Oh I agree, and I do that too, but I´m not young and with the advancing years I think about my retirement years.
However much I love my job, I know that I could be earning much more if I moved back to the UK, and that is my dilemma. The quality of life, my health etc etc is, and will continue to be, much better here in Spain, but the salaries aren´t nearly so good here, hence the reason I work extra hours teaching private students. That also means I´m working more than I would really like, and another reason why my relationships flounder (in the real world that is).
I don´t believe men and women have to be enemies at all either by virtue of their gender or relationship.
My ex husband related only recently to me daughter that he missed our conversations and banter. We were married for many years, in fact we grew up together, so men and women can have a lot in common really.
For those of you who are working people, why do you think you work as you do?
I have always worked, and missed work when my children were babies. I have never had to claim unemployment benefits, and I don´t say that out of pride, just that I have always been able to find gainful employment, sometimes not what I would have preferred, as was the case when my children were at school, but work nevertheless with a salary.
Nowadays, as a single woman, I feel more and more that I am working to live, even though I love my job, because I worry at times about the future. I have to support myself at the end of the day. I know my adult children would never see me in dire straits, but I don´t want them to look after me. Do you know what I mean?
My children think I´m crazy to harbour worries about the future and have told me so, but.... I can´t help it.
I often think that at a certain time of life, people get together only for these reasons, security etc etc....I dont want that at all.
Have you never had a relationship with someone who is not from your own "surroundings?"....your words not mine, because I´m not entirely sure what you mean by "surroundings"...culture, country, town....colour????? neighbourhood???????
But I think...and what I assume you may be thinking, that may not be the be all and end all, and that this woman was simply lonely and rather naive it has to be said, after the death of her husband.
Lonely people, whether male or female, fall for the most unlikely ruses. You can see it here on a regular basis.
There is nothing in the article which confirms this man is uneducated by the way. He is certainly very clever.
I went to the hairdressers early this morning to try out a few styles for my son´s wedding in Barbados next week...straight or curly that is the question!
Then I met some friends for lunch...who liked the curly look incidentely.
Then I did a bit of shopping....boring except I found an unexpected something.
Now I´m chilling with a thought to the suitcase weight limit.
Once again I disagree. She amassed a fortune with her now deceased husband through hard work alone as far as the newspaper article says, therefore she cannot be dismissed as an "idiot" in my opinion.
No, you´re wrong. Most people who are, or try to be PC, do not defend such atrocities. It flies in the face of fairness and equality which PC should be about.
It seems all the money in the world does not guard the heart at the end of the day.
I read this story earlier today, and I don´t think the woman is "dumb" as you say. Gullible, lonely....perhaps, but she is a millionairess, unlike many women who end up penniless after being ripped off by a romantic con merchant, so I won´t shed any tears for her.
It´s a disgrace, but I never understand why you choose to link PC with your many threads. The image you posted is a million miles away from PC thought.
Perhaps, but you know Montecito, I think sometimes people regret making a thread with personal information (I know I have occasionally), and therefore stay out of it hoping it will disappear sooner rather than later!
Let´s give the OP the benefit of the doubt until proven otherwise.
There must be a lot of desperate people on dating sites because there have been umpteen stories of how people have been "taken for a ride" in one way or another.
Singledom is not bad you know, but I´m fortunate to be able to say that after having been happily married for many years, experiencing the best of married life, and having travelled with one or two relationships along the way in many countries as a single woman since my divorce.
It all depends on what you do, or are able to do as a single person.
I don´t think rings prove anything these days. Here in Spain wedding rings are worn on the right hand as opposed to the left in the UK my country of birth, and I continue to wear a ring on my left hand just because I was married for a long time and feel naked without it. I also know married people who dislike wearing rings, so that´s not a red flag in my opinion.
The real signs I believe are if someone cannot see or contact you at certain times of the day, or holidays like Christmas when they become unavailable.
I have no experience of this as far as I know, but CS has taught me a lot!
The article is "muddled" as you say, I agree, but my objective in posting was to demonstrate how change can be achieved by the people if they have the will to do so.
So your post demonstrates that AA doesn´t work for everybody. I really don´t have any personal knowledge in the matter, but from reading threads and posts over the years there seems to be no hard fast rule or solution for either the alcoholic or the partner/family. Some swear by AA, others such as yourself, not.
Perhaps those of you on the thread who have, bravely in my opinion, made public here that you have had alcohol issues in the past could be a bit more enlightening rather than posting glib one line comments? It would be helpful for people such as the OP who are dealing with such a relationship.
No, not always scammers. I rarely respond to men who write or flower me (because I´ve decided that online dating is not for me), unless I know them from the forums. However, if I have the time, and the message is polite, I thank the sender for taking the time to message me and wish them luck in their search here, without looking at their profile.
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I can´t help it.
RE: Is Being Too Nice To Women Wrong? i.e. never arguing with them, lots of compliments, etc
Why do you think you always have to be "nice" as you say, to women? I´m always a little bit suspicious of men here who claim how "nice" they are.None of us are always "nice" that´s human nature.
Be yourself. warts and all, if that equates with being too "clingy" then think about how you can change or deal with your apparent insecurities.