has anyone any advice on this (13)
littlepup: hi i am posting this to see if anyone else out there ever experience anything similar i have 3 little boys 7,9 and 10 me and their dad spit over 4 yr ago i gave him access to my boys through a court order when we split he was a gud dad to them but for last 6 months my boys have been telling that he is hurting them and locks them in their room and always shouting at them not to come back to him my boys very upset over it all and is very hard to get them to go to him now i have got legal advice on it and was told i cant just break a court order and to apply to the courts to get the access changed now i want them away from him not changed as i believe that this is happening as he was like this when we wre together it why i left cudnt tale him anymore so know how they feel
Speak to their Dad.
Kids can, and do, make up stories. I've heard stories over the years from my lot about their Dad and his partner that would curl your hair. All untrue.
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littlepup: hi i am posting this to see if anyone else out there ever experience anything similar i have 3 little boys 7,9 and 10 me and their dad spit over 4 yr ago i gave him access to my boys through a court order when we split he was a gud dad to them but for last 6 months my boys have been telling that he is hurting them and locks them in their room and always shouting at them not to come back to him my boys very upset over it all and is very hard to get them to go to him now i have got legal advice on it and was told i cant just break a court order and to apply to the courts to get the access changed now i want them away from him not changed as i believe that this is happening as he was like this when we wre together it why i left cudnt tale him anymore so know how they feel
As Libra said Talk to the dad, you should know by his reaction as to the truth of the story.... However if you feel it to be true after that you can go to the court( open again in Sept) and apply for a cancellation of all or overnight access.... NOW the (Judge)can and should speak to the kids at their age to access the situation.... Bottom line is if they are in fear and don't want to go, the judge will alter/cancel the access order...... However if the judge feels that they have been coached ( and I'm not suggesting that you have) he will be very angry.... If you feel that they are in physical danger from their dad, then as the legal guardian you are compelled to STOP the access with immediate effect till the court hearing......... You can apply for a court date even with the court not sitting.... I will mail you my number if you need to talk or contact Fathers families and friends in galway for help... Sam Butt is the man there and he's all about what's right and not just for menBrian
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littlepup: hi i am posting this to see if anyone else out there ever experience anything similar i have 3 little boys 7,9 and 10 me and their dad spit over 4 yr ago i gave him access to my boys through a court order when we split he was a gud dad to them but for last 6 months my boys have been telling that he is hurting them and locks them in their room and always shouting at them not to come back to him my boys very upset over it all and is very hard to get them to go to him now i have got legal advice on it and was told i cant just break a court order and to apply to the courts to get the access changed now i want them away from him not changed as i believe that this is happening as he was like this when we wre together it why i left cudnt tale him anymore so know how they feel
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littlepup: hi i am posting this to see if anyone else out there ever experience anything similar i have 3 little boys 7,9 and 10 me and their dad spit over 4 yr ago i gave him access to my boys through a court order when we split he was a gud dad to them but for last 6 months my boys have been telling that he is hurting them and locks them in their room and always shouting at them not to come back to him my boys very upset over it all and is very hard to get them to go to him now i have got legal advice on it and was told i cant just break a court order and to apply to the courts to get the access changed now i want them away from him not changed as i believe that this is happening as he was like this when we wre together it why i left cudnt tale him anymore so know how they feel
Has there been any change in circumstances ie their dad has a new girlfriend? or house move? maybe they are put out by a new change
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BellaX: Has there been any change in circumstances ie their dad has a new girlfriend? or house move? maybe they are put out by a new change
hi nope nothing he has just got so angry lately and dont get why i have wrecked my head for the last 6 months to try figure out why this happening i have even taught r my boys makeing up stories but their not i have seen him very angry even drunk at times when i am droping them------ This poll is Archived ------
70Libra: Speak to their Dad.
Kids can, and do, make up stories. I've heard stories over the years from my lot about their Dad and his partner that would curl your hair. All untrue.
hi i have spoke with their dad and he said he will displine my boys his way and that i have them spoilt it makes me so angry to see the way he shouts at them what i have saw at drop off is a very angry mad sumtimes drunk and sumtimes abuseive so when they tell me bout dad shouting at them i believe them and i believe the locking in the room story as he said himself he did it i know kids can tell stories at times but a adult can usually tell if they are makeing it up by the look on their face my 9 year old afraid to sleep in his own room coz he dad said their were monsters in it i have just done his room in chelesa fc as it he fav and still no goodKids can, and do, make up stories. I've heard stories over the years from my lot about their Dad and his partner that would curl your hair. All untrue.
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If it was me littlepup, if anyone was treating my child like that, no matter who it was and I was 100% sure it was true it would be the Garda I would be going to.
But with parents who have split up its somewhat difficult because of the tension between the parents. I've seen it with friends its like point scoring (not saying you are doing this)
I hope the kids are lying and attention seeking, its better then fearing their father.
I would sit down with the lids and their dad and tell them to say what they have told you in front of dad.
Best of luck
But with parents who have split up its somewhat difficult because of the tension between the parents. I've seen it with friends its like point scoring (not saying you are doing this)
I hope the kids are lying and attention seeking, its better then fearing their father.
I would sit down with the lids and their dad and tell them to say what they have told you in front of dad.
Best of luck
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Good god my spelling 
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instantly before i read any repplies...my gut reaction was..
social worker..
a third party listening and a trained one at that..will do absolutely no harm.
then u can get help with the resolve..if there is one.
social worker..
a third party listening and a trained one at that..will do absolutely no harm.
then u can get help with the resolve..if there is one.
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BellaX: If it was me littlepup, if anyone was treating my child like that, no matter who it was and I was 100% sure it was true it would be the Garda I would be going to.
But with parents who have split up its somewhat difficult because of the tension between the parents. I've seen it with friends its like point scoring (not saying you are doing this)
I hope the kids are lying and attention seeking, its better then fearing their father.
I would sit down with the lids and their dad and tell them to say what they have told you in front of dad. ha ur spelling mine not much better my eldest son has told his dad he not going back to him his dad ans was tough u have too and if u dont like it then go to a court of law like my god what kind way is that to speak to a child i am going keep them until i can get it to a court and see if the judge will do something to protect them
Best of luck
But with parents who have split up its somewhat difficult because of the tension between the parents. I've seen it with friends its like point scoring (not saying you are doing this)
I hope the kids are lying and attention seeking, its better then fearing their father.
I would sit down with the lids and their dad and tell them to say what they have told you in front of dad. ha ur spelling mine not much better my eldest son has told his dad he not going back to him his dad ans was tough u have too and if u dont like it then go to a court of law like my god what kind way is that to speak to a child i am going keep them until i can get it to a court and see if the judge will do something to protect them
Best of luck
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fifitheminx: instantly before i read any repplies...my gut reaction was..
social worker..
a third party listening and a trained one at that..will do absolutely no harm.
then u can get help with the resolve..if there is one.
hi have been there last feb i went to a social worker when my son told me what was happening she saw his dad drag him from her car one day when she was trying to get my son to go to his dad she came back and told me that the child was afraid of his dad and to go to court to change the access i have rang her few times in lasst 2 months and she said she not geting involved in it like how stupid is that social worker..
a third party listening and a trained one at that..will do absolutely no harm.
then u can get help with the resolve..if there is one.
bottom line of it was my prob and dont be buging her the school has senn it once as well so i think at this stage i just keep them until i get a judge to hear what is going for them------ This poll is Archived ------
I wouldnt take my children back into that situation. To hell with him, and court orders.
If hes really treating them like that, then Im sure he wont take the time,effort,or money to force the situation through the courts.
The Children are the most important issue and they are the only ones WITHOUT any say!
If hes really treating them like that, then Im sure he wont take the time,effort,or money to force the situation through the courts.
The Children are the most important issue and they are the only ones WITHOUT any say!
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Any update on this...a very worrying situation..
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