP..read some of Nacy Thomas..then she will get an idea of what lies ahead of her. Forget that Tory Hayden crap..it romantizes the job ahead of her
Hi TD
also very well said, as i said i have the utmost respect for her and those who foster .these unfortunate children who are in a situation through no fault of their own.
vonney: I am currently awaiting approval to foster a friend of my daughters, she is 13,she was abused by a neighbour and her folks have taken his side.... the poor child is screaming for help and has pleaded with me to let her live with me but I legally cant at the moment.
Is she still in that household?
TurkishDelight: Is she still in that household?
Have mailed you hun,
vonney: I am currently awaiting approval to foster a friend of my daughters, she is 13,she was abused by a neighbour and her folks have taken his side.... the poor child is screaming for help and has pleaded with me to let her live with me but I legally cant at the moment.
I dont want to sound pessimistic, but my gut feeling says trouble cold be round the corner wit this one.
gussi: I dont want to sound pessimistic, but my gut feeling says trouble cold be round the corner wit this one.
Maybe so but I have to do what my conciences tells me to regarding the child. I see myself in her eyes, I have been there.
vonney: Maybe so but I have to do what my conciences tells me to regarding the child. I see myself in her eyes, I have been there.
Please dont get me wrong Vonney, I can only speak admiration for you or anyone who makes this decision, absolutely. My little bit of doubt came where you mentioned it was a friendof your daughters. I was only thinking it might be (the socalled parents)
maybe to close too home.
gussi: I dont want to sound pessimistic, but my gut feeling says trouble cold be round the corner wit this one.
In what way
Sometimes if adults took a step back and saw through a childs eye what the world was truly like...what do you think we would see
Maybe just maybe we have to go out on a limb for a child now and then
I oftern wondered when you hear local folks condemning a child, you know the kid, he is in all corners of the world, the child who has the dirty raggedy wee way about him. The one that looks like trouble.
The kid who tries and tries his best to fit in yet never manages to do so. The kids who steals...the kid who breaks into buildings........
That kid may be starving and in need of shelter, that kid maybe in need of someone to, just for once say, "Hey you are a good kid", that kid for once may need someone to see past the dirt and lice and see that lovely wee face unserneath, that kid may need a hug that he has never been given without having to pay a very big price for....
Sometimes all it is......is just once...that can make all the difference
gussi: Please dont get me wrong Vonney, I can only speak admiration for you or anyone who makes this decision, absolutely. My little bit of doubt came where you mentioned it was a friendof your daughters. I was only thinking it might be (the socalled parents)
maybe to close too home.
maybe to close too home.
I do realise what you mean, but I know what its like to be in the childs shoes and I will do what I can to help that child realise that she is not alone.
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