JAN_is Forum Posts (3,849)

RE: I get amazed how most women are happier to be called HOT...

Now you´ve gone and spoilt it.

RE: I get amazed how most women are happier to be called HOT...

I´m happy to read that you don´t use the word hot RDM, and I actually don´t believe many people over 35 use it outside America. Most of the "hot" messages I get here are from Americans or guys half my age.

It´s just not a common compliment in British English and "you are looking lovely tonight" as you say is so much nicer....imo anyway.

RE: I get amazed how most women are happier to be called HOT...

Rilly, I think hot is just the fashionable word nowadays to describe both good looking men and women (there have been many other words throughout time which are soon replaced by another) so maybe you´re just being a bit old-fashioned.

Mind you, I do find it a tad funny to hear or read of middle-áged folk being described as hot, and I don´t particularly find it flattering to receive a message or flower telling me I´m hot it´s ridiculous. Perhaps I´m a bit old-fashioned too!

In my view it´s an inoffensive word really, but it can only be genuinely used for the young and exceptionally attractive.

RE: Happy Birthday 'bestbefore'

Feliz Cumpleaños BB.

RE: what is the best and worse part of being alone

I became single and living alone in my early forties and to date I´m quite happy with it. Perhaps it´s still a novelty for me I like being able to eat what, how, and when I prefer, to go out after work with friends without having to make that phone call and perhaps be faced with hostility or some kind of guilt trip. To leave the household chores for a day or two because I´m the only one it will affect, to have control of the remote control, to have male friends without suspicion, to spend time with friends as much as I want regardless of whether he likes them or not.....etc etc.

There are so many positive aspects of living as a single woman, however I don´t like it when I´m feeling ill and need a little tlc, when being ripped off financially with holiday accommodation and other things as a single, or when something in the house breaks down, because I don´t know one end of a screwdriver from another!

There probably are more negatives but I just can´t think of them at the moment.

RE: What's the worst thing about being your gender?

I think for both genders the worst things change in relation to age.

RE: How long do you think we should live?

I was reading a few days ago about life expectancy in the UK. It is believed that 1 in 6 will now live to be 100 years old, and here in Spain life expectancy is even higher.

Everybody who is currently happy and healthy surely wants to go on living for as long as possible, I certainly do, but those who aren´t so fortunate may understandably think otherwise.

I think it´s a question of how physically and/or mentally able one is in order to maintain longevity in a comfortable, and hopefully relatively autonomous manner, rather than focussing on numbers.

In this instance perhaps age IS just a number.

RE: Global Pandemic.....,1 Million dead since 2001,-and the killing continues...

I´ve seen that one before, it´s a gem. Did you notice the cheeky glint in his eye after each comment?

Happy New Year to you too Pat.

RE: Global Pandemic.....,1 Million dead since 2001,-and the killing continues...

Mot entirely in keeping with the thread topic, but as tolerance has been mentioned a few times....

Sometimes men are so sick....

I¨m not in the habit of bumping my own threads, but due to all the very kind wishes both on this thread and in private, I thought I´d just let you know that I made a report this morning on my way to work.

The police were absolutely marvellous and even offered counselling which I declined as I´m really not in such a bad way. I was advised to carry an alarm and told where to buy it so that´s what I´ll be doing first thing tomorrow.

I´ve also spoken to the neighbours to make sure the women in the building are on their guard. They have all been very kind (I don´t normally see them other than to exchange a good morning or good evening due to my work) and someone had left a lovely bouquet of flowers outside my door when I arrived home this evening. Most of the folk in the building are older than me, and I suspect the flowers are from the retired couple living opposite.

Anyway, I just wanted to say again what a kind bunch of people you are and your thoughts and good wishes are truly appreciated.

Thank you and Happy New Year! I´ll be offline for a few days whilst celebrating the New Year with friends. Have a great time all of you.

Jan

Sometimes men are so sick....

I´m ok and I didn´t phone the police because I thought this man was just a sick chancer out for a quick thrill. He didn´t pose a real threat I don´t think, but I have decided to report it now.

I don´t drive by the way to those who have mentioned car safety. I travel to and from work either on foot or by bus.

Thank you once again to all of you. I´m going to bed now, but with a much more relaxed frame of mind since before I posted the thread.

Sometimes men are so sick....

Thanks Cusp and thanks again to all of you who have given such good advice and support.

I´m going to phone a police student of mine tomorrow morning and make an official report. I think by doing that I will at the very least be less nervous when I come come home from work late in the evening, and as others have said it may stop this lunatic from thinking about doing it again to anybody else.

You´re a good crowd, thank you.

Sometimes men are so sick....

Thank you Alan. No I didn´t report it but I´ve decided I will tomorrow.

Sometimes men are so sick....

I know jac, and that´s why I´m now feeling angry about it now. I´m going to report it tomorrow.

Thank you to all the ladies for your support.

Sometimes men are so sick....

I don´t think it would do any good as I couldn´t give a good enough description, but you may be right and I do have students in the police so maybe I should.

I know I´m going to be quite nervous when I arrive home tomorrow night. I´m so angry now. Isn´t it strange how we go through these different troughs of emotions when something happens like this.

Sometimes men are so sick....

Thanks star. I´m ok just a bit shell-shocked I suppose.

Sometimes men are so sick....

.....I arrived home from work this evening at 10.30pm and was just putting the key in the door to the apartment block when I felt something, a hand in fact, reach up quickly behind me and very high up under my skirt. I yelped with fright and saw a man rushing off. I struggled then to get the key to turn as my hands were shaking so much, and this same man did an about turn, and approached me again with his hand hiding his face. I managed to get inside the building, but with hindsight, I don´t think he was going to touch me again.

What on earth possessed this man to do such a thing? It´s never happened to me before, and I felt ill when I finally entered my flat, so much so that I immediately showered and threw all the clothes I´d been wearing in the wash basket even though my outer garments had only been worn for a couple of hours.

I´ve been doing a little work on the computer since and trying not to think about it, but I´m still feeling rather queasy.

No funny comments please, however well meaning they be.

RE: WHAT IF GOD WAS TO GO ON STRIKE?

I never really understand why people say if you don´t like a thread or the the topic don´t post in it. All threads are open for discussion whether we agree with the OP or not, so every thread writer should expect some dissenting views.

There are of course threads I don´t participate in because they are quite frankly stupid and boring, and having been here a long time I´ve seen many a million times before, though worded in a variety of ways.

As for this thread, well I can only say that if I met a person in real life who could only quote passages of the Bible I would think he or she was not "the full shilling" and run a mile!

You two really do go a little overboard with your Godly quotes in my opinion, and that has nothing to do with the fact that I´m an atheist whatsoever.

I believe I lead my life in an honourable way and I do more than many so called believers putting back into society what I´ve taken, so I don´t take threads like this seriously.

Tell us what you actually do in "God´s" name for others rather than what you read and learn by heart, then I and others might find it more interesting.

RE: They changed their roles-men and women of the West...

Spot on. Education is the key for everybody whether male or female.

What I don´t understand is why gender roles should be such a big deal in this day and age. Most people I come into contact with work full-time, and those who are in relationships do not appear to quibble over who does what in the relationship. It´s taken for granted that everything is shared equally.

Why is that so hard to understand or accept for some?

RE: Booth or Table

I don´t like booths very much. Sometimes they are a little uncomfortable like the bar stools which I often find are high for a short person like me!

I like to see what´s going on around me, not enough to detract from my company of course, but I do like people watching. So, a table for two in the corner, with a window and away from the door suits me best.

RE: They changed their roles-men and women of the West...

Exactly, and those men are REAL men.

It makes me laugh when I read about men complaining that Western women are bossy or controlling yet Asian women are made out to be the perfect little woman who will still cater unquestionably to a man´s needs. It is complete and utter rubbish. Asian women can and often do "wear the trousers" in a partnership, perhaps more so in many ways than Western women, yet with a little more subtlety.

RE: Do women or men cause more damage/troube while drunk/off their heads?

I agree, but not as vehemently as I would have in the past.

RE: Who did u have ur last flower from?

Hi DF. I think you may have had my previous post in mund when you wrote yours. I said that some people may not want the fact that they had sent a flower to someone known here on the forums and therefore in my opinion names shouldn´t be given.

If the flower is from a forum friend as you say, then that is different, they are acts of friendship nothing more,(although I think there is a limit to the flowers one can send in one day so your 100 is pushing that limit just a little ).

Anyway, I meant that flowers with real romantic interest are, or in my mind, private, and telling the whole CS community is not good manners or wise.

RE: Who did u have ur last flower from?

I have a regular in my WVM which still scares the life out of me when I see his face, I do know he is weird though after a few of his emails which I didn´t respond to.

Actually though, I don´t think people should post names of those who have sent them flowers, particularly if they´re forum folk. They may not want the whole of CS to know.

RE: Who did u have ur last flower from?

And...people aren´t really going to say it was from some frightfully unattractive and scary person are they?

RE: Who did u have ur last flower from?

Don´t they all?

I don´t take any of them seriously, at least not in the romantic sense.

RE: Poetic "Meter" explained

RE: Poetic "Meter" explained

I counted 10 too.

Seasons greeting to one and all.

I hope Santa has read your wish list and you have a wonderful time, whether alone, with your families, or like me dishing out dinners and teaching Christmas carols in English to the homeless or marginalised folk here in my part of Spain. I´m really looking forward to it.

I´m spending tomorrow, Christmas Eve (more important than Christmas day here) with close friends...my children are in China with their lovely dad, his turn this year, and I can´t get to the UK to be with the rest of my family due to the poor weather flying restrictions...and prices!

Whatever you´re doing, wherever you are, and whoever you are with, be happy and safe.

RE: PSYCHOPATHsssssssssssssss........

How come you turned out to be such a lovely woman?

I´m no expert on this, and I don´t think I´ve ever known a psychopath, but I thought the medically accepted definition was that these people are simply unable to feel empathy, therefore it would surely be something which could not be cured or treated. successfully.