JEALOUSY AND ITS EFFECT TO OUR RELATIONSHIP
One of the darkest sentiment ever given to us, human, when it comes to love, is this feeling, JEALOUSY. At least to me quite parallel to HATE, AND EVEN ENVY. But in a love relationship between lovers, this seems to me the most elaborate reason why our love ends or die even as we declare, proclaim that our love will never die. It will last forever. It will weather all the dark storms we will have to face. Challenges we will confront will not prevail because we love each other so much. In fact, TILL DEATH DO US PART?(not really till jealousy kills our love?) Then one day. Bam! Someone was brave enough to give you the bad news that actually you are not the only one in his or her heart. How do we handle it? Is there a system quite established to follow? So we are not going to be a victim of this crippling, damaging feeling?All through the years, my personal observation, at least to most of my friends, and those that are known to me, including but not limited to so many famous people is the feeling of jealousy that which eroded that beautiful, heavenly, pure love we once had.
Cheating, triggers, this emotion. Then it escalates to a very hurtful feeling. The problem is, when in the beginning when there is not yet enough and or sufficient evidence, as to the existence of insincerity, or disloyalty or cheating from whom we love, how do we address it? Will our preliminary steps, account to the success and or failure of our goal? Which is of course to either, re cement and or end our relationship. Taken into considerations are the time and effort we have been with him or her that we love. When do we walk away and when do we forgive. And if we do forgive, is there any sufficient success? Or is the passion diminished and dead?
If you stay, why? If you decide not to why?
Thanks all for your participation.
NOTE: IS THERE A CONNECTION BETWEEN OUR FEELINGS WITH OUR REASON? AND OR LOGIC? TO TEMPER AND GUIDE OUR REACTION AND EVENTUAL DECISION? QUESTION? RELIABILITY OF OUR FEELINGS? IS IT A MATTER FOR AND AGAINST THE HEART AND THEREFORE, WONT EVER USE REASON? FOR FORGIVENESS? REMEMBER THAT WE AREN'T PERFECT LIKE SPOCK..OR THERE WOULD BE NONE OF THESE TO BEGIN WITH?
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Since every couple has exclusivity, they will lose certain parcentage of their freedom. We cannot do anything we want like it used to be. In contrary, some people yell out loud about freedom yet cry out loud when their partners chat with another hotties. If either party knows how to respect each other and knows how to behave in relationship, jealousy shouldn't be there. We are not 100% free in this world. We are charged to some responsibilities.
Thanks Virgo for joining. I am just laughing because it actually happened to one of my best friend??? would you believe hat? Of course the real friend had to tell the "friend" who is most likely to be hurt when a relationship is developing between he two and bam just disappears???? Hmmnn help. I don't know Virgo
On the side, thanks for you joining us. and my friend, lives there now from my country, California..
Sr
hmmnn
opinions. It is black and white for me, it might not be with
others.
SCENARIO, OPTIONAL ON THIS ARGUMENT..IF JESUS WHO IS A SON OF GOD, HAD BEEN TEMPTED FOR SO MANY TIMES, HE IS GOD, CAN HE ALMOST GAVE UP, would that, for purposes of argument be enough to look at it from the gray area? Of our feeling? I think question is how RELIABLE, IS OUR FEELING TO SUFFICE WITH LOGIC AND REASON?
And yes I agree, the POSSESSIVENESS IS THAT WHICH BURY THE RELATIONSHIP TO ITS ULTIMATE DEMISE. And I am not accountable to that area???? At least (yet) that I know of in my 50 some years of existence... Cat? Great POINT. Cat. How lucky and blessed is my friend. I tell you that.. congratulations..
It would be very difficult to give a scenario about what is the right about of jealousy. I think it would depend on the individuals in the relationship. Some individuals may not tolerate any of it; whereas, another couple may find it endearing to have just a little where it shows him or her the partner cares.
I really do not know. That is why communication within a relationship is critical. Or when it comes to dating women, be a mind reader....
HISTORICAL POINT. SHAKESPEARE ELABORATED ON THE MAIN REASON WHY A GREAT MAN, ACCORDING TO THE PEOPLE OF ROME THROUGH MARK ANTHONY'S SPEECH HAD BEEN BRUTALLY KILLED BECAUSE OF JEALOUSY? Yet they were all pictured as great communicator? Conclusion: for me, the commission of the act of jealousy has no bearing to our expertise in the field of communicating albeit it will work after the act is done and we are ironing out. correct? Maybe??
Just a thought. Might be easier said than done.
Biggest mistake I ever made was to say that yes there are better looking women in the world and there are also better looking men but I chose you.... unfortunately only the first sentence ever registered in their brain cells. Then spent the next 25 yrs trying to convince they was the one...
Thanks again. Virgo
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No connection because there's no feelings. It's a simple matter. If she's tired of me there is no way I am going to try to convince her to stay!
Thanks for your participation.
SR
Men Who are jealousy of me , I have had plenty.
Thats very difficult to handle for the other person, its so destructive to them , i try always to nip it in the bud by relating it to the issue of trust.
I would rather walk away then and there if the man has doubts if he could trust me or not. Because i know if he cannot that will always be' his problem , not one i am willing to deal with. Simply because I know myself very well.
If hes the type that feels jealousy over every man looking at me , then its a problem of possessivenes, and what woman Wants to live with that ?
After all , he likes me because i look good, then hes jealous because other men thInk the same.
Its a no brainer for me .
And a no Go zone.
Thanks for the lead on the books. They sound interesting. I will check into them.
SR