JEALOUSY AND ITS EFFECT TO OUR RELATIONSHIP
One of the darkest sentiment ever given to us, human, when it comes to love, is this feeling, JEALOUSY. At least to me quite parallel to HATE, AND EVEN ENVY. But in a love relationship between lovers, this seems to me the most elaborate reason why our love ends or die even as we declare, proclaim that our love will never die. It will last forever. It will weather all the dark storms we will have to face. Challenges we will confront will not prevail because we love each other so much. In fact, TILL DEATH DO US PART?(not really till jealousy kills our love?) Then one day. Bam! Someone was brave enough to give you the bad news that actually you are not the only one in his or her heart. How do we handle it? Is there a system quite established to follow? So we are not going to be a victim of this crippling, damaging feeling?All through the years, my personal observation, at least to most of my friends, and those that are known to me, including but not limited to so many famous people is the feeling of jealousy that which eroded that beautiful, heavenly, pure love we once had.
Cheating, triggers, this emotion. Then it escalates to a very hurtful feeling. The problem is, when in the beginning when there is not yet enough and or sufficient evidence, as to the existence of insincerity, or disloyalty or cheating from whom we love, how do we address it? Will our preliminary steps, account to the success and or failure of our goal? Which is of course to either, re cement and or end our relationship. Taken into considerations are the time and effort we have been with him or her that we love. When do we walk away and when do we forgive. And if we do forgive, is there any sufficient success? Or is the passion diminished and dead?
If you stay, why? If you decide not to why?
Thanks all for your participation.
NOTE: IS THERE A CONNECTION BETWEEN OUR FEELINGS WITH OUR REASON? AND OR LOGIC? TO TEMPER AND GUIDE OUR REACTION AND EVENTUAL DECISION? QUESTION? RELIABILITY OF OUR FEELINGS? IS IT A MATTER FOR AND AGAINST THE HEART AND THEREFORE, WONT EVER USE REASON? FOR FORGIVENESS? REMEMBER THAT WE AREN'T PERFECT LIKE SPOCK..OR THERE WOULD BE NONE OF THESE TO BEGIN WITH?
SR
Comments (53)
I just bought the one by Fine. What book by Kahlil Gibran would you recommend, The Prophet?
Yes a good blog discussion!!! Jealousy....
I think most emotions that we go through are acceptable...it means we are alive!!...and who wants to be devoid of emotions...good or bad...but if your thoughts become clouded...full with negativity or obsessive...is this healthy to continue to invest in that relationship?
thank you all.
SR
Now how is your weather there? Did you get my mnessage? Should you want to come down here in West Coast let me know?
Thanks my dear.
wow thankyou so very much!
A very thought provoking question always is, aren't we bound to make a mistake in our life? I know it is very important to lay down all our traits favorable to find from the one that will hold the key to our hearts but what if at one time, not many times and not even the nature of this love of yours to astray, lost, beyond understanding, but it happened, would there be any kind of compassion from your heart to at least listen to his reason and establish a reasonable ground to make sure it wont happen again? But like what NS mentioned, we do have accountability to our feelings inherent to what we want to do and how we want to do in our lives. Yes, it would be nice always, if we find him that we are looking for ad then fulfills all that is absolutely what we need, want and love for in life? THEN MY QUESTION IS HELLO PERFECT WORLD?
Thank you my dear.
SR
Thanks to all.
Respectfully,
SR
Take care
Your friend fromCalifornia
Phyllis
Love you my friend.
Phyllis
I wish if some man can take so much of my interest
thanks..
Your friend at the CS great place
SR