amahlala: Probably because all of us at some point; myself included, could have or have been in relationships that have torn our hearts apart, bad divorces, cheated on and beaten and so on.
It takes time to heal and possibly some good counseling but having a defeatist attitude towards relationships, getting involved with others, etc.; only leads one to extend that outwards into other aspects of their lives. People have a choice to be happy or make do with what they have or do not have; being and acting defeated only makes their lives more miserable. IMO
I agree it takes time to heal and yes some counseling can help. I think how our attitudes are towards other are based on the individual. I have no desire to be in any sort of relationship but I still dearly love my family and friends. We get together and enjoy each other's company as much as we can. I am also very much involved in volunteer work and different social clubs so I am happy and interacting with others. One doesn't necessarily have to be in a relationship to be happy as there are so many wonderful things out there to enjoy without being coupled up. Life is certainly what you make it and you are correct we have the choice to be happy.
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