I would quietly call the police, possibly from the restroom. Although I weigh a few pounds, I am not a fighter, and never have been. Plus, I am absolutely non-confronttional in my personality makeup. I hate confrontations, which is why I avoid most controversial forums and blogs. I would certainly feel for the woman, but would hope that the bar staff would intervene; if not, I would call the police. The bouncers in my state are quite rough on roughhousers. In Washington state, it is absolutely illegal for bar stuff to continue to serve people when it's obvious they are drunk. Bar stuff are always calling cabs for those who have too much to drink. I don't know if it's a free ride by law, or not. The police really come down on bar staff in my state for serving overly-tipsy people. In addition, people that serve alcohol at parties are also liable if anything happens (such as a guest's accident on the way home, or someone getting stopped for drunk driving.) In addition to that, police have the power to confiscate people's cars for DUI (alcohol or drugs).
a very good poll bodecia. of course any man than see,s a women in distress should always try to help and my response would be to go over to the man and say excuse me but the lady said no so show some respect or we step outside, i would then ask the women if she wanted me to call a cab for her or the police and the bar person should not be serving her anymore drink. it does not matter how anyone is dressed that is totally not the point. the problem is i am afraid and it has happened to me that sometimes when you do offer help the women turns on you so a lot of men think get on with it. all i can say to all the guys is if you see a women in trouble then help her.
craig63: a very good poll bodecia. of course any man than see,s a women in distress should always try to help and my response would be to go over to the man and say excuse me but the lady said no so show some respect or we step outside, i would then ask the women if she wanted me to call a cab for her or the police and the bar person should not be serving her anymore drink. it does not matter how anyone is dressed that is totally not the point. the problem is i am afraid and it has happened to me that sometimes when you do offer help the women turns on you so a lot of men think get on with it. all i can say to all the guys is if you see a women in trouble then help her.
montecito: My first instinct is that this is a police matter but I wasn't sure so I just spoke to a police officer I know about this She said it could be a police matter but you need to get facts from the woman first about the status of the relationship with the man such as did they just meet in another bar.
If the woman says she just wants to go home then the officer suggested I should tell the barman and he should be the one to intervene with the man. If the man insists that's it's not anyone's business then the barman should call the police.
To reinforce this suggestion the officer told me that if she saw this happening she would approach the man in plain clothes and if the guy gave her any guff then she would show her badge.
I definitely would intervene with the woman by taking her to the ladies room or just sitting and talking to her which would probably annoy him. When he gets irate and shows anger that's when the barman should call the police.
Well, in my town, that would be one night in Jail for public intox for the nice lady!
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