Would you dump a person if they would not have children for you... ( Archived) (41)

I would love to know what you base this on?

Just because your body may allow you to have children doesn't mean you should.

i voted no... I have one child and do not want anymore and i have made this nown to guys when i start dating them however i totally understand if they want children so it would be their choice to stay with me knowing it was a no no or they could end the relationship and find happiness with someone who does want children

Oddly enough my boyfriend feels the same.
When I met him and always since I was in my late teens even, I never wanted kids.
I just never saw myself having any.
Apparently, well rounded, healthy individuals should want children.... I don't know if I buy into that.
I have mellowed a tad in regards to the kids issue however, I won't rule it out but different people, want different things, I am incredibly rational in the way I think.
I had rational reasoning for not wanting children.
Just putting forward that not everyone that doesn't want to procreate is irrational.

Just curious as to why,
i thought that was what most women wanted

I absolutely love kids, mainly due to the fact that I'm so immature myself!
But my Dad really struggled bringing us up, financially. He had to work all the time just to feed us and it was really hard.
I'm not made of the same stuff, I would want some guarantees and in this life there are none.
I don't know if I'd ever be in the right place, financially, emotionally.
I'm an incredibly cautious person when any decision regarding responsibility has to be made. If I'm honest I avoid responsibility at all costs, if at all possible!
I just never saw myself being able to make the sacrifices necessary to be a parent.
Maybe that will change! Who knows.

Its a stivky one to answer this- everyone has their own opinion on whats the right or wrong thing to do, and we can all respect thier choices.

Personally, I'd say 'no'. If they say they dont want children, it should not be taken personally. You need to step back and listen to thier reasoning. They may just simply feel a child is something that they cant cope with at this stage in thier lives, or they may have had children from a previous relationship and have been through a lot- now they just want to enjoy watching the kids grow but not face raising a family from scratch again, which one must respect. Its not a reflection on you, maybe, in time, thier feeling on the matter may change.
Thing is, in time, if you grow to love the person, you will
grow to love the kids. Ok, so they may not biologically be your own, but they may love you just as much as if they were and you them.

Again, this is just my opinion.

Thanks for the reply,
I agree with that, although a bit too late for me, benn there got the T-shirt and still paying all those bills.
But at least being seperated dont have the grief i used to.

its a big issue for people who haven't got kids

if they wouldnt then yes i would dump them...

if they couldnt and i loved them thats a different story...

thats different...

i have no kids and want some.. its very important to me..

big issue for me, i have one kid but want more, there is noway i would be with someone who doesnt want more kids

I want more, even just one more..but he has to be a keeper and pretty dam special...speaking as a full time single mother

well yea...

but if it came up in discussion on like a second date that she was sterile or something.... then its a no no too...

love is different... hell for all i know, maybe my swimmers are no good...

I was the same, when my husband and I married it was with the understanding that we werent going to have children.

However I did change my mind after 5 years of marriage, can you imagine that conversation lol.

Went on to have 4 lol

At this stage in my life obviously my child bearing days are over so it isnt an issue. Its part of the reason I dont date younger guys, did that a few years ago and the children issue came up, not far in him since he wanted a family so that was the end of that.

Id like one or two

One or two what...

Men or kids