2intrigued: Hiya Jo Well said and I agree that circumstances dictate here. It's inspiring to hear that some people are willing to enter into a relationship with the courage to encourage with a positive end result.
In my younger years, I dated many men who were 'going to ' be something and were 'going to' go to college to become that. They never did and I wasted reproductive years . My cousin, however, apparently worked while her husband was in medical school and had faith that he would make it through and become a doctor, which he did. HUGE risk.
At this time of life, over age 40, I absolutely expect a man that I enter a long-term relationship with to have a good-paying job and have his act together. And most men expect the same from women.
Having said that I wonder is the Western countries GDP so much inflated like a big balloons and the Eastern ones so much squeezed to the real ones? Maybe Obst. will have some answers.
Sure why not ? OK look at the situation, a 40 year old man that has worked hard all life and for example has a 6 bedrooom house with mortgage paid has a car and all other trapping other than a current income and a good woman. The man doesnt need much to live as he is already mortgage free, Should his life stop and be on hold until he finds a job that could be a while before he can again find a loving woman that he would love cherish and support in dark times if shoe was on other foot?
Dec 25, 2013 1:45 PM CST ladies would you date a man that doesnt work & asks u for money?
LadyDizJohannesburg, Gauteng South Africa1,320 Posts
LadyDizJohannesburg, Gauteng South Africa1,320 posts
andyvarna: Sure why not ? OK look at the situation, a 40 year old man that has worked hard all life and for example has a 6 bedrooom house with mortgage paid has a car and all other trapping other than a current income and a good woman. The man doesnt need much to live as he is already mortgage free, Should his life stop and be on hold until he finds a job that could be a while before he can again find a loving woman that he would love cherish and support in dark times if shoe was on other foot?
Yes, I've been thinking about this (with the input of a friend). So many people have worked hard their entire lives and now have lost everything with the economic crisis. This does not make them any less worthy of love than the fortunate ones that have managed to hang on to what they have. Simply writing off an unemployed person before even trying to get to know them could mean losing out on the love of your life.
yes is difficult to be stripped of all ones worked towards. but there comes a time when we just have to start over and maybe is possible can be a good thing.
my 2 animals will be ready for unlease in the spring of 2015...when i put all the pieces/clues together right from the very early years then i start to see the full picture form...it will be an intense moment but were all in it together now.
sometimes the wrong move at the right time can be what life is about.
NAKEDMUDPEOPLE: A Handyman is worth his weight in gold, if he shops, cleans and fixes what needs to be fixed, I would pay him a wage and he could have evenings and weekends off.
“A Handyman is worth his weight in gold, if he shops, cleans and fixes what needs to be fixed, I would pay him a wage and he could have evenings and weekends off.
Dec 27, 2013 9:48 PM CST ladies would you date a man that doesnt work & asks u for money?
Bspoken4My forest, Western Cape South Africa636 Posts
Bspoken4My forest, Western Cape South Africa636 posts
LadyDiz: Yes, I've been thinking about this (with the input of a friend). So many people have worked hard their entire lives and now have lost everything with the economic crisis. This does not make them any less worthy of love than the fortunate ones that have managed to hang on to what they have. Simply writing off an unemployed person before even trying to get to know them could mean losing out on the love of your life.
Yes, so right, you are... A business can be built up over many a year, and then all it takes is bad debts, a court order - litigation, liquidation, for it to go under, with disastrous results for owner and staff. Add a divorce or some other major upheaval to the poor businessman & you have a recipe for some kind of suicidal behavior. But, yes - not to be denied of love...
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In my younger years, I dated many men who were 'going to ' be something and were 'going to' go to college to become that. They never did and I wasted reproductive years . My cousin, however, apparently worked while her husband was in medical school and had faith that he would make it through and become a doctor, which he did. HUGE risk.
At this time of life, over age 40, I absolutely expect a man that I enter a long-term relationship with to have a good-paying job and have his act together. And most men expect the same from women.
It's different from when you are ages 19-30.