I think the first date should be something fun, maybe renting a canoe for an hour or so, a picnic and then a long walk that would lend the opportunity to hold hands, continue talking and maybe even a kiss or two.
I have dated some older men (older than me by 7 - 10 or so years). I don't recall the age being a factor. Seems to me the attraction to a person is either there or it's not. The age difference wasn't a factor in the break ups either - sometimes things just don't work out.
I can't say that I would be looking for a 25 year old male - but then again, I'll never say never. Besides that hasn't been an issue so far so I'm not going to worry about it.
I think the important thing is that the contact is made - who makes the 'initial' contact is irrelevant. The interest has to be from both people - it can't just be one of them queuing the other all of the time. Besides, if we waited for men to make the first move some things would probably never happen, would they?
Are we ever really 100% sure of a future with someone? In that particular situation - gifted with 20/20 hindsight (as we all are) things worked out the way they were intended. He married a number of years back to a lady that owned a saddlery shop and I've remained single and moved 2 provinces away, at peace with myself and maybe even a little wiser.
My point here is that I think you still need to be willing to take a risk to be with someone that may well be your 'right person', but if things don't feel quite right, you have concerns about the situation (maybe with how much they are asking you to compromise) then you need to have some idea of your 'limits'. And, I guess, if things can't be worked out - be willing to walk away.
What's the worst that can happen? My heart's already been broke, I've already dated jerks - and I'm still here. You have to be willing to take a chance to find out if they're the right person for you.
I'm not scared of falling in love. I would love to fall in love - I don't think it's happened yet. I am scared of falling out of love. But I guess that's a risk that I'm willing to take for the right guy...
I have a sister that is finding that out. 21 years of marriage and two kids and they've filed for divorce. Christmas was fun this year - I should have been wearing a whistle and a striped shirt....
I don't believe all the good ones are married. It's unfortunate that when you are getting to know someone it would seem that one of the questions you have to ask them is if they are married. I can relate to what's been said here, a lot of flirting and then the temporary amnesia seems to lift....
Scottish and Polish. Dad was born in Scotland and there are some ties in that part of the family to William Wallace (Braveheart). Grandparents on Mom's side were born in Poland but she was born here. I've been digging into the really old stuff on Scotland (Mom's side is really hard to find anything out) and other family members are keeping up with the newer things.
This particular situation brought a few other things to light. He figured I could keep my job in the city (as I was working for an oil company at the time) but live with him, then on weekends we could do couples pack trips and I could be chief cook and bottle washer for the whole parade. Woo hoo! The kicker on this was that every other weekend I could jingle horses for guests to ride on the trips (you saddle up and go find the lead mare who has a bell around her neck, catch her and bring her in and all the other horses follow her - I figured out that she has this bell because you're out there in the middle of nowhere at 4 a.m. and it's dark!) I realised I wasn't willing to live in a bunkhouse through the summer and the foreman's house through the winter. We eventually broke up.
It would have been different, I think, if it had been our ranch, his ranch or my ranch. I guess I just wasn't willing to 'jingle' for somebody else....
If someone special asked you to change your lifestyle for them - would you? Maybe we can use the distance thing here too, say you live in a big city and they live in the country - just far enough away so that you usually see each other only on the weekends. Then he wants you to work with him on the weekends (under the guise of spending even more time together) - oh, he worked on a guest ranch for somebody else. This is a situation that happened to me a number of years back and I'm curious as to what other people would have done in that situation.
I am who I am too. The person described on my profile here is who I am. Yes, it maybe is a little easier to say some things with the keypad but I speak my mind anyway - so that's no different. I learned a long time ago that you're true colors will come out - and if you are less than honest it will come back and bite you. There's no point in being false here - no benefit to anyone by being anything less than honest and open. I just hope that the majority of others on here feel the same way - but unless you meet them - I guess you'll never know.
Whether someone goes to church or not is no indication of the type of person they are or how they'll treat people.
I was raised Catholic but don't follow it anymore. I know of too many 'devouts' who went out and raised hell on Saturday nights and were still in church on Sunday mornings.
I had a friend who met someone on the Internet and it resulted in her divorcing her husband. She said she left because of this other person. From the outside looking in, I could see that they were having problems in their marriage long before that.
The part that Internet played in it was that it allowed her to find men who would pay attention to her/listen and talk with her - something her husband wasn't doing. I think it started out innocently enough, when she felt like talking she would call me or go on the net. She wouldn't talk to her husband.
In my opinion, the Internet did play a factor in her divorce but the problems were already there.
blueeyes2012 Forum Posts (256)
RE: THE PERFECT FIRST DATE....FUN OR ROMANTIC?
I think the first date should be something fun, maybe renting a canoe for an hour or so, a picnic and then a long walk that would lend the opportunity to hold hands, continue talking and maybe even a kiss or two.