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...interesting in the news...

suppose that will be fine if all the women dress up with that cat costume.

...interesting in the news...

I can see it now...five years from now, it will be the norm with people going out in public with only a costume on.

RE: Just stuff. I need another distraction other than

lol....love it...nothing for free.

BTW, Ebay is nothing to be ashamed of.

RE: What's to Come

Good for you. You will probably receive a slight bit of resistance, but that is to be expected when a change is in progress.

Wish you the best. Nice to hear the update.

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Ed,

I think it is important for us to have our boundaries. I am assuming you have talked with her to resolve any issues. First and foremost with any relationship, I feel communication is the key. Once it gets to the point where talking does not resolve issues...well then that is where more difficult decisions may need to be made.

But I agree Ed...it might not be a bad idea for him to contemplate moving on.

easier single

Hello Spase,


Good for you, you had boundaries when it came to certain habits with the relationship...drinking. That is interesting, how the drinking got more and more. I can see how that can happen, but I know some people who are very well disciplined to just keep drinking to a mere social level...maybe a couple a week. At least that is what I do...but then again, I was never married for 7 years. ...lol, just joking with that last part.


Hmmm...the easiest path leads to death. You know, I can think of many examples where that adds up and makes sense. I think us humans do crave/require companionship. Though it is easier to be single, like you say, it might not actually the best for us.

Like KN said, I agree completely, finding a partner who is easy to get along with.....mature.....would be optimal for me. I would not find a partner and form a relationship just for the sake of a relationship...being easy to be with is important for me.

Thank you. :)

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Bene....in addition, I do agree not all women are like this. Look at EN's story.

I think this is just a good story about being somewhat aware of the person's personality also...when picking. Like KN mentioned, people do change throughout the relationship. To me, these are the relationships that are the most challenging. Usually years later after being in a relationship, each person has a lot invested...also, there may be children.

Of course too...it is not just the woman, a man can be difficult as well.

...again, thank you. :)

easier single

Bene...

I would like to find the right woman for me; therefore, I am looking. :)

However, when it comes to...in my opinion...these immature games with relationship partners, I am glad I am single.

But this blog, I feel, has turned into a somewhat of an example for the price of love....in some cases. I am sure there are many beautiful stories out there to share about love as well.


Thank you.

easier single

KN...

Great advice when finding the right person. Through the years, that is what I have discovered too...as far as finding some people easier being around than others.

So right too about stress. I was just watching Million Dollar Listing (a show about New York realtors). One of the realtors was getting married and after being engaged for some time, he got busier and more stress, leaving less time for his fiancee...she said, he was no longer the same person she initially met. Of course, arguments ensued.

Yes too...hopefully they can find somebody to talk to.

Thank you.

easier single

Okay DC...

That is nice that you two had the best interest of the children in mind.

Thank you for sharing your experience while having your husband away. There is no doubt that it would not be enjoyable...but sometimes things need to be done.

Not sure how it worked out for you...knowing you are now single. But...hope it did work for you and the children in the end.

easier single

DC....I can see where that would be tough.

I am curious, did you know what you were getting involved with before getting together with him?

easier single

Wiz....I hear you. I like the idea of a path with only slight resistance.

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Che....

The funny thing, as I was somewhat reflecting back on this whole ordeal with my buddy. I can remember his girlfriend telling me a couple of weeks back, when I brought up feminism to her...she said, "I would love to be the house wife and take care of everything at home."

Now with what is going on here...that is all fine and dandy, but does she realize there has to be an income coming in?


Anyway, enjoyed reading about your experiences.

easier single

Good advice Molly.

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Darn Molly, I was trying to get feminism all tied into this blog.

Very well...I really do not know the situation behind him being unemployed.

More than likely you are right. Somehow I think if he goes or not will be a slight indication on how they possibly worked it out.

easier single

EN....


That could be an explanation.

I wish you the best. You sound like a special lady who was willing to wait.



As a side note, nothing that pertains to you EN...but maybe too...depends on how one perceives things.


But....to the name of this blog...."easier single"

It is easier being single. In my opinion, loving relationships do require work and responsibility.....to each other. Of course without doing this work and having this responsibility, it is easier being single.

However...with certain people, the work and responsibility can be less stressing.

easier single

BC...you might be right. BTW, I love the saying. :)

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EN....

An interesting spin on a similar story. I wonder if it was not exactly as he said.

From his past experience with women, he felt he was doing them wrong.

maybe...

He took his past experiences and applied it to the current relationship with you....and assumed. (which from your account, is exactly what happened...the way it sounds to me anyway).

I am a firm believer that conflicts are never just one sided.

I would say he was at foolish to assume.

and perhaps here

Maybe you could expressed a little better your acceptance of his away time. Again, don't know....from your account here, it sounds like you had nice plans when he got back.

but...

Maybe he had a one track mind and just kept thinking how guilty he felt and didn't notice your message?

I do agree...it is not just the woman at any fault in these areas.

IMO

easier single

In addition, there has been some mention about her supporting him.

I don't know their financial situation. However, if he was playing the role of a stay at home father and she was the breadwinner, with feminism and all....

If her income was not enough to support the family, as I have to safely assume because he used the word "need" when referring to the money the job was going to pay, then one could PERHAPS talk about how she was not pulling her weight in the relationship setting...financially wise at least.


Otherwise, I am not sure why it was even brought up by the two commenters? ....the issue of her supporting him.

easier single

Legs...I could not have said it better. What you wrote is very similar to what I responded to Calm about.

It could be the same said about an insecure man in a relationship....and the long period of separation. ...not to mention the effects of the alcohol.

Unfortunately, while the waters or rough...it will be a stressful situation.

easier single

Calm...


Yes to the alcohol talking. She is known to get loopy when drinking.

I have heard it said that mental filters begin to erode once drunkenness sets in. Maybe this is how she really feels? Who knows what goes on behind closed doors. One could speculate until they are blue in the face. But, maybe the alcohol is what made this become a public spectacle?

But....even when not drunk, I have seen it countless times where the woman does not want to be away from their man for too long. Not sure if that is what is going on here or not...if so, maybe insecurity might be playing a role too?

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Wiz..


I cannot argue with your point. Perhaps that is one of the main reasons why it is to each others' benefits to understand people and to determine what exactly is the best way of assessing a person's maturity.

I kinda felt the same way.

I remember my friend telling his gf, that this is just a test. He knew what was going on.

Boy....the power of love.

easier single

JJ,

That is exactly what I suggested to them. With the technology we have today, they can still keep in touch, like you mention with Skype.

Something tells me, you are right. I am sorta curious how this is going to play out. My friend is suppose to leave this next Friday.

easier single

Tep,

I remember when I was in a long term relationship, similar to what they have...and being faced with many similar situation. It really makes it difficult for the man (in this case anyway).

When something is needed...it is needed.

RE: ~~ GOD IS NOT A PERSON ~~last

Thanks for the great read.

RE: Divorce!

...surprised it lasted so long.

give to take

sorry Calm...should have proofread my statement, but I think the gist is there.

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Nama....selfishness and greedy could be one explanation. By human nature looking out for number one is probably the default setting for many.

but...

When including somebody into your life in the form of a loving relationship, it is no longer just one...it is a team...w/children...a growing team.

give to take

Absolutely Capri!

The tough part is finding that mutual bond that Molly speaks of.

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Molly....now you are talking my language.