EratoTheMuse Forum Posts (33)

RE: "Grab a granny"

I'm in those areas but I have NOoooooo clue as to where a good watering hole for those who are not quite ready for hip replacements but past being "hip". :-D

RE: does age matter to an older more mature women age 35-50 ?

Have to agree with Jill on that

RE: what to you think about being friends with someone who has a disability

My point exactly Jim.
The attitude of a person has nothing to do with whether they're disabled or not. AS it is with everything.
As far as I see, the only one making a huge deal about her disability is herself. Nobody else said a thing about it. Which makes me wonder....has she accepted her disability?

RE: Being threatened to be banned off of a site

Nobody threatened anyone. The words were mentioned as a word of caution for continual angry posts containing rudeness to other members.

Of course, it's also a waste of time me, or anyone else, pointing out the obvious because you're only prepared to see things one way.....and that's your own vehement one.

There's a part of me that really wants to reach out and hug you because you seem to so badly need it. Your anger at the world is clearly eating at you.

But then the part of me that wonders how much of this is purely an act, a trolling, just shrugs you off and wonders whether it's best to just leave you to stew in your own overheated curry.

RE: what to you think about being friends with someone who has a disability

Was thinking the same thing Ccincy

RE: Do you believe in Love at first sight? :)

Not love at first sight.....lust, infatuation (mayyyyyybe), attraction sure...but not love. You cant love someone you don't know.

RE: what to you think about being friends with someone who has a disability

Kim I'm concerned that you're just a very angry person, especially given that yours is the only negative comments so far.

Not to mention exceedingly hypocritical.

You scream and rant and rave about discrimination and "we disabled people just want to be treated with respect and like everyone else", then in the same breath expect people to tiptoe and walk on eggshells and run the risk of somehow offending you if we even DARE to discuss people with disabilities.

I for one am thankful that the majority of people with disabilities who can communicate effectively happen to be the most giving, caring and warm hearted people you could hope to meet. It's just sad that that's ruined by the one or two such as yourself who see their disability as entitling them to special treatment.

Seriously...get off your high wheelchair and come down off your soap box and start acting like you aren't different and then maybe...just maybe people will react differently. The only person disrespecting you, and others with disabilities, is yourself.

RE: what percentage of women ,make the first move

I have to admit I never initiate(d) contact...back when I was actively looking. Now that I'm not looking at all I definitely aren't. and I too am slightly old fashioned in that I wait for men to approach me.

RE: What do you ladies think about my looks? jw

Cut your hair and wash it for crying out loud. You look like something the cat walked past as it dragged a mouse in.

RE: keeping to urself

Yes they do...they are here for forums lol

RE: Would you marry someone with a handicap/disability

lol well hereditary doesn't concern me as I cannot have and do not want any more kids anyway. And I'm actually not looking for a relationship with anyone at this stage, or maybe ever.

Well no, a motorbike ride as a first meet didn't seem appealing to me at all. I'm not that much into bikes to start with, and it didn't feel safe to me....I would be totally in someone elses hands and as a first meet with a stranger?....I'd rather I had some element of control...or at least a get away option lol

RE: Would you marry someone with a handicap/disability

When you put it like that yes I see what you mean. It certainly does depend on the disability. I still think.....if I'm being honest with myself, that any extra disability or challenge in my world would be something I may not be equipped to handle.

I was on another dating site some months back and was contacted by a gentleman who wished to meet with me. He first suggested a motorbike ride (first meet?) to which I was not ready for, then he suggested taking our kids (his and mine) somewhere. But he has...two autistic boys. That was a deal breaker for me, simply because of my own son. Imagine having a relationship with 3 disabled kids in the mix? It's not me, I may be strong but I'm not that strong. And it would be the same with a partner having a disability.
If my circumstances were different then no doubt my answer would be different.

RE: Would you marry someone with a handicap/disability

I know what you mean Dobe. My son is an angel...for the most part. His air of innocence certainly makes people fall in love with him in an instant. And I know any parent of a disabled child will say the same when they say they are our angels, our gifts and we learn SO much from them.
But every parent of a disabled or handicapped child will also tell you that it comes with a tonne of sacrifices, a truckload of extra challenges and at times....undeniable stress.
My comment or response is purely me being totally honest with myself. I simply know my limits and they're stretched. I also don't say things I don't mean to placate feelings or avoid someone potentially taking offence to the truth. Truth is....I'm far from a shallow person but I sat down and really looked at this question and asked myself..would I?....and I also expected myself to be honest about it. If that entails people jumping on me for it then so be it.

RE: Would you marry someone with a handicap/disability

well that will learn me for posting before morning coffee.....delete the "yes you did" and replace with "no you didn't" LOL

RE: Would you marry someone with a handicap/disability

Automatically? maybe not....I just know I have enough on my plate in that regard. Is it a crime to say....I have enough on my plate and wouldn't wish to take on more? It's honesty....crucify me for not lying and pretending it wouldn't matter lol

And angry lady...yes you did.

RE: Would you marry someone with a handicap/disability

She's certainly not helping her cause..

As to the question at hand....

No, I wouldn't. And that's not prejudice or discrimination, it's honesty.
I wouldn't because I already have a severely disabled son and there's enough stress right there thanks very much.
Guess that debunks any prejudice

RE: THANK GOD

Wash when I use the term "provoke thought" I refer to the postings of my own thoughts or observations for others to read, take something from if they wish to, or find something in them if they can, or not even any of that....maybe even to critique. Provoking thought is a far cry from telling people what to do or how to think. Nor is it an attempt to tell people what is right or wrong for them as I simply don't think that way to begin with.

If someone posts something that stimulates my thought processes, gets me thinking about things....then they've provoked my thoughts. Just as Conduit did here....it's a good thing!

RE: THANK GOD

Well thankyou Conduit!
I'm not a writer. I used to be a blogger on a large site and really enjoyed writing. Expressing thoughts, giving others food for thought. Perhaps I need to find some time to resume that lol

Thankyou once again for your comment, it's was exactly what I needed

RE: WHAT'S WITH RELIGON THREADS

Here here Curly lol

RE: THANK GOD

Halv Thankyou.....for being a gentleman and an intelligent one.

As for the OP.....tsk tsk.
I've always found people who deliberately post things to stir people up or cause controversy, rather borish and self serving. Not to mention it's a somewhat distasteful character trait....I mean flaw.

RE: THANK GOD

Contrary poster was contrary

RE: Strong women

Nature123, I'm curious as to why you don't think you're as strong as you thought you were?
Being brought to tears isn't a sign of weakness. Facing one's troubles and admitting that they sometimes overwhelm you, and allowing yourself to feel and give into it take courage and strength.

I know for myself, allowing myself to have moments, or days when I don't have to be the "strong" one, and allowing myself to fall; gives me the strength to get back up afterwards. You cant get back up unless you have somewhere to fall to in the first place.

RE: Pondering Life

It's been my experience that those with the greatest inner strength, wisdom and awareness tend to be those who've suffered greatly. It's almost like trauma or extreme hardship flips the switch on empathy and understanding, and the ability to put oneself in another shoes.
It also show you that if you can survive such things, then you can survive anything. Once you realise that, the small things just don't seem to matter so much.

This is dependent on the individual though, and their inherent nature and personality to begin with. Not everyone who suffers will have the capability to learn from it and grow. And although I'm sure there are people who've not suffered or experienced undue hardship in one way or another, who do possess substance, depth and character, but they would be extremely rare.

Good thoughtful post.

RE: Your life

Travel,

Experience being loved, and I mean truly loved

and see snow

RE: Hi everyone, i'm kind of new to this!

Hiya Jim, I'm relatively new as well so I'm currently lulling everybody into a false sense of security.

RE: What Telly Adds do you hate most

yep yep I made it!
So far so good, nobody's freaked me out so much I want to hide yet lol

RE: What Telly Adds do you hate most

Haha if I had room in my place I'd ask for some to be dropped here lol

RE: Introducing a friend :)

I guess it completely depends on the spice

RE: A question for the guys - How is the response rate to your messages sent to ladies on Connecting Sin

There's women that do that?

Well I'll be damned....


In a sense I can hardly blame them when statistically there's a higher number of men on dating sites than there is women. I guess it allows them to pick and choose more. And let's face it, not everyone is compatible, why set yourself up with someone you don't connect with on any level to begin with?

Please don't be offended by this as it's not meant to be offensive but..
I've been online for a long time, as in years. And my observations over the years have shown me that a lot of men have this silly notion that just because they pay you some attention, you should be grateful for that attention and should henceforth fall at your knees for them because they chose you above everyone else.

As bad as it is I honestly think dating sites are geared more for the women than the men as women can and DO pick and choose and barely even have to initiate contact. Sadly this means the men have to be the assertive ones and be the ones to send out the messages. Hate to break it to people but the old instinct of man chase woman is still very much how it is. Although thankfully we've evolved from the clubbing her over the head and dragging her off into the cave....I think

RE: Introducing a friend :)

LOL I wonder if that's a good or a bad thing?