miamigirl Blog Comments (4)

RE: OUT OF MY SYSTEM....

Hi I just read your post and my heart goes out to you. Something similiar happened to me about two years ago. Me and this guy were going strong for two years and then one day out of the blue, he sent me packing without a word. I just noticed a bag with all the clothes I had at his house returned and I did not even notice until a day after. He never gave me an explaination or even called to say wht. he had done. It took me over six months to get over it, I was in a state of shock and felt betrayal. Like you I just wanted to know WHY! and to this day I have never gotten the answer. While I do sometimes reflect and still wonder why,I am totally over him. '

What I can promise you is tht time is the greatest healer. So allow yourself to grieve, but know that one day you will be over it.

RE: help??? am I ready to date???

Wow I knwo how you must feel to express everything in this BLOG.I too was once in a similar situation like yours, see my BLOGs and I think the worst part was that it really ruined my self esteem for the first time in my life. I am usually a strong independent woman, but having my man of two years walk out on me made my world come crashing down. it really hurt and took some time but time is really the magic potion that and a close realtionship with GOD. Pray and talk to whom ever you serve. Things will work out. But truly you need to get yourself busy by either seeing other ppl.Doesnt have to be any thing deep its too early, but it will help you take your mind off things. Too much free time will kill you. But dont waste your life on this guy when he has moved on.

RE: long distance also can find true love

Hey thanks for that story. I think it just gives those ppl people who want to give up a glimmer of hope. No it is not going to happen to every body who is looking for online romance but the point is that it may.When I was much younger I was involved in a lond distance relationship with the one person in my life who I really ever loved. But because we were younger then and depending on our parents, it was difficult to communicate by telephone, because rates were significantly higher, and therefore after a while communication was lost.

But now it is much easier and cheaper to communicate and keep in touch with a person if you think you made a connection. Often times the logistics of woving, leaving family memebers behind and changing jobs may be challenging if one party decides to join the other. But in the long run if your happiness is at stake and you feel that you have found teh right person,it may just be worth it.

RE: sometimes tired of having a fake strength

Hey desy

You did not let on as to what exactly is causing you so much pain.That's a start. is it work, school,male problems, financial. What is it? You sound like you really could do with a friend or someone to confide in.Cryingalso helps

I know I felt just as you did two months ago when my bf sent me packing.It was the lowest periodof my life, but I started to pray more and hange out with my friends and thats how I dealt with it. In life we all have to go thru challenging times and its that that really helps us to be stronger more resiliant individulas. So think of this as a phase and try to figure out what God is trying to teach you until you are able to rise above. You will get there one day.

Bless