Advice for a 25 year old

I really appreciate and thankful for the advice on here.
I will agree that we may only know the tip of the full story....I know this girl well and to say she's the most sincere ,well meaning girl with no tendencies for anything wrong...yes that may sound unrealistic but she genuinely is just a nice person who is a great mother...her only downfall is that she is too laid back and quiet and clearly not able or at least used to standing up for herself.

She went out for 2 drinks with her mam the other night, he was able to tell her when she got home etc....as if he has people with eyes on her , or worse he is stalking the road outside her house at night...either is a possibility.

For back ground this man did drugs in his youth...was kicked out of home...but gave it all up and works,apparently, long hours on a farm...his behaviour when it escalated made us all think thay maybe he is back on drugs...as, and this is the strangest part...he has a joint account with HIS MOTHER...not his wife....5k gone missing that he can't or won't account for.

He blocked her mother on social media yet felt he could just drive up and walk in without knocking to her house.

Yet when her father arrived one day he hot tailed it out the other door and drove off...coward that he is...
Chesney I knew him shortly before the wedding and to be honest he seemed lovely..Nice...although I found it strange that he was unusually shy around some off us..and the eye contact wasn't the best.. but I put it down to shyness...and just overwhelmed with meeting new people.
If I thought she was at fault with anything I would say it but she is just genuinely a lovely girl who now even though they are separated still entertains him, ( for his sake ie suicide, for the kids sake, for what people will say sake, or simply because she is so used to the control she's unable to stop it).

She is going to counselling, seperate to him and also with him for counselling...he is also seeing a counsellor separate...the marriage counsellor told both of them that he is abusing her that it is coercive control and what not and told him not to contact her or see her unless it's about the boys , but yet he has contacted and demanded to see her every day since.

Her father wanted to have a word with him..she refused it...he is now going to the local garda to make a record for her sake..but don't know how well its will hold up given its not direct from her.

I'm.struggling at this stage to understand where she's even coming from at the moment as her actions aren't one of someone who wants all this to end...so it's a hard one as you can't do anything without her approval yet she's slow to go to solicitors just yet.

Thank you all sincerely...I do thank you..its consuming us all ..there's so much more but it would take forever to type it all out.
If you are praying people please say one for her and her boys xxxx

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Advice for a 25 year old

It is subtly underhand manipulation...these men should be in jail.
At least your friend is out of the marital home and I hope she has good people around her like you to support her. Xx

Advice for a 25 year old

Not if her life depended on it is she coming on here...she's far too young and going through far too much. Xtongue

Advice for a 25 year old

How is your friend now Grand?

Advice for a 25 year old

All great advice...all that she has been given...one day she's telling us she's done with him and not going back and in fact is afraid of him.
Next day she is entertaining unannounced visits from him...he bursts into her mothers house unannounced etc....he isn't good with his kids...they are going to a couple counsellor where the counsellor has told him he is committing domestic abuse acts...and that he needs to leave his wife alone only unless its to pick up and drop off kids...and he ignored all that....they had their 3rd visit tonight so we will know more tomorrow on how that went.

RE: Life is like eastders proramme

Again a narcissistic trait...

RE: Life is like eastders proramme

All in retaliation to yours ..always, don't play the victim...ur the perpetrator , always!! Don't forget that....misogynist pig.

RE: Life is like eastders proramme

And you picked it you say...typical narcissistic trait...surprised you didn't call her Johnette, let's hope she doesn't inherit your bad teeth and grease hair.

Advice for a 25 year old

Well no we don't want that for either...bit she's been through a lot with him and still manages to keep her cool and head about her.

Advice for a 25 year old

She is very slow to do anything that will seem severe and push him over the edge...she said she was afraid of him yet is slow to put the steps in motion ...we are baffled by her as it should be herself she looks after first then her kids...he shouldn't even be on the list....yet he calls to her unannounced a d can seem to tell her what's she's up to when he isn't around...it has all the mark of it going in a dark direction but she's still controlled and Brain washed...its difficult to look at

RE: Life is like eastders proramme

Sure you did roll eyes

RE: Age and sex

You hit first on my thread...so off you f*ck and talk to someone who cares John....and for god sake put up a photo thata relevant to your age and ugly looks....

RE: Age and sex

Thats how John operates.

RE: Age and sex

I'm neither but your just frustrated because I've no interest in you and never will.
Embrace your old age John and get over yourself.

RE: Movies, your favorite(s) and why?

Well the trailer looks good Gal...I'm sure I won't be.
Ya I saw that...what was he thinking lol...seems far reaching from his usual picks of movie wow laugh

RE: Grease star passes away.

Same here ,John Travolta is one of those old school gentleman I feel too...and genuinely lovely.

They were a great duo, would have made a great real life couple

RE: Age and sex

Yet ye were just emailing roll eyes god ur insufferably stupid.

RE: Age and sex

Why did you ask her her age then you dope roll eyes

Advice for a 25 year old

.....Next sleep

RE: Share a saying kids today will not know or appreciate?

Let's stand for the national anthem at thee end of the day's television broadcasting.

RE: Age and sex

It depends on the two people and their maturity levels and common morals and outlooks on life...that can take the form of a younger mN older woman and vice versa...it can mean same age....it all depends on the individuals obviously....personally I find and ways have found older men attractive and more sexuallt experienced....I have also dating some men who were much younger than me and while they offer a totally different form of fun it was always going to be temporary , on my end.
I feel its just a matter of maturity of both individuals heart wings

RE: Tall men and women.. Vs short

More power to them, I just don't find it aesthetically pleasing....its just my opinion....I would never date a man shorter than me and that's just my preference.

Advice for a 25 year old

I'm in a position where a young married woman in my life has found herself now separated from her husband of 5 months....with 2 boys by him.

I was at her wedding, a nice smart beautiful funny and laid back young woman with everything going for her, had suddenly found herself with a man who ( according to her bridemaids had just married a man who instantly changed as quick as enroute to their reception).

We had no inclination that anything was wrong...but in the last 5 months he suddenly and sneakily had been coercively controlling her.
Not giving her money, checking her phone, not "allowing" her out...not helping with the kids...having affairs...smashing up the house when he accused her of cheating ( she never did)...manipulated her....and these are just the beginning...she has left thr marital home and is living with her mother....he is still controlling her by constantly ringing...and we suspect stalking her every move...she seems to still be under his spell.

I'm at loss as are those close to her as to what to do...her character , being bubbly, happy care free is almost gone...yet she still entertains him.as just recently he has threatened suicide.

Any advice?

RE: Movies, your favorite(s) and why?

More of a comedy I'd say with those two laugh thanks Karl.. I'll try the one u mentioned before this one handshake

RE: Movies, your favorite(s) and why?

Love him, I've yet to watch half Nelson which is meant to be great with him in it too.
I'll give this a go..ta gal.
There's another movie called drive with him in it...don't waste ur time though it was shockingly bad

RE: The reality of Life

Wouldn't know how

RE: Age and sex

thumbs up

RE: The reality of Life

Goes without saying

RE: What kind of qualities do you want in your life partner?

Honesty, integrity, kindness compassion and a good sense of humour and loyal

RE: Grease star passes away.

"Your Danny" crying

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