I posted this thread over on the Inters but there are still a couple of old time friends here from way back so here it is again.
As some of you know I was celebrating the marriage of my son and his beautiful now wife just last week in Barbados. The wedding on the beach was wonderful, and Barbados simply Paradise. However, another totally unexpected romance evolved during my 2 weeks there....that of my ex husband and I.
We fell in love all over again, though he apparently has never felt able to move on completely since we separated, and has never stopped loving me. It was a bolt from the blue for me, and I realised that I too still loved him. We had been together for many years as the old-timers here know, and the ten years we´ve been apart have flown over. We´ve both changed in many ways of course, but talking and spending time together just revealed how close, and in love we still are.
Our break up was devastating for both of us, yet not for reasons of infidelity or other serious issues, we simply grew apart and felt we were moving in different directions. That makes it all sound rather a flippant decision to split, but sometimes the horror stories we all read here are not the only reasons why couples break up.
I don´t know if there are folk here who have experienced a similar type of break up, or if there is any chance they will get back together, but it can and does happen, as I can happily testify.
It´s not going to be easy, we´re not fools, but we have, and always have had. something very special and we are going to give it our best shot.
I´m extremely optimistic.
I will be deleting my profile here after I´ve read and responded to any responses I may get, and I truly wish you all the best.
Thanks Jeeepers. Its never too late though, give it a go, you never know, and that´s really why I posted the thread to show that all is not always doom and gloom after a breakup.
Thank you! I´m sure you made the right decision. We were living in different countries and the opportunity never really arose to meet up or consider getting back together seriously. We did very briefly for a year, just a year after our divorce, but it was too soon.
As some of you know I was celebrating the marriage of my son and his beautiful now wife just last week in Barbados. The wedding on the beach was wonderful, and Barbados simply Paradise. However, another totally unexpected romance evolved during my 2 weeks there....that of my ex husband and I.
We fell in love all over again, though he apparently has never felt able to move on completely since we separated, and has never stopped loving me. It was a bolt from the blue for me, and I realised that I too still loved him. We had been together for many years as the old-timers here know, and the ten years we´ve been apart have flown over. We´ve both changed in many ways of course, but talking and spending time together just revealed how close, and in love we still are.
Our break up was devastating for both of us, yet not for reasons of infidelity or other serious issues, we simply grew apart and felt we were moving in different directions. That makes it all sound rather a flippant decision to split, but sometimes the horror stories we all read here are not the only reasons why couples break up.
I don´t know if there are folk here who have experienced a similar type of break up, or if there is any chance they will get back together, but it can and does happen, as I can happily testify.
It´s not going to be easy, we´re not fools, but we have, and always have had. something very special and we are going to give it our best shot.
I´m extremely optimistic.
I will be deleting my profile here after I´ve read and responded to any responses I may get, and I truly wish you all the best.
I do disappear, often for very long periods, but occasionally I will post and say a temporary farewell giving reasons....not sure why I think I have to do that
Anyway, I´m going to Barbados tomorrow for two weeks....and my son´s wedding, so I´ll be making myself invisible in a short time.
My point really is do you make your profile invisible if you´re taking a CS sabbatical? I do because I don´t want to deal with a backlog of mail/flowers if and when I return. I also do it sporadically when I log off because I have a niggling fear of my photos being hijacked, which has happened here as most of us know.
The woman who gave it in the House of Lords is 89 year old Baroness Trumpington. She claims her hand flew up accidentally and doesn´t remember doing it, though she is renowned for her irreverent sense of humour.
Some interesting reading here, thank you to all of you.
It seems though, that many of us are working longer hours than we would like, however much some of us love our jobs.
As for living off the land and bartering services for goods, that´s a wonderful concept if you live in a village where, particularly in Spain, it can still be done as Eaglewoman has confirmed. However, I live in a city, that´s where my work is, and bartering is unheard of. I also have no real skills in order to earn money other than teaching, so I have no dreams of painting or other such activities in order to fill my time if I gave up the "rat race".
Finally, I do not own a property, I rent. (I´ve been travelling and working in different countries for the past 12 years so it never made any sense to burden myself with a mortgage). It´s a lovely flat, and the owner is a great friend, so he charges me a relatively low rent in comparison with similar flats in this sought after area. I´m lucky in that respect.
I do have a dream of buying a small house near the beach when I retire, but it is impossible for me to buy a property in the city as they are so expensive, even during this time of crisis. For those of you who own a property half the battle is won.
I think most people know if they are fat, or putting on weight. If I can´t fit comfortably into a skirt or pair of jeans then I know I´ve put on weight. I don´t weigh myself by the way because I don´t think it´s necessary, also because I partly agree with your comment about the correlation between body typè and weight.
At 18 years old you should not be worried about whether your fingers can encompass your wrist thereby justifying a large frame. (I don´t think this is necessarily accurate btw).
Most people know their body type anyway, regardless of your "test", and the weight they should be in order to be healthy.
I experience more chivalry here in Spain and other countries I´ve lived in than in my birthplace, England. I´m not sure why that is. Perhaps it has something to do with traditional values which still exist here.
I´m a feminist in the true sense of the word, which means I am not offended in the slightest if a man opens the door for me/takes my coat/offers me a seat...... or otherwise.
I am offended if an elderly woman or man is not offered the same courtesy, and sadly the youth of today have less respect for their elders.
I blame the parents. !Laughing emoticon but really I do.
If you read the article fully, it states, without statistics to back it up incidentally, that immigration has exacerbated the problem.
That does not mean it caused the problem as you are implying. Immigration has been a godsend for many countries as anyone with any knowledge of history knows.
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True love never really dies.
Thank you Boban, and thank you for introducing me to some fab gypsy music.