Expectations
I signed up to talk to as many people as I could about sex, no more, no less - I'm a writer, I wanted to get some wide experience without dashing round trying to sleep with twenty men at once, and it has been, well, interesting. Sometimes very interesting!The thing is, on line, no problem. Some of the men I've spoken to have been pretty wham-bam-thank you ma'am, some have been fun for a couple of meetings, and a surprising number of men want to chat. Some don't seem to know what they want.
Still, on line is usually fairly straightforward. Here's the thing, I met a guy recently in real life who invited me to have dinner at his flat. Now, he knows I write about sex. We were introduced by a mutual friend who had sex with him on their first date (a year or two back, they are just friends now). He laughed when I said I thought dinner at his place might give the wrong signals, and said he would be delighted if we did but he would never presume. If things work out as they have started, I would expect we would have a friendly affair - benefits and friends rather than the other way round.
But here is that setting of expectations. Dinner at his flat? I THINK any woman reading this would say don't do it unless you intend to have sex with him regardless. Right? or wrong?
But I would love to know the male viewpoint. What expectation would you have if I agreed to dinner at yours? Automatically assume we end up in bed and I must have known it would when I agreed?
Comments (9)
It kinda depends...If you have a shlong ,run, run fast..if not, Id expect you to do the dishes after dinner...
Maybe you should read mine I posted on 16th "Misreading the signs", which a common "friend" of ours inspired me to write. You will find the comments very informative.
See you.
Much less grabbing and assuming than I had expected, I am very impressed.
I shall say no. First evening out on neutral territory and see how we get on without any pressure, eh?
For safety, most women would meet at a restaurant for the first date...jmo...
Perhaps you might jump him after dinner, now that would be novel!