A close girl friend (Miss Lovely) called me today. She has been seeing a guy (called Mr Easyride) for two years now. He is separated, has two children in their teens. They live with their mother 400 km North from him.
Actually the younger still lives with the mother, the other has gone to boarding school and is very happy there.
Now Miss Lovely (my g/f) is highly educated, holds down a full time job, is a mother of two and separated as well.
The relationship between Miss Lovely and Mr Easyride has its ups and downs as every relationship.
They don’t live with each other. He has a small place of his own. She has her place with the kids
One major issue rearing its head every once in a while, is caused by his laziness organizing quality time with Miss Lovely.
She: manages her teenage kids, works full-time, holds seminars on the weekend studies a/h
He: works full time.
When it comes planning trips he wants as well, it’s always her suggesting the destination, researching, organizing, planning, booking, and ending up paying her fare, expenses, dinners. I am talking of weekend trips, or the odd longer trip. Never he invites her and hardly ever he pays for a meal.
A week ago he said his kids were going to spend their summer holiday with their mother in Sth America.
He asked Mis Lovely (his G/f) to select a destination (do planning etc as usual) for a holiday with him. Time away two weeks. His reasoning, as to why he couldn’t do the trip planning himself was his exhaustion.
She manages her teenage kids, works full-time, holds seminars on the weekend studies a/h
He works full time.
She spent minimum 8 hours spread over several days planning a vacation he had suggested. The day they wanted to discuss it he rang to say, he cant make it. Sth America wont be on the cards for the kids, things changed, and now he will be taking his kids on a trip to Korea for the first two weeks of his leave. (Korea! a place she always wanted to visit with him.) At any rate, she could plan a trip with him for the six days following his return.
A close girl friend (Miss Lovely) called me today. She has been seeing a guy (called Mr Easyride) for two years now. He is separated, has two children in their teens. They live with their mother 400 km North from him.
Actually the younger still lives with the mother, the other has gone to boarding school and is very happy there.
Now Miss Lovely (my g/f) is highly educated, holds down a full time job, is a mother of two and separated as well.
The relationship between Miss Lovely and Mr Easyride has its ups and downs as every relationship.
They don’t live with each other. He has a small place of his own. She has her place with the kids
One major issue rearing its head every once in a while, is caused by his laziness organizing quality time with Miss Lovely.
She: manages her teenage kids, works full-time, holds seminars on the weekend studies a/h
He: works full time.
When it comes planning trips he wants as well, it’s always her suggesting the destination, researching, organizing, planning, booking, and ending up paying her fare, expenses, dinners. I am talking of weekend trips, or the odd longer trip. Never he invites her and hardly ever he pays for a meal.
A week ago he said his kids were going to spend their summer holiday with their mother in Sth America.
He asked Mis Lovely (his G/f) to select a destination (do planning etc as usual) for a holiday with him. Time away two weeks. His reasoning, as to why he couldn’t do the trip planning himself was his exhaustion.
She manages her teenage kids, works full-time, holds seminars on the weekend studies a/h
He works full time.
She spent minimum 8 hours spread over several days planning a vacation he had suggested. The day they wanted to discuss it he rang to say, he cant make it. Sth America wont be on the cards for the kids, things changed, and now he will be taking his kids on a trip to Korea for the first two weeks of his leave. (Korea! a place she always wanted to visit with him.) At any rate, she could plan a trip with him for the six days following his return.
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His easy ride
A close girl friend (Miss Lovely) called me today.She has been seeing a guy (called Mr Easyride) for two years now.
He is separated, has two children in their teens.
They live with their mother 400 km North from him.
Actually the younger still lives with the mother, the other has gone to boarding school and is very happy there.
Now Miss Lovely (my g/f) is highly educated, holds down a full time job, is a mother of two and separated as well.
The relationship between Miss Lovely and Mr Easyride has its ups and downs as every relationship.
They don’t live with each other.
He has a small place of his own.
She has her place with the kids
One major issue rearing its head every once in a while, is caused by his laziness organizing quality time with Miss Lovely.
She:
manages her teenage kids,
works full-time,
holds seminars on the weekend
studies a/h
He:
works full time.
When it comes planning trips he wants as well, it’s always her suggesting the destination, researching, organizing, planning, booking, and ending up paying her fare, expenses, dinners.
I am talking of weekend trips, or the odd longer trip.
Never he invites her and hardly ever he pays for a meal.
A week ago he said his kids were going to spend their summer holiday with their mother in Sth America.
He asked Mis Lovely (his G/f) to select a destination (do planning etc as usual) for a holiday with him.
Time away two weeks.
His reasoning, as to why he couldn’t do the trip planning himself was his exhaustion.
She
manages her teenage kids,
works full-time,
holds seminars on the weekend
studies a/h
He
works full time.
She spent minimum 8 hours spread over several days planning a vacation he had suggested.
The day they wanted to discuss it he rang to say, he cant make it.
Sth America wont be on the cards for the kids, things changed, and now he will be taking his kids on a trip to Korea for the first two weeks of his leave.
(Korea! a place she always wanted to visit with him.)
At any rate, she could plan a trip with him for the six days following his return.
Now I ask you; How do you think she is feeling?
What should she do to change the pattern?