"I think many people get into a relationship and they believe they are happy. (Of course I am speaking of people who have not found internal happiness within themselves.) As time goes on, they begin to realize they are not truly happy. Not so much with the relationship, but deep down, not happy within themselves. "
Deep down on the inside, I believe we all want to be saved. I speak from my past. Being alone is lonely. I've been alone more in my life than in relationship. Being alone is the unhappy state. We can fake the smile and produce the laughs with family and friends but inside we dying from the poison of loneliness. I been there. I be back there one day. I know we all destine to travel those last steps alone. It the one common future we all share. It unite us in an evil feeling of unhappiness.
Petal, I thought she have a trouble after the break up. Suffer from the I not sure the word in English, but like metaphor. She the rat. The touture is the . The comfort is finding those things that we seek.
Ken sums it up. "Move on." It the hard task sometime, but you young, attractive, unattached, free from burdens (kids). You should be singing the happy Chinese song about your future!
After torture? Does some person have more trouble forgetting the past than another, dependent on their personal experiences. If you take tortured rat and give him the comfort we all seek, like food, mate, and shelter, the rat return to more normal behavior compared to rat that was tortured and put in uncomfortable environment.
Ed, you the intelligent man, to recognize the inherent desires and its relationship to the seed placement. So many not understand their neighbor's biology protocol.
RE: Why oh why?
If they were really interested in YOU, they would read YOUR profile.