First date and all he /she does is talk about their ex and how bad they were. (53)
Happygolucky4u: Nice new pic. Love that hair color on you.
tomboygirl: yup nanners-i noticed earlier-the new colour suits you chick.xx
O yes, Nanners always looks georgeous.
i have heard those cry baby stories before, after a bit i just mention politely can you just stop that, or it usually bugs me enough that i will not see that person again, it just may be the beginning of a huge head ache?
equiya: O yes, Nanners always looks georgeous.
Awww..thanx love..so do you!! Well..today you look extremely pale..
Englishman55: If I thought the conversation was going down the road of talking about an ex, I would subtley steer the conversation onto a happier subject.
If this did not work I would then point out to them that I was not particularly inetersted in talking about an ex, or being compared to one and that if they needed to offload as they would do to a shrink, then I would charge for the service of listening.
If this did not work I would then point out to them that I was not particularly inetersted in talking about an ex, or being compared to one and that if they needed to offload as they would do to a shrink, then I would charge for the service of listening.
How much do you charge Doctor? Can I pay in kind?
equiya: How much do you charge Doctor? Can I pay in kind?
Of course....
nanners2863: Awww..thanx love..so do you!! Well..today you look extremely pale..
I decided to go a bit pale for a while. Some of my friends here were having difficulty seeing my face even though I was not wearing a bhurka - too dark! I am not a muslim, very Catholic.
I love white chocolate and white men.
I will soon put on a new photo showing me a bit longer length.
equiya: I decided to go a bit pale for a while. Some of my friends here were having difficulty seeing my face even though I was not wearing a bhurka - too dark! I am not a muslim, very Catholic.
I love white chocolate and white men.
I will soon put on a new photo showing me a bit longer length.
wow..that will definitely draw them in. When you post the pic..keep me posted on your fun replys I love white chocolate and white men.
I will soon put on a new photo showing me a bit longer length.
nanners2863: wow..that will definitely draw them in. When you post the pic..keep me posted on your fun replys
I will. Thanks.
MovinFWD: I like to talk about cupcakes
I rather talk about watermelons. 
equiya: O yes, Nanners always looks georgeous.
It's that secret 100% natural and organic facial she uses. Thegr8pr10dr: It's that secret 100% natural and organic facial she uses.
she is all natural, just the right genes. why? you want to go into business with her? selling organic facials? I will be your business manager.
Thegr8pr10dr: I rather talk about watermelons.
O no. I don't like watermelons even though I have some melons on my chest!
no ex talk pls. i voted "other" as in tell your date outright to skip the ex talk for now
I think you handled this very well. Perhaps your date was overly nervous due to the first face to face meeting. I am curious; did she reconnect and reply to your concerns? Will you go out again?
Englishman55: They sound lovely...... any chance of a taste ?
Sure, you can even suck on them. I love that.
opentuit: Why would anyone want to talk about past relationships on a first date anyway? I don't think I'll ever really understand that.
What she ^^^^^^ said. I would be more interested in getting to know the other person
equiya: Sure, you can even suck on them. I love that.
So do I
woodman1: Chocolate melons, yummy, got to have me some of those.Where can I find them?
Southwest Toronto.
lostx2: Hi all. New to the site but had to ask this question as it happened to me.
About 1 1/2 years ago, I tried an online dating site. We talked for a while on the site, then went to private email and Im's. Then the time came to meet in person. The whole time we were on the site or in email / Im's ex's were barely mentioned.
We went to a nice resturant, but the whole time she dominated the conversation with talk of how bad her ex was to her and how bad all her exboyfreinds were. I have been through 2 marriages myself and both ended VERY badly. I understand the need to tell your potential partner about past experiences with ex's but when is it too much?
Anyway my answer is, I sat through the date as politely as I could. I took her home and sighed from relief on my way home. The next day I told her she was a sweet woman, but I wanted to get to know each other better, not sit and listen to her vent her fustration. I told her that every man is different and she needs to let go of the past. I told her if she still wanted to chat ect, ect. that would be fine, but unless you let go of the past I don't see this going any further than friends. Needless to say we never spoke to each other again.
So if you where in the same situation, what would you do?
About 1 1/2 years ago, I tried an online dating site. We talked for a while on the site, then went to private email and Im's. Then the time came to meet in person. The whole time we were on the site or in email / Im's ex's were barely mentioned.
We went to a nice resturant, but the whole time she dominated the conversation with talk of how bad her ex was to her and how bad all her exboyfreinds were. I have been through 2 marriages myself and both ended VERY badly. I understand the need to tell your potential partner about past experiences with ex's but when is it too much?
Anyway my answer is, I sat through the date as politely as I could. I took her home and sighed from relief on my way home. The next day I told her she was a sweet woman, but I wanted to get to know each other better, not sit and listen to her vent her fustration. I told her that every man is different and she needs to let go of the past. I told her if she still wanted to chat ect, ect. that would be fine, but unless you let go of the past I don't see this going any further than friends. Needless to say we never spoke to each other again.
So if you where in the same situation, what would you do?
If I went out on a date like that I'd just ask if we can talk about something else. If he didn't stop, then I would make up an excuse and leave and say "lets be friends" and get out of there! I thought that people would come to dating sites with wanting to meet people and marry. 
Anyway, lets hope we meet the right person! Aloha from Hawaii!
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When she talk about how bad her ex and how bad all her ex bfs, just thinking...how many bf she has before? and why all of them leave her? If from 10 ex bf's, all treat her bad, maybe she worth for that. She has problem......and u will be the 11th.
Think twice......Good luck