I was getting 'concerned' not to have seen you post in so long a time.............
if you do indeed turn into 'bones' please remember to keep your CS membership and keep posting and tell us all what it is like away from all the pain and stuff left behind!
Keep fighting for as long as you like - when you decide you nolonger wish to fight, then I hope you find eternal peace.
Maybe I'm nolonger banned - I am allowed to comment on my own blog!
Thank you, CS staff...........
Thank you all who have kindly posted nice things about my father - even those of you who dislike me intensely.
Yes, my father was indeed a gentleman. I loved him dearly, and love all the memories I have of him - there is nothing I can remember bad about him.
For anybody in Gozo/Malta who'd like to 'pay their respects' the funeral has been arranged for 3 p.m. on Wednesday 20th August at the Santa Maria cemetery in Gozo. It's easy to get to - you travel on the main road from Mgarr to Victoria. You hit the ONLY set of traffic lights in Gozo (by Xewkija) and hang a RIGHT - the cemetery is a couple of hundred yards on the left in the general direction of Xaghra.
Please do NOT send/bring any flowers. My father has strongly expressed in his will that he wishes NO FLOWERS - if you have a favourite charity please bung a few cents to your charity in his memory........ he'd appreciate that.
My father was born on 31st January 1919 and was over 89.5 when he died on 14th August 2008 - just happened to have also been my son's 23rd birthday.
He has been living in Gozo since 1970 and retired there in 1973. He enjoyed 35 years of retirement after a very interesting career working all over the world. He met my mother in 1937 when he was a young man of 18 and she was only 13. He took her on dates to the cinema getting one ticket for himself as an adult and one for my mum as a child! They got engaged a few years later and married in 1945 - they were married for over 63.5 years!
My mother is still alive and has just celebrated her 84th birthday. She has been paralysed since January 2005, but really enjoys meeting people and has an excellent memory and a keen interest in the 'world outside'.
My dad is now dead. I'm not the gentleman he was, and I also know that I'm not capable of looking after my mother for 21 hours out of every 24. I hope and pray that I can come up with a solution that ensures that she is well-taken care of for the rest of her life.
I remember feeling very sad after my grandmother's funeral that my dad had not made arrangements for friends and family to meet up afterwards - he just didn't think of it. I hope that anybody from CS who feels they'd like to come to the funeral would also meet up afterwards so that we can remember him and recount a few stories and wish him well with a drink to his memory and many happy thoughts.
Thank you to all of you who have kindly posted comments to this blog.
Best wishes to you all - and I am especially touched and grateful to the kind comments of both lagoona and Jacko, both of whom I have had personal differences.
Good luck and well done with your attitude - making friends is wonderful and if that friend turns out to be something much more and your life is enriched beyond your wildest dreams that's fantastic.........
too many people assume too much out of a relationship, so enjoying friendship puts you in a 'win, win' situation rather than having huge expectations that might leave you disappointed and bitter.
With your positive attitude you'll not only make some great friends but attract the right man for you!
I got married at 23.5 years of age and the marriage lasted 10 years; she wasn't the first love of my life but a good woman - however, I should have realised after three weeks it wasn't going to work. You're lucky it only lasted a few months if it wasn't meant to be!
I've been married and divorced now three times - you can say that I'm a failure in relationships, but then you could also say I should have given up and died years ago - NO WAY!
Love is an extraordinary thing. It takes some of us decades to find the right person - or for ourselves to change into being the right person to attract and find the right person.
Suffering is part of life. We ALL suffer - whether we appear to have everything possible in life like some spoilt Paris Hilton, or are brought up in real poverty.
What makes us different is how we cope with suffering - and there is no worse mental suffering for a man to have lost a woman he really loves.
Try not to blame yourself or the woman you have lost. Try and accept that it just 'wasn't meant to be'.
Relax.
Life is good.
You shall know love again.
You have nothing to fear and nothing to feel really angry and bitter about.
I don't think, for most people, finding the right person to marry is easy.
I think you'll have to be more patient and less eager - and maybe you should refine the image in your mind of who you want......... from your profile you seem to be quite happy with the idea of meeting a man old enough to be your father - if this is not true then you should change your profile or you'll attract the wrong type of man!
I've just done a tickle test on 'Karma'........ I think your 'Karma' is good from what happened, but you do have a conflict - the interests of the students versus the needs of what appears to be a not very good teacher.
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RE: catching up
I was getting 'concerned' not to have seen you post in so long a time.............if you do indeed turn into 'bones' please remember to keep your CS membership and keep posting and tell us all what it is like away from all the pain and stuff left behind!
Keep fighting for as long as you like - when you decide you nolonger wish to fight, then I hope you find eternal peace.
Good luck!