If folk here assume you have lied then that is their problem.
I have a problem with sleuths who pick up on everything, it is impossible to write everything down in these places.
You see, I cannot expect all to think like me, I would have chosen a private mail to clarify the situation, not to shout about it in public.
Defend, clarify, what about discresion? To save a person from having to clarify, defend in public.
I was shocked when I read that, I have spent many years on message boards, running them too, and people never cease to amaze me with their lack of social and empathy skills.
Apologies Smoky, I feel quite strongly about this, bad judgement to point this out in such a manner, I have been guilty of that before. But I soon learnt my lesson.
The attraction, any personal impediments can be overcome, if they cannot then of course that is a whole different boardgame.
I agree that in real life things take less time, although, online banking is much quicker than going into the branch.
You see, maybe I am luckier than others, who knows, I am the one willing to travel, when asked, I am the one willing to spend the time making the call, I am of the mind that if I like a person, then I will put the effort in, I am well aware of what prevents dropping of everything for a visit.
I am a generous person, with my emotions, time and with the right person, a whole lot of other things, but honestly, when a person blows hot and cold and then drops off, it just pains me a tad.
The reason for the split were nothing to do with the distance initially.
We were together for three and a half years.
Three travelling around seeing each other at weekends because of business, but we kept the first six months going with email and calls and a couple of visits when work allowed.
You see, I am the main wage earner, in the parenting of our children, not my ex husband, so work provides for them.
So I am in essence what many men have to do, that is work alot to provide for his children, whilst my ex is at home as much as he can.
My work takes me many places, I travel, I work three different jobs, until my children have finished full time education, then that will be the case, but I am flexible and do not expect that a person will slot into my schedule, difference with me, is that I am willing to make an effort, sadly not many people are.
I think I understand you, my knowledge is limited to the UK: That I do know about.
I had to buy my ex husband out of house, so that meant he could provide a roof for our children, I kept the marital home which then became mine solely, and the mortgage.
But, what happened was this, he was still on the title deeds, I looked into this, because we had purchased it together as a married couple.
Luckily for me, when I sat one evening, thinking all of this through, I realised that he was still on the asset, but had been removed from the liability.
I sat up and realised, which my brief had not pointed out, that I was responsible for the whole mortgage, but if I sold the house he could still have 50%of the profit.
So, I fired my brief and represented myself, I got his name of the deeds, the house was mine, I had bought him out, so he had his initial investment back and then some.
The law is convulated, a sharp eye is needed and even lawyers cannot always be relied upon to get it right.
Immauelles' option is to get the divorce sorted out, whether that will be in Canada I do not know, for some reason the financial thing does not add up because she is not living there, but that may well be the case.
We had children too and that makes a difference and can drag it out, but the pain and drama was curtailed because I was the main wage earner, I paid him off in a lump sum, with caveats attached that we would not pay each other child support, as we have the children 50-50.
There are many ways a divorce and monies go, it is what the parties are willing to agree to, the law is flexible, mine was settled on the court steps.
Immauelle, I am interested in why this frees both of you from financial obligation to each other, this will only happen (in the UK) if there are no assets, or if this has been agreed by both parties for a quicker split.
I only know UK law with regards to separation and divorce.
Even if there are no assets or each party is not seeking ancillary relief, then as long as the ancillary hearing has been heard and stamped by the judge, then anything after that, as kamelia states that has not been purchased with means from the marital pot, then that home should be yours, as both of you need to have a home to live in.
Immanuelle, it is difficult as we are not legal people, I would state that if the paper has been stamped that you have no financial obligation to each other then you should be safe. But remember this is an estimation.
Legal separation in the UK is a legal status, but until the ancillary relief hearing has been heard, then it is worth nothing.
This depends on what has been agreed in Canada, whether there has been any hearing in NL; also depends on where you were married and where you have lived as that married couple.
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