WOW... you just totally described me and I am sitting here alone feeling really unappreciated....well, maybe you appreciate me, THANKS, ya made me feel lots better and today is one day I just need to feel better.
Not sure about this site...but I do know that others have controls in the profile options to show who you are looking for. You can select an age range which will exclude the boys and land you in the arms of a fully qualified very very lucky man! I think you can go back to your profile and edit it to reflect your choices on "what I'm looking for"....
I think it's a very romantic and definitely an applaudable notion that you have. It's the old fashioned way of thinking and there's nothing at all wrong with it. However, today so many people want to have everything that is so readily available...for just a few more dollars!....Nowadays, it's not uncommon for a woman to work or to make significantly more money than her spouse. I know so many people who work only to afford so much that they can not enjoy because they have to work so much to have it. Then, there are so many (in my case, so many ladies...) that do not appreciate what is provided for them. I've provided shelter, food, a decent but far from luxurious home, vehicles that are dependable and decent to drive....and the women have walked away because I'm tired and don't feel up to going out and visiting or playing... tired from working every day while she had a regular 40 hour job but never did anything in the yard. Yet, I had to do all the maintenance and home improvement when I wasn't working for money. It gets disheartening because all I ever wanted from any woman was to be appreciated and to never be left alone...so, here I sit, building a beautiful home in a fairly luxurious location, don't owe any money, in the middle of the boonies, totally alone and haven't seen another human for several days...but I'm here, I've got all I need...good food, fine clothing, excellent shelter and my internet friends.... so, if I find a woman who can appreciate me, where I live, and my home then I welcome her with open arms...but one who doesn't want to share all of it responsibly and will not participate in the work to make or build or provide this home....I hope she doesn't ever offer herself to me as I've already lost much of my life on expectations and empty promises after I worked so hard to give all of myself that I could give. I was an emotional wreck when I came to these dating sites but have found friendship and have recovered and healed and in no way want another emotionally destructive relationship... I just want one who will be what she says she will be and simply honest is all I can ask for. As a matter of fact...it isn't at all what I want that matters but only what I expect and my expectations have not changed since I first married 30 years ago....3 wives ago, 3 children ago, seems like 3 life times ago......
Take it for what it's worth.... definitely not to hurt but to give you my little bit of tips. Basically, you're a very nice looking lady and appear to have the huge quality factor of being slim and not overweight. Ya got it going for ya but ya gotta do something with it. Put some life into your hair, add some make up....use a digital camera and take about 100 or more pics then choose the best one or two and get opinions from others as to which is the best pics. Too, look directly at the camera and not away from it. Then work on that profile...it is BLAH! Nothing exciting and nothing inviting. Men generally pounce on ladies like a pack of wolves if she looks like she is overflowing with hormones... they want to see some attitude be it smiles or smirks ...but blank looks and blank stares draw only blanks.
On profiles ... well, you're advertising, you make yourself sound good with standard trite expressions but throw in some creative way of making it look new and different. You don't have to reveal anything...state only the basics (nice guy, likes fishing, nascar, etc) that's about all that's required. On the first meeting...she's checking out your physical appearance and general conversation...don't volunteer anything...just answer questions and talk to her like a friend you've known for many years. Again, don't give too many details and don't pull the skeletons out of your closet...wait until she gets to know you good enough that she can pick up tid bits here and there and you can trust her emotions. Just be relaxed and whatever you do...be honest above all else and never ever lie. It would be better to simply say "I don't want to / can't talk about it" than to lie.
I could get a lot of flack for this...but something tells me you've been handed to all of your life and you've never learned to appreciate but only to demand. You come across as one who never knew that you are supposed to be responsible and do not know what it means to be responsible. In my guess of who you are and how you got to be the way you are I'd guess that everytime you had a problem you never solved it on your own but whined or cried or threatened until you got what you wanted...then you never appreciated it because you seldom ever gave up anything to get what you wanted. This does not mean you are not a worthy person. It only is what I get out of what you've written. What you're really missing is something very importing... you do not know or have "meaning and purpose". One very helpful and simple solution... wake up every morning, look in the mirror and shout "I AM SOME BODY!" Then do everything you can to live up to being some body. If you don't mean anything to anyone and no one appreciates you then you are no body.... ask yourself "When's the last time I did something nice for someone without expecting or asking for anything in return?" Too...get rid of the rebellious garb... ditch the body piercings. Get down with being real and not some decorated spectacle... learn to love yourself so others can love you too. Only you can take down that curtain that divides you from the rest of the world.
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WOW... you just totally described me and I am sitting here alone feeling really unappreciated....well, maybe you appreciate me, THANKS, ya made me feel lots better and today is one day I just need to feel better.