If you found out you had a sibling out there somewhere (see details) ( Archived) (9)

Sure, I might need a kidney one day.

Given that my parents didn't speak the same language when they got married and had my dad actually been required to talk to a woman as a prerequisite to getting married, I have a feeling he'd still be a bachelor to this day.

Its very difficult for me to imagine such a scenario as you present, under the circumstances. If things had been different, I assume I'd feel differently.

My daughter was told by her father (in the most crass way imaginable) that she had a brother. Some 10 years later, she was told by a cousin that she has a new baby sister, but the cousin denied the existence of a brother. Having lived with the agony of thinking her father prefered her brother to her through half her childhood, the only possible conclusion that we can come up with is that a DNA test showed her brother was not her brother, but her father didn't bother telling her that.

She hasn't seen, or spoken to her father in some 7 years, she never met her non-brother (although I offered to try and make this possible on numerous occasions) and she has no intention of getting in touch now she may have a sister, or a non-sister.

I can appreciate why she threw in the towel, even though she was very small when she took that decision.

Having seen all the things that she's been through, I probably wouldn't try to impose myself on someone on the offchance we were half-siblings, as much as anything to avoid potential drama for myself. If I was approached by a half sibling, however, I don't think I'd turn them away on the grounds that an illegitimate half sibling excluded from the family and our father might have a few things to work through and a rejection under the circumstances isn't going to help that at all.

I certainly wouldn't expect it to be all sparkly and lovely and for us to get on like a house on fire, just because we were biologically related.

I would be interested to know and this is a very real possibility as I was adopted. However, if they did not want to meet for whatever reason, I would respect that.

I did...and I did meet them

I have a sibling, a 1/2 brother from my father's WW2 marriage. I knew of his existence as a child from my father's divorce proceedings I read secretly in our basement. I searched for him for many years and finally located him. We corresponded for a bit and then he suddenly stopped emailing. I even sent weitten letters to his home. When he asked me why my father had nothing to do with him growing up...that I couldn't answer as all the older generation is deceased and there is no one to say why my father abandoned him in life when his mother and my dad divorced. It had to be a bitter relationship for my father. So heartbreaking for this brother to never have gotten answers even from his own mother and uncle. He has harbored this pain all his life.
I searched for 25 yrs for him and he has been elusive to say the least. It is heartbreaking for me to probably be blamed for my father's actions or perhaps he feels a sense of jealousy that my father stuck by us kids and not him. He was a good father to my other brothers and I so I am at a loss for the right answer for him. The only thing I can think of is that my father came back from the war front in Burma a different person and not ready for a family at that time. I am told that many soldiers marriages end in divorce after a battlefront deployment and have problems with relationship issues.
I can only wish my 1/2 brother would write me. I would have to fly to Portland,Oregon and knock on his door to speak with him. Something I have considered.