In response to: If family members have religious beliefs about the body being buried intact and in its entirety, or simple can't face the idea of bits missing even in death, it may cause them a far more complex grief.
I am totally sensitive to religious reasons for not donating and have no isue with this at all. Religious beliefs, especially at time of death, are very important
In response to: Discussion and preparation before hand may help, but the state of shock whereby someone cannot yet accept the death may well interfere with the decision making process at that moment in time.
I, in no way, take from the grief people feel and the 'wanting them back' as I lost the love of my life and still, after many years, feel it keenly. However, I DID know what he wanted and, had his organs been able to be donated, I know it would have given me a little more peace that a part of him is still here in a vital body and living a life and giving that to another person.
Signing the actual papers would be the hardest part I believe. I can't imagine making that decision if you did not know what the person wanted done. At least, if you know, no matter how difficult to put a signature on that paper, you will always know you did what they wanted.
Whenever I am in hospital, I name my brother as next of kin (and he has a letter signed and witnessed to say he has my permission) as I do not want my mother to have to sign it; although I know she would.
So many amazing families give the gift of life to others. I find that so very touching! In some countries you can even send a letter to the organ team, if you have received an organ, to be passed on to the donors family anonymously. I think that would reassure my family that they had done the right thing!
Two years ago my wife choked on a piece of meat and stopped breathing. When it became apparent that the brain damage was irreversble I said to the doctors that they could use her organs. Unfortunately this could not be arranged in time. We had never made a conscious decision regarding organ donation but both agreed that if our organs were no longer of use to one self someone else could well have their use.
Winthrop48: Two years ago my wife choked on a piece of meat and stopped breathing. When it became apparent that the brain damage was irreversble I said to the doctors that they could use her organs. Unfortunately this could not be arranged in time. We had never made a conscious decision regarding organ donation but both agreed that if our organs were no longer of use to one self someone else could well have their use.
Winthrop48: Two years ago my wife choked on a piece of meat and stopped breathing. When it became apparent that the brain damage was irreversble I said to the doctors that they could use her organs. Unfortunately this could not be arranged in time. We had never made a conscious decision regarding organ donation but both agreed that if our organs were no longer of use to one self someone else could well have their use.
I believe it is a personal choice, myself I am an organ donor. I believe that after I'm gone if I can help another human being it would be a blessing, why not help someone that really needs it?
They can have whatever they want of mine. I will have no need of any part of me and if it can improve the quality of someone is desperate need or even save a life.....
I just put a note in my driver license that my horns can be donated to anyone, including all the angels here.. Sorry, don't have any other good organs left in me..
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