Hi Lovingmassage, hope you are feeling better and that recovery is going well.
I have to say, I find your comment contrary.
You would not have children, with her which is fine! It is the 'but that depends on what she wants' Bit I am concerned about, because it sounds like that you would not want children, but then whatever she wanted would be dependent on her say.
Whilst I believe it is the woman's decision to follow through with a pregnancy, again men do get a raw deal.
I see it as a lack of control, I like control. Same as fidelity, cleanliness and gorgeous to boot.
I like a person who is passionate about music, and dancing and can dance, not to raves ina nightclub, but real dancing.
There are many traits to a person's character, strengths and weaknesses, I am a pretty tolerant person, I just do not take any crap, I can take most things.
So weakenessess and strengths I accept. Apart from the ones I have mentioned!
jbibiza's brother is happy, not about leaving his mother's skirt for his wife's.
Some people are nurturers and carers and some people like to be taken care of.
There is nothing wrong with that.
Do you not like to take care of your guy?
I do, I like it, I enjoy it. I gain a great deal of pleasure from it, as does this young man's wife, does not mean that any guy I take up with is weak and hen pecked, it means that if he wants to go and earn money that I would take care of the house, if he wanted to then I would go and earn money and if we both want to then we both do our share.
You may need to rethink your views, because I think you may find with your opinions that many men would be put off.
You have mentioned that you dislike a man such as this. What sort of man would you like?
I cannot speak for Ambrose, but I could not be with a person who was financially irresponsible.
It just does not work for me, I can cope with a spender, as long as he has it, I can cope with a frugal man as long as he is open about it, but lack of responsibility shows me that a person has no self control or respect.
I see my earnings and what I have achieved, as a priviledge and I would not allow that to be washed away.
So I would not want a person who is massively in debt.
Well I am completely reckless and I like some physical chemistry, somebody whose clothes I can rip off.
I am not a thin, smoking, hot blonde.
I am an attractive, neat, brunette, who takes care of herself, likes a glass of vino coll;apso, yet exercises plenty and likes sport.
I eat food too.
But I like to keep my weight at a certain level. Not obsessive about it, I feel better about myself if I am at my ideal weight.
I am not treated as an unwanted citizen, I am single, work hard and play hard.
If a man drops into my life then fine, if not then still fine.
But I like physical appearance, clean shaven and no piercings, or lots of tattoos, a man that can take my breath away in a dinner suit and smells gorgeous.
However, if I was getting to know a person, I would ask him about his exes, because I think it is important, to find put about a person, if a person refuses to talk, then I would look at that two ways, one he is over it, or he may be so hurt he cannot talk about it.
We talk about our exes here, why would we not do that with a potential partner?
I got to know a man on here, in the early days, he was handsome, but when I talked to him, he was clearly battered about his ex girlfriend.
So, I let him talk, was interested, he emailed me, and I get the odd email now to say how he is doing.
Would he have been a potential partner? Could have been, would I have still emailed him, had he continued a more frequent approach? I suspect so.
But I never thought he was abusive, I thought he was lonely and needed an ear to make it all easier to negotiate.
I am a staunch believer in keeping children's relationships with people alive, regardless of what I feel about the people.
I cannnot bear my ex in laws, but they are great Grandparents, I would never erode a warm, natural, loving relationship. Because, I do not have the right to take my children's rights away from them.
But you know, you are the parent too here, so you can take the lead, do not bury yourself in not being able to forgive her, channel that energy into your son, show him these people, it is not too late, help him learn about his family and what they were about.
It will not help your son, you not forgiving his mother, but it will help him if he can get to know what his family were about.
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RE: Acceptable and Not Acceptable Weakness !
Hello lovely.The man.
Because I like control in him.
Hope all; is well with you and your family and Gongman.