last mile is alwayst the longest. (40)
Innocentia00122: Regarding a first meeting I would go to "his" place (I mean town) and care for that I could do there something like visiting interesting places, should he doesn´t like me as much as in our conversation before. I would pay and go. Maybe this has also an a kind of self defence thought for later should the meeting be not as expected
And maybe that sounds naive, but if a first meeting would be the start of a real being together, then I always would rely on that everything will fall in place and that both support everything from their hearts, so that they can be happy together, no matter who moves where.
And maybe that sounds naive, but if a first meeting would be the start of a real being together, then I always would rely on that everything will fall in place and that both support everything from their hearts, so that they can be happy together, no matter who moves where.
thats the way to go indeed.
i've done the same once and would tell someone that wants to come visit me to do the same.
that way there's no hard feelings and no money lost should things turn out differently than expected.
:)
2intrigued: What you have to do is focus only on those who you can realistically pursue. If one is not prepared to go that extra mile for another, there is no point in getting each others hopes up knowing that a meeting won't happen. Each failure has a way of eliminating hope...it has for me anyway. The most important thing is to keep things in perspective and be mindful of whether fantasy will result in reality. If not, someone is going to get hurt.
thing is you often know if he or she is worth the extra mile AFTER you met and therefore spent time and money, thats bit of the whole thing.
you can write for months , still knowing nothing.
;).
Rogerzoekt: thing is you often know if he or she is worth the extra mile AFTER you met and therefore spent time and money, thats bit of the whole thing.
you can write for months , still knowing nothing.
;).
you can write for months , still knowing nothing.
;).
Sometimes people can be living together and still know nothing. Everything involved in pursuing and maintaining a relationship is a gamble. There are no guarantees. I'm not sure if there are many people who are willing to carry on with an online relationship forever and at some point, they will want to meet face to face. Hopefully there is enough shared between two people in correspondence to determine whether a meeting is going to take place or not without dragging it out for years. Life is too short for that...take your dreams and fantasies and turn them into reality.
life's too short for that indeed.
no point in staying in your safety zone forever.
easy enough to 'talk' online but its a different ballgame in real life.
but its so much nicer.
:)
no point in staying in your safety zone forever.
easy enough to 'talk' online but its a different ballgame in real life.
but its so much nicer.
:)
It will get better.I know what you are saying though. Breathe.
:)PEACE HH
It is all worth it. Most the time!!!
:)PEACE HH
It is all worth it. Most the time!!!
Communication, If it slows down back off, then if it truly meant to be it will spark up. Maybe better anyway. PEACE HH ( just my experience)
it does usually slow down indeed.
i'll keep waiting for the sparking up part than i guess.
;).
i'll keep waiting for the sparking up part than i guess.
;).
Rogerzoekt: even in France the distances are big.
and often not so the distances bit the time it takes.
windy small country roads dont make tou advance quickly.
even living in the middle it takes often the best part of a day to reach a date.
....and than there's the way back.
:(.
and often not so the distances bit the time it takes.
windy small country roads dont make tou advance quickly.
even living in the middle it takes often the best part of a day to reach a date.
....and than there's the way back.
:(.
I've 1600km just to get South of Sweden. I'm sure distance isn't the biggest concern if you find someone in France; it's Always easier to relocate within the same country. Good luck
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you get someone here to talk to you, all seems nice and you're sure that if you met each other in real life, things would be great.
but than the reality strikes.
its not real life, its the internet.
days of talking become weeks, weeks become months and before you know it the little spark that once was has faded or died altogether.
one day one of you just stops writing.
how to hang on to reach this very first and important meet?
specially when you're far.
What you have to do is focus only on those who you can realistically pursue. If one is not prepared to go that extra mile for another, there is no point in getting each others hopes up knowing that a meeting won't happen. Each failure has a way of eliminating hope...it has for me anyway. The most important thing is to keep things in perspective and be mindful of whether fantasy will result in reality. If not, someone is going to get hurt.