What advice would YOU give my daughter? (68)
ali110: So u will be the grandma of the kids of a Liar ?
Ouch. If it gets that far, I'll offer to babysit. A LOT!
Teach them to be good liars, not crap ones 
peachmelba: Well viv if your anything like me I have to speak my mind but Id say well it's your choice and I've said what I think so best luck with it,
No one likes to be told something they don't want to hear and she is smitten with the guy,
You have done your bit by giving your opinion when you just care for her but really she has to find out for herself and for her to learn to trust her own judgment and form her own opinion,
It's part of growing,
I think all you can do as a mother is be there for her and as previous poster said don't tell her I told you so,We all have to learn for ourselves and people come into our lives to learn from whether its positive or negative,
She is 28 and may distance from you if you don't allow her to learn for herself ,,if the man was a threat to her as in danger then I would intervene or if he was treating her in an abusive way .
No one likes to be told something they don't want to hear and she is smitten with the guy,
You have done your bit by giving your opinion when you just care for her but really she has to find out for herself and for her to learn to trust her own judgment and form her own opinion,
It's part of growing,
I think all you can do as a mother is be there for her and as previous poster said don't tell her I told you so,We all have to learn for ourselves and people come into our lives to learn from whether its positive or negative,
She is 28 and may distance from you if you don't allow her to learn for herself ,,if the man was a threat to her as in danger then I would intervene or if he was treating her in an abusive way .
Peach, thanks, I think we may be quite alike! I had my say, and she knows if she's ever hurting, I would be there whatever had been said between us. For that matter, if he makes her happy, in the long run, I never wanted more than that for her. She knows that too.
Crucible: Perfection does not come in never falling, but standing up after each fall. All the best.
C.
C.
Great advice! Thank you
Not wanting to worry you, but He actually sounds quite dangerous to me. Maybe that's just because I went through the same kind of relationship. Problem is your words are only going to push your daughter away. Let her know one last time you don't think he is right for her, and tell her you will never mention it again. Be true to your word and keep quiet because if I'm right he will in time want to get you out of her life too so don't give him ammunition.
This isn't your life, your mistake to make or your lesson to learn, its your daughters. She sounds like a caring soul to me and if I'm right about who he is, people like him pray on that.
Keep an eye on her from a distance if you get me, she will see him for what he is when she is ready just be there with loving arms and no I told you so's.
This isn't your life, your mistake to make or your lesson to learn, its your daughters. She sounds like a caring soul to me and if I'm right about who he is, people like him pray on that.
Keep an eye on her from a distance if you get me, she will see him for what he is when she is ready just be there with loving arms and no I told you so's.
I'm just a normal average guy, I like doing all the things that everyone else does,
but I have no friends around anymore to do things with,
there's nothing I can do about it,
it is a hindrance when trying to meet women who judge it to be important that a man comes with all the trimmings of life,
a job, a house, and an active social life with lots of friends,
well it was a hindrance,I've pretty well given up on local Aussie women,
I've discovered a better way of living,,
but I have no friends around anymore to do things with,
there's nothing I can do about it,
it is a hindrance when trying to meet women who judge it to be important that a man comes with all the trimmings of life,
a job, a house, and an active social life with lots of friends,
well it was a hindrance,I've pretty well given up on local Aussie women,
I've discovered a better way of living,,
depends how old your daughter is stand back keep an eye on both of them.whatever happens let it happen then she may ask u 4 advise when things crash around her .she has 2 learn a lesson in a relationship so let her do things her way as long as she don't get up the duff n he dumps her
VivianLee: My daughter met this guy online, and they hit it off bigtime, she’s really happy. 2 things I don’t like. He has NO friends, because he sees men as competition, and women as flirts. And he lies. All the time. He’s a crap liar, she can always tell, but mostly lets it go. She says their relationship is unique, and he’s getting better all the time as he learns to trust her. Better at lying?
She's getting cross with me. She says this is special and I should trust her judgement. .
Special? I think he’s a dud and she should get out before they get too serious. Should I shut up and let her learn the hard way?
From your description you should Smash him in the face.She's getting cross with me. She says this is special and I should trust her judgement. .
Special? I think he’s a dud and she should get out before they get too serious. Should I shut up and let her learn the hard way?
My guess/instincs is to smash his face but I would talk to him to be sure.
When the Psy7chotic blind leads the blind they get blinded.
So Who Knows. Its all fixed for certain people and unbroken for others.
Yes up yours if you got an opinion on this Oxymoron.
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She's getting cross with me. She says this is special and I should trust her judgement.
Special? I think he’s a dud and she should get out before they get too serious. Should I shut up and let her learn the hard way?
How do you describe your relationship with her? Some mothers are really very close to their daughters especially at that age, to the point you think they are friends. Some, not so much. They can't stand each other. No matter what it is though, you owe her an explanation of the truth as you have seen it. Let her know your position and WHY. If she understands and agrees with you, great. If not, you have done what you can do. Follow her up in prayers if you are the praying type. Like someone else mentioned, God forbid your fear comes to light, you never can say "I told you". You know that already. Perfection does not come in never falling, but standing up after each fall. All the best.
C.