House Rules
We all have our own sets of house rules and expect others to adhere to it. When I still smoked I would not have dreamed to smoke in a friend’s house unless he told me that I could do so.
While I am a guest on somebody’s house I will follow his rules. I will not tell him how to fry my eggs unless he asked me to do so. I will eat what he offers and will not ask for salt, pepper, tomato sauce or mayonnaise if it is not on the table. I will leave the toilet seat in the position that I found it. Even if he tells me that I must be in by 10pm, I will comply. It is his house and his rules. If I don’t like it, I must go elsewhere.
But I expect the same behaviour from my guests. You are welcome in my home for as long as you stick to my rules.
I no longer smoke but half my friends do. I don’t mind people smoking in my house but don’t come telling me I may not smoke in my house and don’t try to prevent others from smoking in my house while I’m happy to allow them. I will not lock my cat in a dark room or chase him out the house because somebody or his wife is allergic to cat hair.
You don’t contribute a cent to my household and I will not ask you to do so while you are under my roof. If you are not comfortable with my friendship, my hospitality or what I have to offer you, then rather go elsewhere.
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Sorry I did smoke, now give up for health reasons, so passive smoking is not good for me, so could not be your guest
Have good day cat
I too am a considerate houseguest and expect the same when I have guests in my own home. It's called respect. Sadly lacking, I've noticed in some.
I feel the same way but in the case of smoking, myself or my guests could smoke outside (weather permitting) if my other guests have a problem...my niece being only 7 years of age...I want to set a good example for her not to mention, spare her the ill effects of second-hand smoke.
Of course I can make an exception for a good friend like you.
And I will try to accommodate most. I just have the problem with those who arrive uninvited and want to take over my house; thinking I'm the butler or the servant.
1.) No Swearing 2.) No Drinking 3.) No Smoking
Oh yeah, I forgot one more, "Don't come over unless I invite you!!
So one day if I am ever in your neck of woods I could visit and you would put chair outside for me
Some people believe that you, as the host, are compelled to comply to their every whims because they have honored you with their presence. Does not work like that.
We all make special concessions to our guests from time to time as needed. But it is not for a guest to TELL his host or another guest not to smoke. He should remember that he is a guest there like all the other guests; and perhaps less special. This goes esp for uninvited guests.
I dont mind smoking in my home as I once was a smoker but one thing I absolutely hate is when a person puts an empty bottle on the nearest cupboard or table.
Have a lekka evening Cat..
The nice part about living in a condo, is that they have to call before being able to use the elevator...security these days...but that is an advantage...I simply do not answer my phone...no unwanted guest!
That is your rules. And then you get the one who lights the cigarette and looks at you asking: Do you mind if I smoke?
Godan, you must have some really fab parties then
You're right there. I make a very poor butler or servant. Those are skills I had never acquired.
But it all comes back to respect again. Like the one who sits on your freezer when there are plenty of chairs available.
Yes there are certainly advantages to it. But I prefer to have a large ground where I can keep my animals. Even it it means more lawn to mow.
~DAN~
Don't get me wrong now
Yes there are certainly advantages to it. But I prefer to have a large ground where I can keep my animals. Even it it means more lawn to mow.
My close family and friends do not have problems and we have some great time together. I'm talking about newcomers or far-off family thinking they are paid guests; wanting to tell me how I should run my household.
Will you mad at me if I ask you for a glass of water if there is only a cup of coffee on the table? or you would rather see me suffer from a heart attack?
Everything has rules. Even if you say there are no rules that in itself is a rule.
Actually nothing is forbidden or compulsory in my house. My only rule is respect me and my property.
It's good to have rules
I feel you on this one...
I won't mind him sitting on the upright freezer either.
It is the chest freezer that is the problem as I am the one who will have to replace the rubber seals.
Sorry Cat my computer seems to have rules of its own
I won't mind him sitting on the upright freezer either.
It is the chest freezer that is the problem as I am the one who will have to replace the rubber seals.
IMPORTANT NOTICE.. "dont erase the posts, please! to see what's gonna happen!"
Did you read my blog of yesterday? This is the type of questions I asked the teachers and professors when I was a student.
Too late, you just did!
The fact is everything we do is governed by rules. Having a shower every morning is just a self made rule that some of us obey.
As I said in my blog; if I feel uncomfortable with a rule I will go elsewhere. If the rule is as silly as not breathing I will not enter while the host is still breathing to police his rule.
I have enforced the rule of my blog prohibiting duplicate postings.
I thought it was more a case of whooping coughs.
Sorry, I was forced by my habit to follow rules.
Our houserules here exist of 3:
1.Respect yourself
2.Respect your home
3.Respect the community
My girls say their easy reles, but nope hardest rules to follow and they learn that everyday...Respect