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RE: TRUST

I am sorry for the typos on my previous post..but the comment is still coherent.

RE: TRUST

Hello SR,

First of all, a loss of trust is what broke up my previous relationship of 13 years. It is not fair for you or your partner if there is a lack of trust in a relationship.

Something interesting I found out about trust. It was in my inter-communications college class. The instructor was sharing a story he personally experienced when his flight was canceled out in Denver. While waiting for his flight, he decided to go to the airport bar. He sat down next to a gentleman, who he did not know and was also waiting for his flight to resume. The professor told the class that they got into an unusually deep conversation. The gentleman he sat next to shared some very personal things about himself.

Also from my personal experiences, I have met complete strangers that have shared some deep personal things.

What I found amazing is that these people trusted my professor and myself to open up about themselves. They experiences were shared with us when the people we were talking to knew they would never see us again.

It seems as trust can be given in situations where the person giving the trust knows that the other person will never see them again and not even know who they are. What are your thoughts on that?

In addition, people tend to have affairs when they are out of town on their own.....so I hear.

Another great blog.

RE: Sea water and life under threat....:crying:

Nobody ever said life was going to be easy. Compassion, as you display it, is wonderful. If we as a collective society can only see what we are doing to the Earth, maybe we would develop different habits? The beauty of social media these days, an average person with a clever idea can be heard. Maybe you could start some sort of awareness program. ?? It is a shame what we take for granted.

RE: Looking a genuine partner for marriage

Words are cheap. Maybe show some substance? Good luck with your search.

RE: JEALOUSY AND ITS EFFECT TO OUR RELATIONSHIP

Thanks,

I just bought the one by Fine. What book by Kahlil Gibran would you recommend, The Prophet?

RE: JEALOUSY AND ITS EFFECT TO OUR RELATIONSHIP

SR,

Thanks for the lead on the books. They sound interesting. I will check into them.

RE: JEALOUSY AND ITS EFFECT TO OUR RELATIONSHIP

I like how you address the Monks. Eckhart Tolle's teachings stem a lot from Buddhism. Have you ever listened to his teachings? You can find a lot of his stuff on Youtube. Once you grasp what he is talking about, he is teaching something so simple. It took me about 3 years of listening to him...probably about 100 hours total. It is something where I needed to go back periodically to get a "refresher" on what he was saying. Most humans are conditioned from birth to use their brains in certain ways....which requires thinking. He basically teaches you how not to think. If you have not listened to him, you would be amazed how different life can be for you. With a person's mind full of thoughts all of time, one can miss a lot of beautiful things in life. With an open mind, I found I think better.... funny how that works. I would encourage everybody to check him out. I think his teachings really worked for me because when I discovered him, I was at rock bottom in my life....emotionally speaking.

RE: JEALOUSY AND ITS EFFECT TO OUR RELATIONSHIP

Maybe the secret of not becoming jealous is not to become too emotionally immersed in somebody else. In other words, become emotionally wise??

Just a thought. Might be easier said than done.

RE: JEALOUSY AND ITS EFFECT TO OUR RELATIONSHIP

Hello SR,

It would be very difficult to give a scenario about what is the right about of jealousy. I think it would depend on the individuals in the relationship. Some individuals may not tolerate any of it; whereas, another couple may find it endearing to have just a little where it shows him or her the partner cares.

I really do not know. That is why communication within a relationship is critical. Or when it comes to dating women, be a mind reader.... It helps to be able to identify the language of the non-verbal cues.

RE: The Interconnectedness Of All Things

I believe that Socrates44 Eckhart Tolle has made a big difference in my life, especially with perceptions. It is a fact that our bodies give off energy. I also see correlations between astrology and peoples' personalities. I wonder if our personal energy is not connected to the universe, as Einstein proposes.

I certainly believe in karma...what we give, we receive. I like referring to "old sayings." The one that says, "you will attract people like yourself" comes to my mind. If you are a positive person, you will attract positive people, and of course the opposite. I see this in everyday life.

Your take on doing things by yourself.

Thank you Ed. That is one of the advantage of being single. :) I often wonder about the old saying, "Woman, you cannot live with them and you cannot live without them." It seems as us single men are stuck between a rock and a hard place. :)

Good luck Ed!

Your take on doing things by yourself.

Hello S.R.,

Here I thought the lips meant you were trying to hit on me....too bad for me. :)

In regards to your comments, this is what I am finding with this site. I kind of like how it intermingles all sorts of cultures here. What a great way for us to learn about others on the opposite side of the globe. I am also in the U.S.. The divorce rate is high here, as I am sure you know. Maybe people are happier single?

Thanks for your post.

Your take on doing things by yourself.

Thanks all again. Beautiful responses that are much appreciated.

Wht....do not think for one second you are alone with those feelings. Again, I am no doctor of any sort; however, I have studied social dynamics and human psychology in regards to this area for about three years. It is amazing how powerful the brain is. I know this is somewhat cliche to say, but it is extremely powerful. From my understanding, most everything stems from your thoughts or from child scripts.

I felt the exact same way as you going into places by myself. I remember even being terrified....everyone was looking at me, they were thinking negatively of me, making fun of me, and when they laughed, they were laughing at me.

I discovered for me that a lot of those feelings came from my thoughts and my child scripts. Child scripts develop in you as an infant. When you were physically defenseless you discovered certain ways to behave to preserve your safety. Those scripts are so deeply ingrained in your being that you do not even know that you are reacting because of them. You do not even consciously recognize them.

Anyway...that is what I discovered within me...you can take these words as trash or as you wish.

Your take on doing things by yourself.

Thanks all for the comments. I agree, you should not be held back from what you want to do. I love being able to do what spontaneously comes to my mind.

Also...yes. You do save money. I can drink two beers where as in the past I drank one.

RE: Wish you were here...

Your title reminds me of Pink Floyd. BTW, great images.

RE: Best gift

A bath robe. Those one size fits all that you see in stores are lying.