The best way for a guy you don't know to engage your attention is to... (43)
bob1959: THATS THE TERRIFYING PART!
No need to shout at me.
It's called be wary scared.J/KIt's all about taking risks.
Merriweather: You know... I know what you are talking about... I dont go out with guys... but in the dancing world... my world... I always accept a dance when someone asks... even if I know they are going to be useless dancers... I just cant be rude... because I dont want guys to feel bad about themselves... I'd rather empower someone than disempower... besides, I dont want guys to feel bad, and I dont like to think that I have upset or made someone feel bad... I believe everyone has the right to feel comfortable in this world... unfortuneately its not a perfect world....
Your right. It isn't a perfect world. I really think some women blow guys off as an ego boost, esp in front of their friends.somechick: No need to shout at me. It's called be wary scared.J/K
It's all about taking risks.
(lowers voice) sorry. You have a way of cutting to the chase mam. Yeh. Hate the risk. It's funny though. I've written this before. The more interested I am in a women, the more nervous I am. If it's a social situation with women, like the bank for instance, I'm a really funny, personable guy but put me in front of a women I'm interested in and I lock up unless she can bring it out in me a little. That's why it would be nice to know if she had any interest in me in advance, but then there's no risk. Round and round we go.It's all about taking risks.
bob1959: Your right. It isn't a perfect world. I really think some women blow guys off as an ego boost, esp in front of their friends.
Well hun, good luck to you... You might be right... I really dont know, but I dont condone that type of thing, never mind hun, you will find a perfect cocoon in your own world one day... Cheers hun, I am logging off, need to sleep, travelling to Barcelona in the morning....
thanks for the chat tonight....cheers mate.
Merriweather: Well hun, good luck to you... You might be right... I really dont know, but I dont condone that type of thing, never mind hun, you will find a perfect cocoon in your own world one day... Cheers hun, I am logging off, need to sleep, travelling to Barcelona in the morning....
thanks for the chat tonight....cheers mate.
thanks for the chat tonight....cheers mate.
Night kiddo>bob1959: (lowers voice) sorry. You have a way of cutting to the chase mam. Yeh. Hate the risk. It's funny though. I've written this before. The more interested I am in a women, the more nervous I am. If it's a social situation with women, like the bank for instance, I'm a really funny, personable guy but put me in front of a women I'm interested in and I lock up unless she can bring it out in me a little. That's why it would be nice to know if she had any interest in me in advance, but then there's no risk. Round and round we go.
If you don't take risks in life sometimes then how will you know if she's interested or not.Sometimes you have to be aggressive and get what you're after.
somechick: If you don't take risks in life sometimes then how will you know if she's interested or not.Sometimes you have to be aggressive and get what you're after.
Can't you let us know somehow? The whole "she looks down or away" (Ginger) sounds so counter intuitive. How do you know she's not repulsed? As you can see, I'm a little weak in the first contact department.bob1959: Can't you let us know somehow? The whole "she looks down or away" (Ginger) sounds so counter intuitive. How do you know she's not repulsed? As you can see, I'm a little weak in the first contact department.
Oh c´mon, how old are you for goodness sake! And you´re hardly the shy retiring type, at least not here.
You sound like an adolescent.
JAN_is: Oh c´mon, how old are you for goodness sake! And you´re hardly the shy retiring type, at least not here.
You sound like an adolescent.
Easy here. I have a back space key.You sound like an adolescent.
bob1959: Easy here. I have a back space key.
Why though? That means you´re not the same here as offline.
I understand it´s easier to portray a more confident persona behind a computer screen, but for those who do that I think there´s always a bit of the real person being put forward.
bob1959: Honesty, I enjoy your post and humor, but this is a little harsh. If you thought of this from a guy's point of view you might be a little more compassionate when it comes to rejection. Imagine there is some guy you've been interested in for some time. You wait until the time is right, make your best effort and get the dreaded (scoff) "as if". Try that a few times and tell me what a wuss I am for being apprehensive. Think about it. Do you really want a guy that doesn't care about being rejected. The "Ask them all" type. Or would you like to be special. Someone who he placed so much importance on your being receptive that he's a little afraid.
Hey Bob! This is where I think the way you approach is important.
Every woman is different. Some women like for men to come over and just be straight forward with them. Others do not.
The way I like for men to approach me is to smile and come over and just start having a casual conversation with me. If we are going to hit it off, both of us will be able to tell. If it seems as though maybe we won't, then the man can just say "It was nice meeting and talking with you".....or the other way around....the woman can say that. Then neither of you feel like you are put in an uncomfortable situation. You just had a casual conversation and it lead to nothing more.....or then again, maybe it did.
Barrellofart: I find that a lot of women won't make eye contact, for some reason or another. I find afterward, sometimes they actually were attracted to me, but essentially shut down all signals/opportunities.
So, where do you go when this happens?
So, where do you go when this happens?
Simply approach me and introduce him. I have always been waiting for guys to approach me so please come...
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You know... I know what you are talking about... I dont go out with guys... but in the dancing world... my world... I always accept a dance when someone asks... even if I know they are going to be useless dancers... I just cant be rude... because I dont want guys to feel bad about themselves... I'd rather empower someone than disempower... besides, I dont want guys to feel bad, and I dont like to think that I have upset or made someone feel bad... I believe everyone has the right to feel comfortable in this world... unfortuneately its not a perfect world....