Silverlining2 Blog Comments (113)

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Ed.....I agree. Also, it seems drinking in moderation is not a necessity for most. For example, I am not drinking alcohol for January and February as part of a detox thingie. I miss it, but only because I enjoy having a beer with the footy occasionally. It doesn't trouble me. I don't think smokers can do that so easily. Maybe I'm wrong.....

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Haha!!! Exactly....you need your own motivation to give up!!! Cheers Ded!

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KNenagh....you share my habituals! A colleague of mine gave up smoking through hypnotherapy, total success, no side effects. Then, 3 years later, decided to start smoking again. Go figure

By the way, you're in Aachen? That's pretty close by!

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Ekself....an agreement! Woohoo! Let's drink to that!! Thanks for your input :-)

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GoDaniel....good for you! You're absolutely right of course, but I love a beer when the match is on....! Each to their own

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Smart....thank you, and good luck cutting back. You CAN do it :-)

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Redex....yes, that's what I thought. The glamourous approach by advertisers. Thanks for your input :-)

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DON'T GO THERE!!!!!

Gotta go to work....I'll catch up with this later.

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Smart...I agree, why drink excessively? I drink socially, the nature of my job excludes any other form of drinking. But drinking alcohol is social. A night out with the boys, a glass of wine with dinner, Champagne to see in the new year.....I still don't see a social benefit to smoking cigarettes. There are many parallels between drinking and smoking, and I can't really argue against them. The difference to me is that I can understand the desire to start drinking....but not smoking. So, why did you put a cigarette in your mouth for the first time?

RE: Advice me

I think its all been said. Move on. Learn from this and move on.

RE: He said I am a negative energy

No trouble Shay. I have nothing to hide. I just don't like being talked about untruthfully, especially in a public forum. It's not a school playground, you're an adult. It's easy to put across a perception of being a victim, and you have got plenty of sympathy for this terrible person who treated you so badly in your time of need and is unworthy of your friendship. But dealing with the truth takes more courage and maturity.

We grew apart, no blame, no issue. It happens. At least I was honest from day one. Can you say the same?

Incidentally, this is a discussion that should take place in private. But you decided to post this blog, knowing full well I would read it. Your choice.

RE: He said I am a negative energy

We both know it was me you were referring to, Shay, and its rather unfair to write twisted versions of the truth. Believe it or not, I also have some major issues in my life lately. I tried not to dwell on those issues in order to try and be the friend I thought you wanted. If that's selfish then fair enough, I'm guilty. You were ignoring me long before your family tragedy. You had made your mind up about me without having the integrity to inform me, so I think its a little false to paint yourself as the injured party here.

RE: He said I am a negative energy

Probably nobody will read this now, the blog is too far in history. But lets just put some things into perspective. I am the one being talked down upon in this blog, but it has nothing to do with the sad loss of Shay's brother. I have been quite close to Shay over the last couple of years or so, and we have shared a lot. I have told her more about myself than anyone else on this site, and we became a little emotionally involved with each other. However her attitude towards me changed significantly, and in fact most of my messages to her were simply ignored. Fair enough, people move on. When Shay's brother passed away I sent her my heartfelt thoughts and condolences, which were accepted. I tried several more times to talk to her. Not about her brother, but anything else, tried to be a friend to her. Simply put, I got fed up with being ignored, so I told her, as she was obviously not interested in my friendship, that I would delete her contact details, and wished her good fortune with her life. She replied saying that basically I was correct that she was less interested in my friendship, but wanted me to take hints rather than tell me the truth.

I don't believe in airing one's grievances with other CS members, it's very unpleasant to read. But if you're going to do it, you can expect a response.

Shay, I enjoyed our friendship while it lasted. You'll make somebody very happy some day. But you need to learn how to deal with people.

Your former friend

RE: Complaints Dept. - Holiday season Special .. Haha

12. “It took us nine hours to fly home from Jamaica to England. It took the Americans only three hours to get home. This seems unfair.”

Awesome! Thanks for the smiles

RE: Mr. Right...Ms. Right

My opinion.....yes they exist. But my experience (twice divorced) would suggest that you don't know unless you take a huge gamble. Someone can tick all your boxes but turn out to be a complete mismatch after time spent living together.

People "looking for Mr/Mrs Right are disillusioned if they think they can work out in advance who that person is. Life's a lottery, but you gotta be in it to win it

RE: Beware i can see right through YOU...:banger

I've never had a mirror I could see through....

RE: mmm

Aisha.....yes.

RE: mmm

I thought it over. no thanks....

RE: mmm

I'm tempted. I love entering into lifetime legal and financial commitments with people I've never met. Give me some time to think your proposal over......

RE: Age Does Matter

"Silver" now, is it? First name terms....I like!!! Anyway, I'm away now for a couple of weeks, so it would be pointless to say something and then disappear for a while. See you when I'm home again

RE: Age Does Matter

So, what to do, what to do.....

PM....too obvious.
Flower....too cheesy.
Comment on how attractive the lady is....see both of the above.

So....I'll do what I usually do in these situations. Sit back and hope the lady makes the first move. Yup, ladies and gentlemen, there's a reason why I'm 42 and single

Still, nice to have given you a giggle or two, and maybe our paths will cross again

RE: Age Does Matter

You gotta be.....right?

RE: Age Does Matter

Woohoo! I'm still in with a shout

RE: Age Does Matter

I'm interested to know what you consider to be too young, and what you consider to be too old? I get from your comments that its more a maturity thing than an age thing, but there must be an age that, if you see on a profile, makes you think "no...."?

RE: random acts of awesomeness

Well, thank God Texas is there to show the world a spot of normality, hey?

Is it only me?

Thankyou for all your replies, it's made for interesting reading.

Or, in other words.....ty 4 ur replys its bin gr8

Is it only me?

Papermate....I'm not really referring to an occasional error, or mistakes in the English language. i meen ppl wot av no idea wot english shud luk lik n spk all the time in txt wiv no attemt to use puntuashun at all no wot i meen?

But yes, I can't help making initial judgements on people from their posts, fair or otherwise.

Is it only me?

So it seems there are two schools of thought on the subject, I thought I was in a minority but it would appear not!

The thing is, as the old saying goes, you only get one chance to make a first impression. Bad grammar, spelling, punctuation tells me one of two things. Either a lack of ability with the language, or a lack of caring how they come across. If its a lack of linguistic ability from a native English speaker then I'm afraid it gives me the impression that they are intellectually below the standard I would like to communicate with. That could be a completely false impression, but once it's out there, it's hard to undo. If somebody doesn't care how they come across.....then to put it simply, why should I care either?

Shay (its easier to say than anisiltir) your written English puts many native English speakers to shame. That's one reason I took you seriously from the first time we spoke

RE: somthng u don know bt thing abt its simplicity mra

Could I refer you to my blog?

Is it only me?

Rebecca....exactly!!!!!

Welela....good point, I hadn't actually considered that point of view

Ed....nonsmoker.....yes! What more can I say?

KNenagh...exactly! It's not the best first impression, is it?

Abagail....fooled you I am English, but I've lived in Holland or Belgium for 20 years now. Agree with you wholeheartedly though, textese is horrible.

Is this a good time to say that I use txt speak on occasions as well? But I think there's a time and place for it, and public forums is not that

Anyway.....peace y'alls, I'm off to bed to dream in full words and phrases!!!