Is it really?
Is it really better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all?I think to have loved and lost that people would suffer strong emotional pain when the initial phase of the losing starts. From what I understand, true love never really goes away. The emotional pain of losing somebody you love may subside with time but it always seems to creep up within you from time to time. Also for some, maybe all, you wonder what went wrong. Which in itself, is another form of suffering.
I would think if you have never loved, you would not need to go through the suffering. For those of you that have never been in love, is there a yearning you feel inside? If so, that might be a form of suffering.
Maybe neither of the two are better than the other?
I bring this topic up because I heard that statement in a song, and I wondered to myself is that saying really true?
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Much truth in what you say but if you have not tried it you will wonder for the rest of your life if it may have worked out.
and then drink
As Alexander Pope said;
"For fools rush in where angels fear to tread".
And it is a sad fool who learns quickly to hesitate where love is concerned. In my opinion of course.
Of course its not better to have felt the pain of loosing someone you love than to never have felt it. These sayings were made up by people to make them feel better about bad things happening.
...of people that have never loved...serial killers come to mind...they lack the empathy and compromise needed to love...
Hello Catfoot,
I do agree. If you do not try, you will never know. Maybe that not knowing would be a form of emotional suffering?
As to your last comment: About what is being discussed here?
Which is better?
Having loved and lost it.
or
Never have loved at all.
I think it would depend on the individual. Some people are more sensitive than others. You are right, society and other external factors do play a part on how we perceive ourselves.
You say you have never loved. Do you feel you have an internal yearning for it?
I wonder for those who have never been in love if they can actually know how powerful love is and the effects it can have on a person?
I love the quote you shared. It it is so true.
Thanks
You know, that is kinda what I was thinking. However, I am not so sure of how people feel that have never been in love.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
You are getting me thirsty with that bottle of whatever that is. :)
I am with you, I like the idea of taking a poll.
Being human is not that easy after all.
I know after losing love, I am much more "gun-shy" about proceeding into the next relationship.
Do I want to risk getting hurt again? Like you said, "finding the one who is worthwhile." I think after my past relationship, I will be that much smarter when I find my next one.
Thanks for sharing your insight.
You seem like a strong woman and I can see why you would say it is worth it. When I was in love, it certainly did feel great.
Is it okay for me to ask you to elaborate more on your thinking?
Thanks for sharing.
Did you mean, as one door closes another one opens? I certainly do agree. I believe what happens to us in life is meant to be, even if we get hurt and do not understand the why.
Thank you for your post.
Your logic about people who have never loved lack empathy and turn into serial killers may hold true in some instances. But, I think for some who have never loved, they may have had some other issues. I do not mean issues in a bad way. Maybe, for personal reason, they just chose never to be in love with somebody. The reasons could go on and on.
Thank you for your post.
i think it all depends on the person and how the loss effects them.. their age also i too has alot got to do with it.
My own personal view is NO.. it is not better to of loved and lost than never to of loved atall..my own personal view is its better to be a seeker than a know it all weeper
I love you ending statement, "my own personal view is its better to be a seeker than a know it all weeper."
I agree completely with you. It would come down to the person.
Thank you very much for your comment.
Hmmmm...I cannot argue that point.
Thank you.
For those that never experienced love do not know what they have missed...ignorance is bliss...but what a dull life!! Does that make sense???...
Yes, that makes perfect sense. So in other words, it is better to have loved and then lost it, than not loved at all.
Thank you for sharing that.
i believe "to have loved and lost" is an universally true proposition. we all know that there is no warranty of life but that does not stop us from loving our friends and spouses.