Hello USHA.....yes. If two people can be happy with themselves before getting into a relationship....that is a great start to a healthy relationship. Co-dependent relationships sort of rely on each other to fulfill each other. Whereas, an inter-dependent relationship each are already stable with themselves and live individual lives with each other in a relationship.
Thanks for the addition with emotional independence.
So we have financial and emotional....lets see if we can add to that. :)
That is somewhat what I suspected. I just was not sure how independent they considered themselves. Thank you for the furthering of my understanding. :)
I am not singling out any one person here in particular because I have a hunch that it pertains to us all.
Regarding "Dark Emotions"
It seems sensible to me that any thought...or thinking...if prolonged for any period of time will turn into a belief. Any belief prolong for any period of time will turn into a behavior.
Keep in mind the sequence of those three: thinking leads to beliefs which lead to behavior.
Dark emotions are essentially dark thoughts. For example, a dark emotion could be anger. Anger arrives in us by "thinking" somebody done us wrong. Even if the person really did us wrong, we need to think they done us wrong before it turns into an emotion. The opposite could be said about "good" emotions. Lets use being happy as an emotion. We only feel happy when we have positive "thinking" going on in our heads. For example,if somebody wins the lottery....they will feel happy.
Do you see any connection between the dark and happy emotions? Yes, both involve thinking...but there is something else. That something else is the "I" or our ego....we could also include the physical body in there too.
What do you think happens when we bypass the I, or ego, or physical self?
I know you said you are familiar with Eckhart Tolle. That is great. In fact, what he teaches could be understood in a matter of a minute or two. However, to put into practice what he teaches has taken me 4 years. Even after 4 years, I still sometimes get sidetracked.
Instead of being so fixated on who or what has done you wrong in this life.....because guess what....somebody or something is ALWAYS going to do you wrong in life...., maybe focus on the beauty of what is in everyone and of what makes up everything?
I would suggest getting involved in rocket science. I hear NASA is taking applications. :)
But seriously...a career move can be like turning a new chapter in your life. Basically, if you move to a new area, with a new job, you would have a new life...as long as you forget about your old one. :)
(in the beginning of this shin-dig) She may have been thinking that right now it is a friends with benefits. However, she may have grown attached to you. Her next thought could have been, well if I show him the time of his life, I can win him over and have him. Now the idea of a FWB is starting to fade in her mind. She may attempt to try to win you over a few times. If she is seeing her "winning over" attempts are not working, she may turn frustrated. Depending on how obsessive she is, you may want to distance yourself from her....if it is not already too late.
I really do not know...but here is my two cents for you to ponder.
Were these men who viewed these women like this in their late teens and 20's? Myself being a man in his early 40's don't view women in their 30's as old. There you have it....my two pennies. :)
I downloaded Skype from the internet and I cannot remember exactly how many extra things I deleted from my computer. Yeah....a bit ridiculous....but free and a pain in the rear. :)
Hope things are going well in cold South Africa today. Actually, it is hard for me to imagine any part of Africa cold. :) Most of what I know about Africa is its northern regions...where it is always hot.
Anyway, about your blog. I would never ask anyone why they never posted on my blog, let alone even expect anyone to respond on my blog.
When I respond to a blog, it is usually subject matter that has caught my attention. I think I have commented the most on your blogs. So, keep up the great blogs.
P.S. It took all my will to hold back from addressing you as Bob-Cat.
I had the same exact thing happen to me with a woman emailing me. I am with you...it was too much to ask for too soon. I declined to give "her" that info.
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"proclaimed" independent women
Hello SA,Hmmm, that is one aspect I did not realize....that men imagine women as weak.
So, independence to you is being able to take care of yourself. Perhaps...showing a man you are not as weak as he may think you are?
Thank you very much for your perspective.