Is that what you really want, a lot of women say they want that but rather be with a user and abuser, one who let you feel both the short and long hand then turns around and say baby damn."I never Meant to hurt yaaa" NOw if they never learnd their lession they still talking they never gonna leave him because they gonna miss him. miss what the back slap or the tina turner. cause if she did not learn from that episode, when? yes when?…the question is when will she ever learn, the abuse is a never ending cycle. whether its him or her beating on you physically or verbally, because words have power. the power of the tongue is truly a two edge sword, the bible told me so. ones tongue can either lift you up or tear you down. depending on one state of mind because if you think a person loves you by the amount of abuse you get then honey, darling you in for a rude awakening. ooh you say it is hard and it is complicated and that you still love him well you been worned. the harsh reality will soon catch up to you as all the good men such as myself..yea i said it .. I am a dam good man, but you could not see that ooh no not you. you still stuck in the past, remember the time he cheated on you, yea he did. you blamed yourself, you thought you was not good enough now it's momboooo jumbo thinking like that, which got you still stuck. how about when he always put you down. instead of you standing up for yourself , you accepted the mental abuse, even got you almost believing his lies. hmmm, now that i think of it you believed everything he told you, to the point you don't know a good man when he is right in front of your eyes... and you got some nerve to say you want REal L.O.V.E , let me educate you my sister, love is kind, love trust each other. love is gentle love understanding, love is patient, love is being able to up lifts each other, love is know that you got each other back, now even though in any relationship disagreements occur, it the way both parties go about expressing themselves, it should be in a loving way not combative, ignorant and rude way. we all know it's not what you say (well no cursing nor negative verbiage ty ) but how you say it. So if you truly want Real L.O.V.E, don't look at what he has, how's he dress( of course they have to take proper care of themselves) focus more on how he talks to you, how he treats you, get to know his mind and heart, that way you will know more about a person and you don't have to give it up so easily. Because once you give it up without going through the process then and only then will you see who he really is. So open your mind and heart ,let the sunshine in and get out of the Dark.