Great point Morgan. I have posted on this topic before but it seems the tolerance level is non existent. I thought it was hilarious when I read a post last night from someone for whom English is not their first language. They have difficulty putting a sentence together and had the neck to correct someone on a spelling mistake.
I have just read your post and read through the thread from last night. You have explained yourself, even though I don't believe you had to. It is obvious from your post that you were at a very low point in your life and a little bit of attention was just what you needed at that time. You did not aggressively chase after someone else's husband. Forgive yourself for being lonely and vulnerable. You are human. He is to blame. He deceived YOU, and he is the one that made the vows to his wife, not you.
I admire you for being open about the relationship. You would think that the majority of people here are separated or divorced because of absolutely no fault of their own. No one ever admits to being a liar, cheat, gambler, alcoholic or woman/man beater.
I could never stay at home all day. Ideally part time or job share would be great. It would give me more time to do the things I enjoy doing.
Also I am very independent and could never rely on anyone else for money. I choose how I spend my money and don't have to explain myself when I spend too much.
That would be very childish behavior, to be bothered who people like or talk to. This is a forum on the internet. People talk to each other or don't. If I was to be bothered who was talking to who then I obviously would have a very sad life with nothing else to bother me.
Everyone judges people, but some are more judgmental than others.
It like first impressions. We see or come into contact with someone and immediately make a choice on weather there is any point of going further with it. In cs we may take more time to get to know someone only to find later on that they are not someone who you want to spend time with and it works the opposite way too, We may have dismissed someone as not my type only to discover that they are really worth getting to know. In real life judging is made all the time. How someone is dressed and presents themselves is the first thing we have to go on. That homeless person is not someone who we are going to befriend and that drug user is a scum bag. The guy in the suit must be worth a look or the girl with the education is surely has to be nice. Because someone has not been successful in life does not mean they are not nice people. And what is success anyway, it means different things to different people.
Yes I judge people but not for things that are beyond their control and I try not to be judgmental,although in my younger years I would have been guilty of that a lot.
I go with my instincts. I try to give people a chance but I stay back a bit until I am more sure that they are what they say they are.
You wont be going home for a while. I am taking you to Ireland with me for a bit and we can chill out down in west cork. Believe me, you will have the time of your life
For anyone with paranoid thoughts, I would just like to state that just because I don't talk to you does not mean I am your enemy. Nor does it mean I am conspiring against you. Seriously cs is part of my life, not my world. And if we have never had a conversation or exchanged mails or flowers it does not matter. I see you, I hear you, I don't always have to reply, I don't even read most of the threads.
lorraine Forum Posts (2,717)
RE: How useful is a woman that can't cook in a relationship?
Probably as useful as a man who does not know how to use the washing machine.