But children are seen as assets, you know this Phoenix, we have discussed it, you see, they are there for the cash and used as emotional missiles and our draconian laws cannot stop that.
People state if parents are sensible, only takes one half of the couple to begin alienating the children and that is it, the courts can do nothing, the parents who is alienated can do nothing, the target parent is powerless and that makes me ill.
I have seen it, worked with it, fathers and mothers who have no relationship with their children, because of their ex partner's bitterness.
That is what happens, not to all, but their is a high proportion of divorces where this happens.
I have severed two relationships in my life and that is enough for me. Three children now suffer for this action but it would only have gotten worse if I didn't terminate the relationships. Imagine every day at work having your children dropped off so your significant other can go out to her friends and the bars to party up the life she suddenly believes she missed out on. Two years of this and the children only aged well enough to ask where mom was every night? No infidelity (until the last few months) but plenty of drugs and alcohol. Or imagine coming home from a 12 hour shift (at least twice a week) to find a party going on in your home. Your children look into your face and ask what's for supper at 7:00PM. You ask them what they had to eat all day and they show you some candy bags and wrappers. The parties get worse and suddenly you are the sole caregiver for a half dozen relatives who have conveniently moved themselves in. No incomes, but more bad habits than you can shake a stick at.
Hindsight is 20/20 but if I could have lived this in reverse I would most assuredly have not had any children.
In my case drugs and alcohol were the direct cause. And I still hurt for my children to this very day. You'd think these women would need a free 'baby sitter' once in a while, but they refuse any and all access to my children until I bring them to court, then they comply for a few months until it all begins again.
I feel for all the children in sorry situations like this. Just grateful to see others who have separated, manage some civility and sense. The only ones who can prophit or lose from this are the children.[/quote
Sommerauer71 Forum Posts (12,414)
back at you. 
RE: why do we divorce
But children are seen as assets, you know this Phoenix, we have discussed it, you see, they are there for the cash and used as emotional missiles and our draconian laws cannot stop that.People state if parents are sensible, only takes one half of the couple to begin alienating the children and that is it, the courts can do nothing, the parents who is alienated can do nothing, the target parent is powerless and that makes me ill.
I have seen it, worked with it, fathers and mothers who have no relationship with their children, because of their ex partner's bitterness.
That is what happens, not to all, but their is a high proportion of divorces where this happens.