phoenixrising1northern, British Columbia Canada1,086 posts
bettyboop63: no i wouldnt date you ..DB...The age gap is too big..but i dont view you as a dirty old man..I havent read any comments from you that would make me think of you like that ...
she has judged you because of your age?? thats horrible dude and why have you not sent bettyboop63 mail ... i think its an invitation
tainogirlTrincity,West Indies,, Trinidad and Tobago3,777 posts
phoenixrising1: i do not know why ...i think its transgenerational ...and other asian culture accept it ....largely in the value they place on experience and the ability to manage...
but in filipines its just so accepted and single foreign men are very desired by the young ladies .... sure they want a new life with him ... but what woman who marries does not?? and prenups are a good defense against him being just used
Well that's more than helpful in me answering your original question. If said 18 to 21 year old males were pursuing me for a serious relationship - they'd have to be told no thanks. I think girls of that age are somewhat more mature than a lot of boys that age. So what would I really be saddling myself with? I already take care of one child do I really need to take care of another. Chances are also likely this guy is on his first job, probably just making enough to keep himself - would he be in any state to take on a much older wife and child? And when he's learnt all that he needs to know from me at that age what happens when he gets older and the novelty wears off? Sure this might work if I were some retiree, with kids out the nest and all the time for fun and frivolity. Unfortunately I'm not and I have a kid to think about not just me. So I would have limited time to devote to the Young and Reckless, in any case I 've already been there and done that. One has to look at where they are in their life and if I've got to be worrying about prenup and whether I'm being used - well I'm not in the place to take on anyone that age.
phoenixrising1northern, British Columbia Canada1,086 posts
tainogirl: Well that's more than helpful in me answering your original question. If said 18 to 21 year old males were pursuing me for a serious relationship - they'd have to be told no thanks. I think girls of that age are somewhat more mature than a lot of boys that age. So what would I really be saddling myself with? I already take care of one child do I really need to take care of another. Chances are also likely this guy is on his first job, probably just making enough to keep himself - would he be in any state to take on a much older wife and child? And when he's learnt all that he needs to know from me at that age what happens when he gets older and the novelty wears off? Sure this might work if I were some retiree, with kids out the nest and all the time for fun and frivolity. Unfortunately I'm not and I have a kid to think about not just me. So I would have limited time to devote to the Young and Reckless, in any case I 've already been there and done that. One has to look at where they are in their life and if I've got to be worrying about prenup and whether I'm being used - well I'm not in the place to take on anyone that age.
thank you swetheart for very real and personal reply
Odysseus101: I think it's ridiculous. it's not a question of "would you date someone 35 years younger than yourself"...rather "Why would you want to?"...the other question of course is, what self-respecting 20 year-old wants to go with an old guy of 55?...it's just disgusting, in any person's language.
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hello sweetheart