You are correct with what you say in your blog. If we cannot be responsible for are own actions, then who will be?
This statement has me confused: "and the rest of the blame is also ours; for not wanting to see the signs before it was too late"
Should we leave the relationship before the first sign and hurt?
Should we leave the relationship right at the first sign and hurt?
Should we leave the relationship after many signs and hurt?
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Not get into a relationship in the first place and hurt?
"Never be obsessed with love. Obsession is the shortcut to disaster." How do we know if we are obsessed or not when in love? I will agree, if we watch our emotions and prevent them from getting too deeply involved with something or somebody, when that something or somebody does happen to leave, we will hurt less.
Love is so tricky. If you do not give enough emotion it will dissolve....and presumably hurt less. When you have a lot of emotion invested and it dissolves, it presumably hurts more.
The bottom line...as you stated...we will only know on an individual level.
That is a fine idea but I would think it would be very difficult to do. Maybe a possible future business? With all the talk about microchips, that might take care of the problem.
I remember the good ole days when I was in my early 20's. I would always have parties at my place. I remember one time, when I came home from college, there were about 30 people at my house and the party was already going. The funny thing was, I did not even know we were going to party that night. Hmmmm.
Anyway, I totally agree with you. A guest should not dictate how things should be in your own house. I am always for respecting people's personal spaces and ask before I do something.
I think it is important to forgive also. It really does make life miserable to carry a grudge. From my personal experiences, some mistakes take a little longer than others to forgive.
That is something else. You really get an idea of how big that tree is with the equipment around it. Good thing they moved it on a calm, non-windy day. :)
Before moving to where I live now, my nearest neighbor was about a quarter mile away. I had a house on the edge of a forest. The memories I have of sitting on the porch and listening to the wind move the leaves, while enjoying the beautiful sights of nature cannot be replaced with anything. I loved walking among the tall pine trees. It is so peaceful.
It sounds like you have a wonderful landscape around your area.
Your logic about people who have never loved lack empathy and turn into serial killers may hold true in some instances. But, I think for some who have never loved, they may have had some other issues. I do not mean issues in a bad way. Maybe, for personal reason, they just chose never to be in love with somebody. The reasons could go on and on.
Did you mean, as one door closes another one opens? I certainly do agree. I believe what happens to us in life is meant to be, even if we get hurt and do not understand the why.
I know after losing love, I am much more "gun-shy" about proceeding into the next relationship.
Do I want to risk getting hurt again? Like you said, "finding the one who is worthwhile." I think after my past relationship, I will be that much smarter when I find my next one.
I think it would depend on the individual. Some people are more sensitive than others. You are right, society and other external factors do play a part on how we perceive ourselves.
You say you have never loved. Do you feel you have an internal yearning for it?
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RE: THE ONLY REASON TO CHANGE IS YOU
Great words Leah. I am a believer that any changes you make for yourself, should be for yourself. What comes of those changes will come naturally.