I agree with what you say about silghtly older and older folk. Bad experiences, coming out of a long relationship etc. But at 18-20 when I was that age we were to busy socialising and trying to chat up "real" girls(very often failing)We were indestructable to knock-backs.
I have found that ladies, some of whom I have know for years seem to treat me slightly different. Whether I imagine it or not I haven't made up my mind. It's as if when I was married I was safe and now that I am single I might make a pass at them.
I would not make a mistake like that. I would certainly be aware of what my kids would see( if I wandered into that situation) and make sure they were not distressed by it. Probably give them a good explanation and at the least they would have a laugh. Not just drag them away saying "don't look" or isn't "that disgusting" nudity should never be disgusting
When I was courting my wife. Sunday afternoon at her parents. Kissing scene cam on sunday afternoon movie - mother put kettle on and father hid behind the newspaper.
Go forward 20 years with my kids - whatever came on the screen I did not react. And if they noticed and asked a question I answered as honestly as I could suitable for their age.
What you need is a change of scene and maybe some new friends. Either that or a public declaration that you are no longer content to be single.
Among your friends/colleages/family you are probably known as single and carefree and anyone looking for a long-term relationship has probably got the message before now to look elsewhere.
The only advice I can give is get to know as many new people as possible. "the one" is out there somewhere. So don't give up - he won't find you if you are hiding.
In truth, they very much, in my opinion reduce their chances of finding someone. I never look at profiles without pictures but, 2 ladies have contacted me and we became very good friends. Photo's did follow very soon.
Much more annoying to me is the question of very much "younger" photo's - I certainly know how much I have changed in the last 20 years.
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RE: Wow ! Talk about 'sweet lies' lol
@ jimWhy don'y you do exactly what they ask/want. Give us all a running commentary. Sort of social experiment.