Congrats on your new beginnings in Spain. Heres to an even better 2018 for u.
U seem a very strong determined woman...well done on all uve achieved.
2017 was for me not one of my best ones. Alot of health problems. Work problems. And relationship problems.
My health has slowly improved and getting better. Have alot of plans for 2018 and now that i feel much better i can hopefully i can see those plans through in 2018
Very good blog Molly. I think there should be more of this and less of the politics n religion. It is a dating site after all.
Saw a film once called Hope Floats there was a line at the end where Sandra Bullock said. " Your childhood is what u spend your adult life trying to get over"...that's not verbatim but close.
And I agree with this when it comes to dating our parents are of a generation where divorce was not heard of...where u failed in life if u left ur family for another man/woman....so marriages were just always going to be longer as it was more about the religious aspect of the union...granted probably most wanted to stay together.
We grew up seeing the stability this gave to both our parents and to ourselves...this with the church's stance on divorce brain washed us into thinking that it was one man for life.
We grow up thinking that's the way it has to be...until our adult mind kicks in and starts to question every thing.
I'm very like u in the respect that I do have this feeling of wanting security so much that I almost sabotage the relationship...trying to learn not to do that so much anymore.
I think for myself going forward and on the advice of someone I know all my life who is with h r husband since she was 17....they are now togethere 27 years. She said that while her husband is still her best friend she never fully gives all of herself to him...she keeps things back just for herself. ..I didn't want to be nosey and ask what she meant exactly but I think it's the fact that she doesn't lose herself in the other person. That she is so happy in her own skin and knows for herself she can survive any breakup and is realistic about life and the attraction between two people can wane and has its ebbs that it has made her live for the moment.
Its something I will be doing for sure I'm not sure if this is even in keeping wit has hat ur trying to say but just giving my opinion. Best of luck..we all need happiness
I'm not the best at articulation but I'll try my best.
In my own opinion I think we are here just as much to find out more about ourselves as we are to try/ or not to meet someone else...
Knowing your own self is a lifelong journey and some figure out more quicker than others what their own purpose here on this earth is....when u do I really do not feel the word "alone" comes into it...because once u know urself ur next quest is to know those around you and be of service to others...and in doing that ur never alone.
That's what's meant to feed us in my own opinion...being of service and giving of urself to others. For some this means being in a relationship..starting a family and raising those kids to be healthy functioning adults. For others it means having numerous relationships throughout their lives. For some it means being without a partner in life.
What we need to realise is the mother who chooses to be married and have her 4 or 5 kids could be an individual who never "found herself" but lost herself into the life she choose and this woman is probably more lonely and alone than the person who is living their life with no partner at all!!....that for me is the more upsetting outcome and for me that's why I choose to be alone but not lonely.
I may never find my someone and I may find them tomorrow....it's not really my concern...what my concern is to figure me out and figure then how to help others try and do the same...
I'm still learning not to bite back when someone comes at me in anger.
Bit trying to see that it's not about me it's about them and how they are choosing to b handle the situation. I just try to remember that nothing is worth letting someone try push ur buttons. But I'm still learning
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RE: Dear Anonymous......
You dont see me but i see you.I see you as my perfect other person.
U are all that im looking for.
Just wish u wud see me