Apparently everyone's reading skills are limited. Considering my profile does not actually stipulate only asian and indian or muslim women...of course reading is fundamental.
Next again under the reading is fundamental....I also read other people's profiles which means I am not going to send mail to anyone who my profile does not match (i.e. if they are looking for a christian then I guess since I am muslim and not converting back...we would not be a match...) But you know...it don't matter anymore.
Nothing matters, why because I learned one thing people are very quick to give the wrong advice...and very slow to give the right advice. While you all may be fine and dandy with emailing some1 in your own town or city etc for months on end just to try to figure out if you can have a cup of coffee....I am not.
I also know 2 things in life...first of all there is not relationship without friendship....and there is no friendship with communication. I am not going to say I like some one or I love someone from emails alone. If I can see their actions, if I can see their eyes when a question is asked, etc...then it is not a relationship or even a friendship. it is just a meaningless waste of time...for what?
SO say as you may but luckily this site has decent forums & free games...coz I ain't going to waste my time trying to learn about someone when everyone wants to hide behind their LCD screens.
Rushing...some you really need to learn reading comprehension because if you even read the original blog then you would see that my frustration is with several months of email to people in the same country. If you can meet someone in a public place full of other people...then there is nothing to continue corresponding about. I never said anything about rushing through anything, nor have I even close to given anyone the impression I am in a hurry but if being direct by say listen am willing to work on friendship if it is going somewhere. I don't need any more friends especially only online friends...as I said I don't have any problems meeting friends male or female in real life.
You know realism...am not trying to find someone far away from me because I know that most times it will be very hard on me and that person.
So I look local but all I seem to find are people who only want to be friends. Don't get me wrong...friends are great. However, I did not join a singles online dating website just to find friends... Finding friends has never been a problem for me...
Problem still that near is great when there is potential. Near is great if the person and I share same focus. Going to bed with someone immediately is not my focus. Never has been. Finding that special someone to share my life with is my focus.
Honestly, rushing things is always wrong. However really after 1 month people should generally know where they stand with each other. I understand laws of attraction too. Can't make someone be attracted to me. Can't make someone answer emails or flowers.
Let's see out of 72 women in my local area, 24 with picture, and 12 that actually come online....one might guess that maybe just 1 or 2 would return reply.
Okay so yes have had 1 or 2 return reply. But like was said in earlier comment if it is just 1 line or 1 word reply...What I do?
Finally, when it comes to reading profiles. Sure people put up their ideal match preference as a guideline. However, to me if a person cannot take the time to read a profile then that also means possibly that person will not take the time to even listen to the person they are "interested in" so why take the chance of being shot down when if I just read what they ask for see if I match and go from there. Again can't make someone like you when you are not the person they are looking for.
DMOUSE of you check back, why is okay for a woman to put long term or marriage in their profile but it is not okay for a man to do so.
To me that implies a double standard.
I didnt join this website to play around. There are too many local girls outside that I could just play around with.
No, am not desperate or in a hurry but some how either I am doing something completely wrong or just asking for a date doesn't seem to be unreasonable.
Yet as I said before +500 days and not counting... I figured I would be a little further than still exchanging emails...
What I forgot to say is that this is all written in regards to same country, same city. Long distance relationships are a totally different situation that requires patience and devotion to keep up communication until schedules present a time for meeting face-to-face.
It don't get any easier for black men overseas either. I had a hard time in the US and am running into the same "invisible" wall that most say isn't there.
I find it funny that people say; "Race not matter..." but their actions betray their words.
I have discovered over the years, some of the excuses women use: (see if you have heard any of these)
- i like you but my family would not approve - your just not like I imagined black men to be... - my friends say black men are cheap and play too many games - Well I never really thought about dating a black man... - I hear black men always beating on their women...
Yes even in this place, in the middle of the desert, far from the grand shores of the US...it seems there is no solution to your question....
bdbtpl2009 Blog Comments (8)
Rushing or just Realism...
Apparently everyone's reading skills are limited. Considering my profile does not actually stipulate only asian and indian or muslim women...of course reading is fundamental.Next again under the reading is fundamental....I also read other people's profiles which means I am not going to send mail to anyone who my profile does not match (i.e. if they are looking for a christian then I guess since I am muslim and not converting back...we would not be a match...) But you know...it don't matter anymore.
Nothing matters, why because I learned one thing people are very quick to give the wrong advice...and very slow to give the right advice. While you all may be fine and dandy with emailing some1 in your own town or city etc for months on end just to try to figure out if you can have a cup of coffee....I am not.
I also know 2 things in life...first of all there is not relationship without friendship....and there is no friendship with communication. I am not going to say I like some one or I love someone from emails alone. If I can see their actions, if I can see their eyes when a question is asked, etc...then it is not a relationship or even a friendship. it is just a meaningless waste of time...for what?
SO say as you may but luckily this site has decent forums & free games...coz I ain't going to waste my time trying to learn about someone when everyone wants to hide behind their LCD screens.
Rushing...some you really need to learn reading comprehension because if you even read the original blog then you would see that my frustration is with several months of email to people in the same country. If you can meet someone in a public place full of other people...then there is nothing to continue corresponding about. I never said anything about rushing through anything, nor have I even close to given anyone the impression I am in a hurry but if being direct by say listen am willing to work on friendship if it is going somewhere. I don't need any more friends especially only online friends...as I said I don't have any problems meeting friends male or female in real life.