I lost my first son at 6months and 3weeks, 27 years ago, they said he wasn,t still born cos I wasn,t 8months, they said it was Gods way of being kind to me???????????????????????but I have 4 healthy young adults now and between them they have given me 6 beautiful grandchildren
lenababiOPSanta Barbara, California USA1,746 posts
Its the worst, Mine happened while i was at Toys R Us doing the baby registry thing. All i remember is falling to the ground in pain and waking up in the hospital it was the beginning of a really dark time in my life.
PILIPALACardiff, South Glamorgan, Wales UK4,804 posts
Aww thats awfull love were you on your own
When it happen to my friend rang the midwife she wouldn't come out moreless said let nature take its course as it was an early pregnacy Had to sit with her not able to do anything
Yes... it is one of the things that seriously affected me emotionally in my 1st marriage. She and I had go through several extremely emotional and traumatic experiences in the two years we were married. For those reasons I never understood why she could leave me like she did. We lost our first child at the end of the first trimester. I had been up all night studying for final exam in a chemistry class. One of the most horrible and chilling experiences a young man could experience when he truly loves and cares about his wife. It was only 33 years ago and still hurts just remembering what she went through and how I felt so hopeless and powerless to do anything. We both blamed ourselves with it and had lots to work through. She definitely did not go through it alone although she probably felt that she did.
lenababiOPSanta Barbara, California USA1,746 posts
I don't know what your situation was but I couldn't be w/ my bf at the time and it was a shame because we were together for a couple years but it was too hard to still be w/ him after the miscarriag.e.
Hes great....mad as ever!!! Hows my little baba doing in there in ur Tum?? Was looking at really cute pink clothes yesterday!!!! Gonna have to get here kitted out Irish style!!
There is a lot of hurt involved in a Miscarriage. There is nothing to show for at the end of it. There is nothing to throw yourself into to try and deal with or forget. People around you don't know what to do and for the most part it is a taboo subject when asking how someone is.
This thread has brought up a lot for me. I've had 3 Miscarriages. One was a set of twins. I still remember all the birthdays that haven't been celebrated, still remember how dark and confusing it can be to have no rational thing to blame.
But I am a Mother to a wonderful little girl who is everything I could ever have hoped for and that makes me the happiest I could ever be.
God Bless to anyone reading this thread and feeling sad
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