Jakarta being boring is a challenge itself, you just need to find a way to have fun with and in it, this may require you to give Jakarta a second look. Once you find right partner you will full-fill that emptiness.
Ok, you have the energy and just use it in your favor like finding the "right" guy or take time off..whatever works for you. Loooosing HOPE is a reaction of a condition but it should never be a conclusion or a reflection of potential.
RE: What does a man really want??
Every man his own equation, when the woman fits, he really wants her not to change.