Personality-wise, the first thing that attracts me is how a man listens, if he's really hearing & paying attention & responding, or is just trying to wait out the boring talk and figure out whether to make a move.
Looks-wise, it is the mouth for me teeth, lips, smile, little expressions that come and go in the blink of an eye.
Biggest turn off is bitterness/ anger- usually hidden under a thin veneer of "nice", but emerges pretty quickly. Often it is to do with the person's ex, or relationships in general.
Moustaches aren't my thing either, unless its for Movember.
Bvlgari Rose for day and Bvlgari for night. I pretty much love all the scents they do, for men and women. I have to ration them as I wait for family to get them for me duty-free, or drop heavy hints in the lead up to Xmas!
Yes, I think it matters- you need to be at the same stage in your life (career & travel/ kids & home / empty nest & working / retired) and have similar cultural inputs to your view of the world. My parameters are around 5 years each way. It might be "ageist" of me but I feel uncomfortable even seeing couples with huge age gaps- if your partner looks like your parent, it feels a little ick to me. (Michael Douglas & Catherine Zeta Jones springs to mind.)However, I'm sure it can work for some people.
Exactly. Seems like its all us ladies here who have born the brunt of the frivolous one- I've been caught (newborn in arms) with no way to pay for the groceries too, while my ex lived it up playing golf and drinking, never mind he had no job for more than 2 months at a stretch and never paid a bill for anything, ever.
Actually I'm the opposite- I'm tall and curvy and I like feeling like a pocket person. I don't like feeling like I could squash a guy if I rolled on him. Yep, silly and superficial, but I'll bet I'm not the only woman who feels like this.
I used to work with people with Alzheimers. It was a common behaviour management trick to calm someone who was agitated or upset. Using a loud tone makes agitated, confused people feel defensive and act out but whispering feels non-threatening and they usually automatically focused and calmed down, and quite oftem whispered back. I've tried it on my 5 year old and it has worked a few times, tskes the cranky down a few notches
AAAgh! I want to go! No chance, so have an extra great time for me Three Imaginary Boys was the first vinyl album I ever bought for myself! yeah, a LONG time ago
Love the set up, love the flowers ( I send a lot, am I meant to?) and LOVE the forums. Too far away for the nights out, but this is loads more fun than uni assignments! Oh yeah, and that love business. Can but hope.
Thanks for the welcome! It's interesting, a few different takes on the idea there. It is still a bit odd to me, because no one ever writes "I'm a prejudiced snob who expects to be treated like royalty!" and in fact I reckon it is rare to meet people like that. I find most people are happy to meet new friends and pretty accepting, (except if someone is really dirty and smells like they never wash- we all judge a bit then don't we!) and loads of people are more shy than I think. However, it could be different in the big cities, Lonnie is pretty laid back.
Hi to all! Nice to meet everyone, I've been reading the forums for a week so I feel like I've met some of you already!
So here is the question: I have read a lot of profiles, and so many people call themselves "down to earth". What does it really mean? Not trying to insult people here, I really don't know. Is it about clothes? Money? Friendliness level? Hobbies? Gardening? What do you think?
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but this is loads more fun than uni assignments!
love business. Can but hope.
RE: First thing that attracts you to someone
Personality-wise, the first thing that attracts me is how a man listens, if he's really hearing & paying attention & responding, or is just trying to wait out the boring talk and figure out whether to make a move.
Looks-wise, it is the mouth for me